Would You Donate?

I've wanted a hysterectomy my whole life and even thought that donating my whole collection of eggs in the process would be a great way to pay for the procedure and help out people who need it.

I'm genetically unsuitable for such a practice, even if I could get a hysterectomy or donation clinic help. After studying my family history of diabetes, bipolar disorder, digestive troubles, addiction, etc (all the worst skipped me except for dysthymia) I resolved to not torment a poor child - either made by me or by donation - to such hells.

*grimace* Self-imposed genetic separation to kill off the undesirable genes. less

I have no idea if I would. I know that when an egg gestates in a uterus that doesn't belong to it's genetic mother is will take on characteristics of it's "host" mother, so in true reality it would be HER child but I dunno if I could do that. I would have to know and really love the other woman to see her raising what would amount to our child. I think it is an amazingly loving thing to do and I know I would love to be able to do that for a childless woman but in my darkest hours I don't know if I could keep that resolve. I probably would if I were asked, I wouldn't for pay. It's a deep issue for me, but for almost ten years I was assumed to be infertile so I know what trauma that is...I guess i'd still have to say I really don't know! less

The current thread asking how you'd feel if you found out your current significant other had donated sperm earlier in his life has me thinking...how many of us here would donate eggs or sperm? Would you do it, or maybe only under certain circumstances? What if you knew an infertile or gay couple that wanted a child and they asked you? I don't know what the going rate for sperm is, but I know the local rate for egg donation is $8,000 and it's less hormonally traumatic than the way it used to be done. They actually use birth control pills to 'synch' you to the receiving woman. less

Most egg donation programs only take donors who have successfully been pregnant and given birth to a healthy child. There are a LOT of genetic tests done (more than in sperm donation) and the procedure is a minor surgical procedure, which can take up to a week to recover from, not to mention several months of several times daily hormone injections. the hormones are done for months before the "Harvest" to get as many eggs as possible. You also CANNOT have sex during the entire thing, the whole Fertility Treatment, because you could get pregnant with quads or quints etc, because the medication they give you causes you to ripen up to 12 eggs at one time. Also, if you do get pregnant, they often refuse to pay you, and you may end up having to pay for the expensive hormones yourself, because NOT having sex during the treatment, leading up to Harvest is part of the Contract you sign.

You also have to contract not to drink any alcohol, no meds for any reason, no tobacco, consent to lots of genetic testing, suffer the mood swings of intense ovulation drugs, in addition to ANYTHING the perspective clinic or parents request. I've heard of women being told they can't eat peanut butter or gluten during the procedure to "prevent allergies in the baby" (which I think is bullshit, but the people PAYING for the eggs get to ask for what they want.) And it isn't just jerking off, like guys do, it's a 1 to 3 month commitment, where your body belongs completely to the clinic and the prospective parents.

I would not do this. Just the PITA aspect alone is bad enough, but someone else raising my kids would bother me. I'm a picky Mama, I adore my kids, and am picky about the occasional baby sitter, when my kids were little. Someone with my egg and eventually my child? Not for me.

But, every one's mileage will vary. less

Most egg donation programs only take donors who have successfully been pregnant and given birth to a healthy child. There are a LOT of genetic tests done (more than in sperm donation) and the procedure is a minor surgical procedure, which can take up to a week to recover from, not to mention several months of several times daily hormone injections. the hormones are done for months before the "Harvest" to get as many eggs as possible. You also CANNOT have sex during the entire thing, the whole Fertility Treatment, because you could get pregnant with quads or quints etc, because the medication they give you causes you to ripen up to 12 eggs at one time. Also, if you do get pregnant, they often refuse to pay you, and you may end up having to pay for the expensive hormones yourself, because NOT having sex during the treatment, leading up to Harvest is part of the Contract you sign.

You also have to contract not to drink any alcohol, no meds for any reason, no tobacco, consent to lots of genetic testing, suffer the mood swings of intense ovulation drugs, in addition to ANYTHING the perspective clinic or parents request. I've heard of women being told they can't eat peanut butter or gluten during the procedure to "prevent allergies in the baby" (which I think is bullshit, but the people PAYING for the eggs get to ask for what they want.) And it isn't just jerking off, like guys do, it's a 1 to 3 month commitment, where your body belongs completely to the clinic and the prospective parents.

I would not do this. Just the PITA aspect alone is bad enough, but someone else raising my kids would bother me. I'm a picky Mama, I adore my kids, and am picky about the occasional baby sitter, when my kids were little. Someone with my egg and eventually my child? Not for me.

But, every one's mileage will vary. less