We never break it up into "Foreplay" and "The Main Event." We go back and forth between oral, manual, toys, some toy play WITH oral sex, a little PIV, some more oral, pull out the Wahl, so I can have my first orgasm, and he helps, he goes down as soon as I start to come the first time, when that tapers off, he gets some more head (and I often have an other orgasm while doing this) then some more PIV,(hopefully I'll come again) some rolling around and stroking, one of us needs a drink of water, and it reminds the other to have a drink, some more oral,. maybe some more PIV for a few minutes, back to 69, then one of us (usually me) will have to go to the bathroom, then some more rolling around, then we often decide to engage in some anal, and then it may or may not be over. If he doesn't finish from anal, (I hope to again, also) he has to get cleaned up, and bring me a washcloth to clean up, then back to some more oral and maybe PIV. Then, we're tired, but toys have to be cleaned etc.
Damn, that can take hours, thank heavens.
Sex with two people with ADD.
This is our "3-5 times a week sex" the rest alternate between quickies in the morning and BJs or times when he just wants to get me off.