Attracted to women and scared

Ha, I thought i was the only one that was a little freaked out.
I want it to happen... but ya know lol

I agree with you that if it's ment to happen then it will happen, i hope it's ment to happen. lol i'd love to give it go. As for a thereesome im too much of a jealous person to have that hahahahaha but we have talked about it and he doesnt want to have one. Why? only God knows but he did say he would LOVE to watch lol

iam also really curious about what people would say.

Thanks for taking the time out to answer my question and to give me a little of your own input.

these are all extremely good questions and I double this!

I don't know what to tell you. It sounds like it would just be a sexual experience alone and you might be messing with the woman's head, so think of that first and make sure any woman you go near understands that you are only physically attracted, not emotionally.

And I'll give you a hint as to why you 'feel like you're cheating'--your husband restricts you from some people and allows you freedom to be with others. Now THAT will fuck with your head! Men and women are, contrary to popular belief, all people. If you are allowed to mess around with women, but not men, then you will feel restricted and confused. At least, I certainly would if my lover ever told me "oh yeah, don't do him. Not because I don't trust him, because he's a man. That's cheating, because men are people."

I understand he feels differently about your relations to men and your relations to women, but he is being rather sexist...for lack of a better word? in saying that one is cheating and the other is not.

If you're this worked up over it, then you probably aren't ready. Pushing things when you aren't ready is more likely to lead to regret than anything else you can do in your sex life.

I'm not sure why you think it has to happen now or it'll never happen. Why can't it happen later? If you are later in a situation that feels more natural and not rushed, more like you want it and not like a chore, that's the good way to do this.

Rushing along because you feel like you have to do this right now seems like a recipe for an unpleasant experience.

Honetsly it inst cheatingif its osmething you both agree on it is how ever cheating if you dont agree i think if I were you id try and be ur self or chat up bisexual women on line and i agree with the 3some idea

i was (and kind of still am) the same way... was curious about girls from an early age, and would get attracted to girls in such an intense way, normally best friends of mine, yet was terrified to ever making a move for fear of ruining the friendship. i thought they would find me gross if i tried anything. so i yearned from afar, cherishing and rejoicing in every touch, every hug, every timid sideways glimpse when changing together.


it took a couple very aggressive girls (aggressive in a good way!) to initiate sex and i never regretted it.

having a relationship with a woman however is something i've yet to even begin to figure out... so many wild emotions going on... how could it ever work?


my current BF is totally into a threesome however and wants to try one. i recommend you relax, take your time, and let it come to you.


trying too hard never works, eh?



a fun little exercise i like to do sometimes is journal a bit, writing down everything you wish for yourself (in this case, a female sexual partner) in great detail, and as if it is happening now.

for example, a journal entry would be:


i am strong, i am fearless
i am in a healthy sexual relationship with the woman of my dreams
she is funny, sexually healthy, open to me
she is tall and curvy with green eyes.
we use toys in our play and open up more to eachother with every sex act.
....


etc.


it may sound silly but sometimes it can work! what you think about you bring about.


good luck, dear butterfly.

here's what I know from experience...you don't have to look far. The bis are everywhere! I run into a shit ton of them at the straight bar, but I'm rather forthcoming about my sexuality, so they are more inclined to divulge theirs