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Which do you like better: Penetration or Oral

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Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances 05/15/2011

I'm just curious how many people prefer receiving oral over penetrative sex.

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Which do you prefer: Penetration or receiving Oral? (96 posts)
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't agree with the use of wo/man. Will specify in comment." I really just wasn't sure how to word it to achieve accurate results. Thank you for your time!
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Contributor: CAKES CAKES
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
love penetration but it doesn't make me orgasm
05/15/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
Penetration feels so much better, even when a guy is very talented at oral.
05/15/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
both
05/15/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
I love both but I feel closer to him during penetration, so I enjoy that more.
05/15/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife prefers penetration - but is starting like oral again after many years. Last night was her first oral orgasm in years. I voted penetration for myself - but oral is a very close second!
05/15/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
As a guy I love both, as it takes typically takes penetration for me to orgasm. However,I love giving and receiving oral as a big part of foreplay and just generally a part of making love with my wife.
05/15/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
BOTH!
Penetration(giving and receiving) AND Oral(giving and receiving)!
Giving and Receiving pleasure WITH my partner is one of this short life's greatest joys!

I wish that my deceased spouse could have understood that before it was too late.
05/15/2011
Contributor: AOutrajus AOutrajus
penetration. oral sadly doesn't do anything for me.
05/15/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
That was a hard one for me because we usually do both, oral then penetration. I really don't like just going straight into sex with no foreplay. It gives me a lot of discomfort. My partner always insists on giving me oral first (which I'm so lucky for!) lol I do love actually having sex and I always O that way, but usually I need one to have the other. It's one of those things that have to kind of come in an all in one package for me. lol Before having sex, I definitely prefer oral and after oral I definitely need penetration! I guess the kinda go hand in hand for me.
05/15/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
I prefer penetration but receiving oral can be nice too
05/15/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
I very much prefer penetration. I cannot orgasm from oral but I can always orgasm from penetration. However, receiving and giving oral is nice every now and then.
05/15/2011
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
I like both, but I prefer penetration because my stubborn clitoris doesn't allow me to orgasm through oral. I can have multiple orgasms through penetration, however.
05/15/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I prefer penetration, but both are very accepted....hehehe.
05/16/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
I prefer penetration, even though I cannot orgasm off of it alone. I have no idea why. But I love oral because it makes me cum like a champ. So I like both
05/16/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I want penetration but oral is usually part of our play.
05/16/2011
Contributor: zizfaye zizfaye
I prefer penetration even though it doesn't make me orgasm on its own.
05/16/2011
Contributor: Bonesdance Bonesdance
I love love love getting blowjobs, but if forced to choose I'd rather penetrate. Both is obviously the best!
05/16/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
If I had to choose, penetration, but it's a difficult decision.
05/16/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I like a little bit of both. Of course penetration occurs more often but I would really like a night of back and forth between the two.
05/17/2011
Contributor: ac0313 ac0313
Quote:
Originally posted by newfoundlust
As a guy I love both, as it takes typically takes penetration for me to orgasm. However,I love giving and receiving oral as a big part of foreplay and just generally a part of making love with my wife.
Similar, with two differences: I cannot (have not) orgasm from a BJ and my SO (not wife) and I love giving and receiving both oral and penetration during different times of our sessions!
05/17/2011
Contributor: Collodion Collodion
Quote:
Originally posted by tickle me pink
I love both but I feel closer to him during penetration, so I enjoy that more.
This, actually.

Mostly, though, I just enjoy getting to sex my partner(s).
05/17/2011
Contributor: deletedacct deletedacct
Oral sex as a warm up maybe.
05/17/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I need both, oral followed by penetration. Oral before penetration helps me reach orgasm much quicker. Without penetration, it feels like my love-making session is incomplete.
05/26/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I love both but if i had to pick one, I love penetration. It feels more intimate to me.
05/26/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
Love oral but I prefer penetration!
05/26/2011
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
Penetration feels so much better, even when a guy is very talented at oral.
Agreed. Penetration wins.
05/26/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
penetration
05/26/2011
Contributor: tim1724 tim1724
My favorite thing is performing oral on my girlfriend. Second favorite is probably receiving oral, with intercourse a very close third.
05/26/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Seems the verdict is in - Both men & women like penetration the best.

I do love performing oral as much as penetration, though.
06/24/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
Oral
06/24/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
I dig your "other" category.

I'd choose penetration, but I'm open to having my mind changed
06/24/2011
Contributor: Screen Door Screen Door
Penetration always, but oral is definitely fun
06/25/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
Don't get me wrong, I like oral, both giving and receiving, but I love penetration.
06/25/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
Penetrating is the most pleasurable for me.
06/25/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
I love to suck on my man and do it almost every night...my "nite, nite pacifier". He loves to suck on me too, and while it feels good and I do cum, the truth is, I have never found it as satisfying as penetration. Even when he is eating me out, once I have cum hard that way, I NEED him inside me. Don't feel "fulfilled" otherwise. When I am doing oral on him..it's okay if he makes love to me later...but if he starts MY motor...then I just want to feel him inside. It is strange...but almost a NEED.
06/25/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I love to suck on my man and do it almost every night...my "nite, nite pacifier". He loves to suck on me too, and while it feels good and I do cum, the truth is, I have never found it as satisfying as penetration. Even when he is eating me ... more
My wife would describe it the same way.
06/25/2011
Contributor: reysgirl83 reysgirl83
do i really have to choose? lol
06/28/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
I've just never really liked receiving oral sex, probably because I don't like giving it. (Blame the brute who introduced me to giving head in completely the wrong way.) My lack of interest in oral sex frustrates the hell out of my husband because he is always wanting to perform cunnilingus on me. I'm sure he'd like for me to blow him as well, but he knows enough about my history, not to ask.
06/28/2011
Contributor: curmudgeoncat curmudgeoncat
I have to be really turned on in order to enjoy oral sex. I've never finished from it and I don't think it's as pleasurable as fingering, using toys, or being fucked.
06/28/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
I love both but if I had to choose one I chose penetration I like the feel of bf in me filling me
06/28/2011
Contributor: Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
penetration is better than oral, but I love hands the best! then you can get both clit and penetration at the same time.
06/28/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
i have never EVER come from oral. and penetration makes me feel so close to him. i do enjoy oral when he enjoys it but honestly... most the time i could just fall asleep during.


granted i'm the kid who needs a TRULY amped up vibrator to buzz my ladybug. this could have more than a little something to do with that. oops.

06/28/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by curmudgeoncat
I have to be really turned on in order to enjoy oral sex. I've never finished from it and I don't think it's as pleasurable as fingering, using toys, or being fucked.
me too! glad to know i'm not the only...

thanks for sharing.
06/28/2011
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I love penetration, but sometimes all I'm craving is oral.
06/28/2011
Contributor: big b big b
heads or tails
06/29/2011
Contributor: severin severin
As a boy, i find :

Giving: Prefer giving oral if the lady is smooth or at least not prickly (hey I've sensitive lips).

Receiving: Prefer being penetrated rather than sucked. Oral is nice, but never as hot as just being raped with a dildo or strap-on.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Smokedawg Smokedawg
While I find penetration to be best for a fully bonding and spiritual-level experience, for sheer fun I prefer a 69. I get to feel great, I get to smell and taste my wife at the same time, I get to pleasure her, and since she's on top in the 69, I don't have to work as hard to hold myself up while also doing all sorts of things with my arms and hands as with penetrative sex (my wife prefers missionary).
06/29/2011
Contributor: Freddie Freddie
I'm male and prefer oral. My wife, female, and prefers penetration. Oddly, I think I'm relatively better at oral, maybe because I've thought and read a lot (including two of Ian Kerner's books which I purchased here) about how to do it well.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I'd have to say both.
06/29/2011
Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
While I really enjoy oral, I never can get off from it. I need both penetration and clit stimulation to really cum.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Penetration!
06/29/2011
Contributor: melianofvalinor9 melianofvalinor9
Penetration but I like oral too.
06/29/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
personally I like both at the same time but deff love penetration more
07/02/2011
Contributor: boobookittyfuk boobookittyfuk
i love penetration but i dont get off with just penetration. i always get off with oral
07/03/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
never been a fan of just oral. It's always sort of been foreplay for us.
07/16/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I love to suck on my man and do it almost every night...my "nite, nite pacifier". He loves to suck on me too, and while it feels good and I do cum, the truth is, I have never found it as satisfying as penetration. Even when he is eating me ... more
~I NEED him inside me. Don't feel "fulfilled" otherwise.~

I feel the exact same way. Oral feels great, but eventually, I need him inside me. Something about it is much more fulfilling than just oral.
07/16/2011
Contributor: playtimeohsofun playtimeohsofun
oral anytime! maybe its cause hes so good at it!
07/16/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
This question was over before it got started. I can come from PIV or PIA but not from oral, I don't feel fulfilled unless he's inside me, oral isn't really much different than someone trying to tickle you in a spot you're not ticklish.

I love giving oral, and you couldn't ever make me give that up... but I've gone years between getting oral and used to ask guys to switch to something else --- even if they insisted they liked giving it.

I'm working on being more magnanimous now, and I let guys do it if they claim they want to , and I'm trying to learn to get off from it... but yeah, penetration is the soup, salad, main course, and dessert of sex for me.
07/16/2011
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
BOTH! Preferably one, then the other.
07/16/2011
Contributor: Jenyana Jenyana
As someone who experiences extreme pain when a guy tries to penetrate her, oral, all the way... or frot. Why does nobody ever make a post on frot? Might have to remedy that.
07/16/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I voted penetration.
07/17/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Oral is my favorite but I like to be penetrated usually afterward at least during with some fingers!
07/17/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I like giving oral and like to be penetrated.
07/17/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
If we had to choose, penetration would be it. However, we do love oral too.
07/17/2011
Contributor: Purpleladybug Purpleladybug
Penetration anyday!!
07/18/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
I had to pick penetration out of the choices but I LOVE and I mean absofuckinglutey adore giving my man head and would take it over penetration a good 50% of the time.
07/24/2011
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
i preferboth so i clicked last option
07/25/2011
Contributor: kellyg kellyg
Quote:
Originally posted by Linga
I had to pick penetration out of the choices but I LOVE and I mean absofuckinglutey adore giving my man head and would take it over penetration a good 50% of the time.
you and me both!
07/25/2011
Contributor: haley730 haley730
love penetration
07/25/2011
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I am a female and I prefer GIVING oral to penetration AND receiving oral.
09/25/2011
Contributor: ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
I have my own category. I prefer to go down on a woman(oral). Usually I like to give her two or three orgasms, My tongue has never gone limp and I can eat for hours. Then I would love to have penetration. And, if she would give me oral first. I can be rebuilding / loading while I take a lot of time making her happy. My favorite thing is eating (preferably a women with pubic hair)(the more the better for me) a woman out. There is nothing better than going down on a woman; for me. My comment, my choice. Do as you want, but just make sure you please; who you do.
09/25/2011
Contributor: domsub1993 domsub1993
I prefer penetration, but that's not to say I don't enjoy oral also.
09/25/2011
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Oral is amazzzzing for me. I love it. But I prefer to have it followed by penetration.
09/25/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I'm genderqueer/androgynou s (female bodied) and I prefer receiving penetration to oral sex. Oral is good and all, but I can only orgasm from penetration (and oral is just a cruel, cruel tease.). I like giving both about equally.

On the other hand, we learned last night that I can orgasm from him sucking my fingers like he's sucking a dick.
09/26/2011
Contributor: beachluv51800 beachluv51800
penetration...if I had to chose one or the other
09/26/2011
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
I am a woman and truly love both but I would pick penetration even though I rarely orgasm from it.Oral I love but is best used for me to get me more turned on for sex...I have never gotten off on just oral before
09/27/2011
Contributor: Daemonin Daemonin
I voted penetration, but I do like both. If it had to be one or the other it would be penetration.
12/07/2011
Contributor: mandaj mandaj
both!
12/07/2011
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
Well, I prefer anal penetration over vaginal penetration or oral
05/05/2012
Contributor: KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
Does fingering still count for oral? Because I love oral/ being fingered more than sex.
05/05/2012
Contributor: sunkissedJess sunkissedJess
I love oral. Just watching my man go down on me is an extreme turn on.
05/07/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
I like both, start with oral, fingers and dildo's then the real thing
08/30/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Both!
08/30/2012
Contributor: MK434 MK434
I need penetration, oral doesn't do alot for me.
08/30/2012
Contributor: damnbul12 damnbul12
I am a man and I prefer penetrating.
08/30/2012
Contributor: pirata pirata
woman and i normally prefer penetration but i can want oral sometimes
08/30/2012
Contributor: joelb42 joelb42
I like both but there is a much closer feeling with penetration.
08/30/2012
Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Penetration.
08/30/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Penetration
08/30/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
Receiving oral, hands down. I had a pretty traumatizing experience with it once, and have never gotten off on it, but it'll get me further than penetration any day.
08/30/2012
Contributor: glasskitten glasskitten
Quote:
Originally posted by tickle me pink
I love both but I feel closer to him during penetration, so I enjoy that more.
I feel the same way.
08/31/2012
Contributor: J5ive J5ive
both
08/31/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
I am a woman and I prefer penetration.
08/31/2012
Contributor: Lavendar Lavendar
I voted penetration, but I love and couldn't live without both.
08/31/2012
Contributor: sextoygeek sextoygeek
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
Just curious who likes what. I apologize to those who find the use of woman and man incorrect or unnerving. I assure you I was not trying to limit those who do not associate with these titles completely. Please feel free to choose "I don't ... more
I have self confidence issues with receiving oral, so I prefer to just go to penetration.
08/31/2012