I have actually had two threesomes, both with my husband (boyfriend/ FWB at the times) and they were both really awkward. I wasn't jealous, like I thought I would be, but I did wind up feeling bad for the other girls because it all boiled down to him really just wanting to have sex with me! XD As it turned out, Caleb liked the IDEA of a threesome, but not so much the actual three-some. He didn't like seeing me with another woman, and he felt wrong doing things in front of me with another woman, so it was just epic awkward failure all-around.

On a side note- If we ever do decide to do it again, I think one choice we would make would be to go to a local swinger/fantasy club and choose to do it with another couple or woman which we don;t know in a personal setting. I think one of the reasons it was so awkward is the people we chose to include. For right now though were enjoying monogamy.

Also, I really think you and your man should have some in-depth discussions about it, and evaluate where you stand. I think it takes a strong couple to be able to make it through a threesome without viewing it as infidelity. Can you keep the sex separate from your emotions? How would he feel seeing you have sex with another man? Is there equality between you on that matter? Consider the person, is it a close friend? Do you want to risk your friendship with them? Would you be more comfortable with someone who is more a stranger? There is a lot of discussion and consideration that needs to take place I believe before making such a move. less

I am with you on the whole sticking his cock in someone else. This is the part of the fantasy that is not happening when we have a threesome, if we do. I have already made it very clear. Oral is fine, but vaginal sex, she could get pregnant. We are not paying out child support to someone, that would be awful, luckily he agrees. I think the threesome idea sounds fun, but realistically is not as fun. There are too many things to actually consider. less

lol @ the awkwardness... i think it's possible that we could end up with the same predicament. the IDEA of the 3some is hot but he may not like seeing me with another gal in reality.


in fact, he was so drunk at the club that when he saw me making out with her, which i made sure he could see (this was for HIS enjoyment too, you know) he got all jealous. cock blocking and everything! when he sobered up he said oh i wasn't jealous at all, thought it was hot... but i'm like, kiddo i know you. and i know your jealous face. and you were not happy.


we're getting with her this weekend too. she's an acquaintance, becoming more of a friend. but she live far enough away that i wouldn't have to see her if things got weird. less

true.. there's alot to consider. STDs for one. i said it's fine if she sucks him off... but he has to wear a condom. and best if he switches the condom before fucking her with it.

she has an IUD but already has 2 kids... though they happened while mid-birth control switch and when she let a guy come right up in her. young folks make mistakes. she's not so young now. we're the same age, at least.


i guess we'll kind of see how things go. we're both so shy it may never actually happen. only time will tell. less

*background story.
(skip to below if you just want the discussion question without the backstory)


my boy and i recently have finally found a gal to be our third, it seems, if just for a night. we all got so freaking drunk the other night and the gal was really into dancing dirty, making out with me, grinding on him, etc.... we even got her back to our house but by that time we were mostly sobered up, and he and i were both too damn shy to make a move, didn't wanna scare her off!

anywho, the next night he and i have really hot sex talking about how hot it would be to do her together. until this point the fantasy has been mostly him just watching me fuck another girl, fuck me during it... maybe let her suck his dick.
i've never seriously considered letting him actually stick his dick in another gal - couldn't handle it. the fantasy was for his enjoyment mostly (though i do have a huge thing for gals)

but during our fantasizing, he starts talking about how much he wants to feel her pussy. at first i'm really turned on by it --- the thought of someone else wanting him, enjoying his cock, how hot it'd be to see him that pleasured, knowing it was me who was allowing this pleasure for him...


but then in the middle of sex it just hit me, some jealousy. and fears - what if he fell in love with her? what if he wanted her for his GF? i started feeling real shitty. talked to him about it of course, but it got me wondering...



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for you guys, what has kept you or almost kept you from having a 3some? what have some of your fears or apprehensions been?
did you find when/if you actually went through with the 3some that the apprehensions were unfounded, or reaffirmed?

thanks for sharing. i'd really like to have one in my life with my boy, but am not sure i'm ready. your feedback is appreciated.


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