Would it gross you out hearing someone you live with having sex?

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Contributor: CS2012 CS2012
My husband & I rent a house and we share it with two other people. We could hear one of our roommates having sex. We could hear it all through the house and on the back porch. I could hear her screaming and when going down the steps I could hear there bodies slamming into each other you know like in porn movies. I was about to throw up. Would that gross you out?

My husband & I refer to her boyfriend as her fuck buddy. Naturally she doesn't hear us say that but I was really pissed off/grossed out by her. What's worse is that her room is right next to ours.

We no longer have anything to do with her due to that. I told my mom about hearing her have sex and my mom said these exact words "that is disguisting".

It's one thing for her to have sex here but she needs to do it so no one else can hear it. When I lived at home while growing up I never heard my parents having sex. So it can be done without being heard. Our roommate said she would try and be quite my husband & I both said to each other if that is her trying to be quite we would hate to hear her loud!
05/11/2012
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Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I wouldn't say "disgusting", but it's definitely not a considerate thing to do. If it was me, I'd politely say something about it...and have before.

I also don't buy the "I can't help myself" line I've heard used. A person can definitely control the sounds they make.

...besides, it's only disgusting if it's done right!
05/11/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
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Originally posted by CS2012
My husband & I rent a house and we share it with two other people. We could hear one of our roommates having sex. We could hear it all through the house and on the back porch. I could hear her screaming and when going down the steps I could hear ... more
You can't expect her not to have sex because you can hear it. and you can't expect her to enjoy the sex less by controlling every sound... But I can see how it wouldn't be enjoyable for you to have to hear it going on.
05/11/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
I wouldn't say "disgusting", but it's definitely not a considerate thing to do. If it was me, I'd politely say something about it...and have before.

I also don't buy the "I can't help myself" line ... more
I agree with JR! It's not disgusting, but it is inconsiderate. They get to have sex and have it be as dirty as they want. But, they should force you to hear them in the act.
05/11/2012
Contributor: CS2012 CS2012
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Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
You can't expect her not to have sex because you can hear it. and you can't expect her to enjoy the sex less by controlling every sound... But I can see how it wouldn't be enjoyable for you to have to hear it going on.
I have to disagree with you. I have never screamed and moan during sex. I still enjoy it without those annoying sounds. I just don't see the point in moaning and screaming. So she could have sex and still enjoy it without letting everyone in the entire house knowing she is having sex. It is just rude and inconsiderate on her part. It's more than un-enjoyable for me it simply grosses me out.

If you ever had to experience what I did let me know if you still feel the same way that you do. Chances are that you won't.
05/11/2012
Contributor: Nora29714 Nora29714
I mean it is disrespectful... But I am the oldest of 4. 3 of them being boys. and there is a 16 year differeance between myself and the youngest... and hes the only one with a child (go figure) any who we used to hear crazy things coming from his room all the time I think its funny now didn't then.....
05/11/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by CS2012
I have to disagree with you. I have never screamed and moan during sex. I still enjoy it without those annoying sounds. I just don't see the point in moaning and screaming. So she could have sex and still enjoy it without letting everyone in the ... more
I had a roommate who was very vocal, I am extremely vocal. For you, it might be enjoyable to have sex without all of the noise and hubbub going on, but for some people it's an extreme turn on and is a trigger for their orgasm. So, to say that she can still enjoy it without making those noises is not an assumption you can or should be making. That's just not fair. However, if she knows it bugs you then she should work out somewhere else to have sex. When you have roommates, you must be respectful to everyone. This includes you understanding that she has a certain way she does things in the bedroom and those are the responses that follow.
05/11/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
The only people who live with us are our kids. We do NOT want to hear them having sex (it would have to be solo, because nobody is staying over), and yeah, that would be disgusting.

Now, hearing someone unrelated to you can be a huge turn on if the timing is right. Most times though, I'm sure it would be annoying. I do think it is inconsiderate to expect a roomate to simply tolerate it. There has to be a middle ground there somewhere if the matter can be discussed in an adult way.
05/11/2012
Contributor: CS2012 CS2012
Hearing her have sex is not a turn on. I don't know how anyone can find it a turn on. If I want to be turned on I will watch porn.

She all ready knew I wanted her to be as quite as possible but she does not care at all about how I feel or how my husband feels about the situation.
05/12/2012
Contributor: Ly-Ra Ly-Ra
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Originally posted by CS2012
My husband & I rent a house and we share it with two other people. We could hear one of our roommates having sex. We could hear it all through the house and on the back porch. I could hear her screaming and when going down the steps I could hear ... more
It's just inconsiderate, I think.
05/13/2012
Contributor: Emerlyn Emerlyn
I heard my old RA having sex once. It was... weird.
05/16/2012
Contributor: CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
If it was family I'd be disgusted but if it was a roommate of mine I wouldn't be grossed out by it. Could get annoying though.
05/16/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Definitely not a considerate thing, but not gross unless they were really noisy.
05/16/2012
Contributor: Squirtz Starz Squirtz Starz
well i will just say my mom was 40 when she had me and my dad was 45. So yeah I am 23 and if i had to hear them having sex i would flip.
05/20/2012