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Contributor: Em & Lo Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose girlfriend won’t let him do her from behind."

So, what do you think? Are bisexual partners more likely to cheat? Does it depend on anything? Or should you not judge a partner's faithfulness by their sexuality?
01/13/2011
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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose ... more
One's sexuality doesn't lead to cheating based solely on the preferences of a person and whether or not those needs are being met. Cheaters cheat...pure and simple. Not getting what you want or need will lead a non-cheater to either do for themselves solo or leave the relationship. Getting everything they ask for and more won't stop someone who cheats from cheating. Hell it won't even slow them down.

Cheaters don't like to believe they re doing anything wrong and will justify their cheating with tissue thin excuses like 'I have NEEDS' or whatever. The real answer is to be responsible and meet your needs yourself honestly either by working on the relationship or leaving it.

You should never judge a person's faithfulness by their sexuality, only by their actions.
01/13/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
No way! I am bi. I have no thoughts of cheating. I wouldn't. It is just not me. One's sexuality does not make them more prone to cheat. If you're going to do it, you;re going to do it whether you are gay, straight, bi, or other.
01/13/2011
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
The only thing that could be said here without being too ignorant is that IF a bi person was already inclined to cheat, it would be twice as easy for them to do so.
01/13/2011
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Ugh, sometimes it just amazes me what some people think. One being bi does not make them anymore likely to cheat, nor does someone not getting what they want at home. It's just ridiculous to think that if someone doesn't get oral or something that they should/would just go out and cheat. It's absolute BS and it amazes me that this is what people think..

If someone is going to cheat they'll cheat. They'll cheat because they don't respect their partner. They'll cheat because they don't care enough about the other person. They won't cheat just because they're bi and they won't cheat just because they're not getting some act at home.
01/13/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Anyone may think about it but we choose to not do it. I LOVE and RESPECT my partner and so choose to be faithful.
01/14/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I agree with everybody above. I am bisexual and would not cheat. If I am really unsatisfied in my relationship I will talk to my partner about it and if the situation isn't going to change than I consider us to be sexually incompatible. I can go without this or that, it really doesn't bother me if I feel that my needs are being met. Just because I am bisexual I do not assume the expectation of being able to have both penis and vagina in my life simultaneously. Who I choose as a partner has nothing to do with gender, it has to do with feeling that we are compatible, we love each other and we will support each other. Being sexually incompatible is not a problem, it certainly does not mean that I have to evict that individual from my life, the relationship simply becomes nonsexual.
01/14/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
I feel like that whole quote is just a fun way to blame the person being cheated on for not giving the cheater what he or she wants from the relationship. I don't have a lot of moral feelings on the matter, but I do think that, bisexual or otherwise, you're more likely to cheat if you're not getting what you want in the sack.
01/14/2011
Contributor: Not here Not here
Absolutely not. A person's likelihood to cheat is dependent on their morals, in my opinion. I'm bi, and even if my man wasn't okay with me hooking up with girls, I would never cheat on him. If something was wrong in the relationship, I would talk to him about it first, and then if nothing could be done to make the situation work for both of us- I would end it if that was the only option. Regardless of my sexuality, I just wouldn't cheat.
01/14/2011
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Why would sexual orientation have anything to do with it? That would be like asking if race had anything to do with infidelity. Although, I'm sure somebody somewhere has done a study that
01/15/2011
Contributor: sweet seduction sweet seduction
not at all!!!
01/15/2011
Contributor: xgreatlovex xgreatlovex
Quote:
Originally posted by Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose ... more
i am bisexual and ive never cheated for bisexual reasons. i think if anything bisexual are just more common to want to introduce 3somes.
01/16/2011
Contributor: ninaspinkturtle ninaspinkturtle
Quote:
Originally posted by Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose ... more
no not at all
01/17/2011
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
what? NO

when people assume that I am offended, or they just need some education on the matter. They need a better understanding of what bisexual means
01/17/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Just because they have a bigger pool to choose from doesn't mean the liklihood is higher. I would say no.
01/18/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
No. People of any orientation are equally likely to cheat. It's not about what gender you like, it's about your moral compass and your propensity to distraction in relationships.
01/18/2011
Contributor: inbarati inbarati
Quote:
Originally posted by Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose ... more
*facepalm* Really? It's 2011 and we're still dealing with this dark ages crap? No, absolutely no. Being bi or pansexual has zero effect on cheating. Cheaters cheat. Bi or pansexual people are attracted to more than one gender. The Venn diagram to be made there has overlap, but so does the one with cheaters and straight people, or cheaters and gay people.

You judge a partner's faithfulness by their actions, not by their sexual preference. End of story.
01/27/2011
Contributor: Gallowraven Gallowraven
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Originally posted by liilii080
No. People of any orientation are equally likely to cheat. It's not about what gender you like, it's about your moral compass and your propensity to distraction in relationships.
I agree 100%. liilii got this so well, I can't even add to it.
01/28/2011
Contributor: Timaree Timaree
Quote:
Originally posted by Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose ... more
that perception is just bigotry, plain and simple. just like someone saying that all gays are sluts or that lesbians all get bed death, these are stereotypes, which make for good jokes and shitty relationship material.

here's a great column on bisexuality myths : Another Type of BIgots
02/10/2011
Contributor: Ora87 Ora87
Quote:
Originally posted by Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose ... more
Being bi has no relevance on whether a person will cheat or not. My husband of 3 years cheated on me completely straight where as i, wife of 3 years, have never cheated on him being a bisexual female. If a person is going to cheat they are going to cheat and sexual preference has nothing to do with it.
02/28/2011
Contributor: ninaspinkturtle ninaspinkturtle
Quote:
Originally posted by Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose ... more
i dont think so....i know lots of straight and gay people who cheat
03/02/2011
Contributor: Curves Curves
cheating on your partner has nothing to do with your sexuality.
04/01/2011
Contributor: neon neon
Quote:
Originally posted by Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose ... more
cheating has absolutely nothing to do with sexuality.
04/01/2011
Contributor: AlaskanBeauty AlaskanBeauty
I do not agree!!! bisexuality has nothing to do with being a wh*re!
06/01/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose ... more
I dont think you should judge anyones faitfullness on their sexuality if you cant let what one person doe sto someone else effect yours I know you should really take stoke of ur relationship before u cast judgments Trust is avery big key in any relationship even one where one or both partners r bisexual
06/13/2011
Contributor: lemony lemony
Not anymore likely than people of other sexual orientations.
06/13/2011
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
Personally, I think this goes along with the stereotype that bisexuals are over-sexed and therefore are insatiable enough to where they can't avoid cheating. What a load of bullshit. Personally, I'm pan, and I would never dream of cheating on my boyfriend. It depends on the individual. People from any kind of sexuality have the ability to cheat or not cheat.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Princess Zelda Princess Zelda
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
One's sexuality doesn't lead to cheating based solely on the preferences of a person and whether or not those needs are being met. Cheaters cheat...pure and simple. Not getting what you want or need will lead a non-cheater to either do for ... more
Pin point accuracy!! She has expressed everything I would have.
07/21/2012
Contributor: freud13 freud13
Someone's sexuality does not make them more likely to cheat. People who are prone to cheating will cheat. The idea that being bi-sexual makes you more likely to cheat is a very closed minded and discriminatory idea.
07/21/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
I'm not really sure what is gained by starting a discussion based on negative stereotypes. Better question: has this stereotype affected you?

I'm nonmanagamous, so I can't really comment, but ever notice how the stereotype is that bi male partners will leave their female partners for a man, and bi female partners will leave their female partners for a man? It'd be cool to stop believing in this whole penis-supremacy thing.
07/21/2012