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When did you dub yourself no longer a virgin?

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Contributor: ss143 ss143
Didn't know if there was a post already on this topic

I know quite a few people including bf and I that dabbled in everything/something else before having vaginal sex. So I am curious with all the sexual activities out there when did you consider yourself having lost your virginity? Do/did you dub each orifice as having a separate virginity?

multiple choice for obvious reasons and its a private vote
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Oral sex for the first time
Anal sex for the first time
1
Vaginal for the first time
64
Other-explain if you chose
8
One virginity for me so anything sexual counts
5
Each opening has/had a different cherry to pop
3
Total votes: 81 (73 voters)
Poll is closed
06/26/2011
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Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
When talking to a gynecologist, vaginal sex is what counts. Otherwise, I think it's a mix... I think you can tell people that you're not a virgin anymore after you have a sexual encounter that you're happy with. Each opening and activity has it's own first, though, so it's always clearer to discuss which firsts you've had and which one's you're still waiting for.
06/26/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Vaginal for the first time with my best friend when I was really young.
06/26/2011
Contributor: ToyBoy ToyBoy
I think 90% of people consider vaginal sex to be when you lose your virginity. I think it is when you have any intercourse of any kind. Because if you are a gay guy, and have only had anal sex, nobody considers you a virgin. I lost my virginity when I had vaginal sex with a girl when I was 16.
06/26/2011
Contributor: Wondermom Wondermom
as a rape survivor I didn't count that as losing my virginity, I didn't lose it fully until I met my husband, even then we waited on PIV until 5mths before we married out of respect for his dad's position in the church for absolute birth control lol But then they lied and kicked him out so we said fuck it why wait now.
06/26/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
Guys have an ass and a dick
06/26/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
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Originally posted by LostBoy988
Guys have an ass and a dick
indeed they do
06/26/2011
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
After I had vaginal intercourse for the first time I didn't consider myself a virgin anymore.
06/26/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I considered myself not a virgin when I had sex with my now fiancee. It was my first time having vaginal sex.
06/26/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
when I had sex with a human male.
06/27/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by ss143
Didn't know if there was a post already on this topic

I know quite a few people including bf and I that dabbled in everything/something else before having vaginal sex. So I am curious with all the sexual activities out there when did you ... more
PIV. Everything else seemed to just be foreplay/play/making out as there was not chance of pregnancy.
06/27/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
As I am a female bodied heterosexual, I considered myself no longer a virgin the first time I had PIV sex. (Penis in vagina.) If I have been a lesbian, I think the definition would have been different.

I didn't count abuse. That isn't sex, that's evil control, power and non-consensual humiliation. It is not sex IMO.
06/27/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
As I am a female bodied heterosexual, I considered myself no longer a virgin the first time I had PIV sex. (Penis in vagina.) If I have been a lesbian, I think the definition would have been different.

I didn't count abuse. That isn't ... more
I agree abuse does not count and its sickening that people have to go through that.
06/27/2011
Contributor: C-Rae C-Rae
My girlfriend fingered me so hard she popped my cherry so I count that as when I lost my V-Card.. It was also my first time having sex
06/27/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
Quote:
Originally posted by C-Rae
My girlfriend fingered me so hard she popped my cherry so I count that as when I lost my V-Card.. It was also my first time having sex
WOW that was either an awesome or painful experience hopefully it was an awesome one
06/27/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by ss143
Didn't know if there was a post already on this topic

I know quite a few people including bf and I that dabbled in everything/something else before having vaginal sex. So I am curious with all the sexual activities out there when did you ... more
In truth, having any "penetration", oral, vaginal or anal, really, technically, makes you sexually experienced and thus "not a virgin". However, the real "term" meant having the hymen broken and very few woman, with sports and such in this era, have a fully intact hymen. They would "fail the test" as it were, in some countries where doctors still have to issue a "certificate of virginity" to the husband to be!!!
06/27/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Waterfall
After I had vaginal intercourse for the first time I didn't consider myself a virgin anymore.
I agree..that seems to be where folks of MY generation drew the line.
06/27/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
In truth, having any "penetration", oral, vaginal or anal, really, technically, makes you sexually experienced and thus "not a virgin". However, the real "term" meant having the hymen broken and very few woman, with ... more
That's why I didn't mention anything about the "traditional" virginity when the hymen is broken because I know from personal experience(falling on a boys bike when I was younger broke mine) that having your hymen intact doesn't equate "virgin"status. I was curious as to what people considered personally as no longer being a virgin. When I was in high school I knew many girls who would perform oral like it was going out of style so they could still remain a "virgin" and others who felt that as soon as they did anything sexual they were no longer a virgin even if they never had PIV.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
It's sort of fuzzy for me. I feel like I lost my virginity when I was intensely intimate with a very close friend of mine (female). There wasn't any penetration that I can recall (it was over half of my life ago...), but I didn't feel like a virgin after that.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
Virginity is paid way too much attention in society. My wife was a virgin and honestly I wish she had been around with a few men before me. She's the third virgin I had and I can say, it's over rated. For the men, you're going to be the starting bar for her on what's good sex for the rest of her life... a bar that will keep rising each time she gets more experianced leaving you further and further down. My wife and one girlfriend both believed "Losing my virginity is going to change my life." and then the next day were like "That was it? I'm still just the way I was yesterday... except now I'm in the club my friends are in."
06/28/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
If somebody asked me about losing my virginity, I would talk about the first time I had vaginal sex. Virginity isn't important to me though, and the first time my partner and I hooked up and brought each other to orgasm was a much bigger deal to me than the first time we had PIV sex.
06/28/2011
Contributor: Maeby Maeby
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Originally posted by Istanbull
Virginity is paid way too much attention in society. My wife was a virgin and honestly I wish she had been around with a few men before me. She's the third virgin I had and I can say, it's over rated. For the men, you're going to be the ... more
I see what you're saying. For me, losing my virginity was a big deal, but not being a virgin wasn't. I didn't feel any fundamental difference in myself the next day.
06/28/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
First vaginal sex
06/28/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
For me PIV sex was loosing my virginity. I was the receiver of and giver of oral for some time prior to PIV sex.
06/28/2011
Contributor: Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
at the time I considered it to be PIV. but now I have a different view of sex. I agree with this guy:link
06/28/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
Quote:
Originally posted by Vegan Silk
at the time I considered it to be PIV. but now I have a different view of sex. I agree with this guy:link
That link was awesome thank you for sharing
06/29/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
When my ex actually penetrated me and I bled for 2 days.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Vaginal sex through real intercourse.
06/29/2011
Contributor: rachaelxfaith rachaelxfaith
I considered it to be when I had vaginal intercourse, but I do consider oral sex to be sex as well- so maybe that'll change...
06/30/2011
Contributor: lick123 lick123
after vaginal or anal penetration.
07/02/2011