First, let me begin by saying I had NO idea which group to put this in, so I hope no one is offended by my choice.
There has been a lot of discussion between my hubby (a gender-fluid, male-presenting person) and I about what label would describe my sexuality. Labels suck, but sometimes you need a word to describe yourself...
Anyway, he was wondering about the term 'asexual' because I really do prefer masturbation to having anyone 'messing' with me. I love to make other women cum, all day long, but I don't want anyone trying to make me cum. (I hope this makes some kind of sense) But when I researched the term 'asexual' it tended to mean a person with no sex drive at all, and that is certainly not me. So, I found this:
A 1977 paper entitled Asexual and Autoerotic Women: Two Invisible Groups, by Myra T. Johnson, may be the first paper explicitly devoted to asexuality in humans. Johnson defines asexuals as those men and women "who, regardless of physical or emotional condition, actual sexual history, and marital status or ideological orientation, seem to prefer not to engage in sexual activity."
She contrasts autoerotic women with asexual women: "The asexual woman [...] has no sexual desires at all [but] the autoerotic woman [...] recognizes such desires but prefers to satisfy them alone." Johnson's evidence is mostly letters to the editor found in women's magazines written by asexual/autoerotic women. She portrays them as invisible, "oppressed by a consensus that they are nonexistent," and left behind by both the sexual revolution and the feminist movement. Society either ignores or denies their existence or insists they must be ascetic for religious reasons, neurotic, or asexual for political reasons.
Sorry it is so long... but this seems to sort of describe me. I am very interested in the opinion of others...
There has been a lot of discussion between my hubby (a gender-fluid, male-presenting person) and I about what label would describe my sexuality. Labels suck, but sometimes you need a word to describe yourself...
Anyway, he was wondering about the term 'asexual' because I really do prefer masturbation to having anyone 'messing' with me. I love to make other women cum, all day long, but I don't want anyone trying to make me cum. (I hope this makes some kind of sense) But when I researched the term 'asexual' it tended to mean a person with no sex drive at all, and that is certainly not me. So, I found this:
A 1977 paper entitled Asexual and Autoerotic Women: Two Invisible Groups, by Myra T. Johnson, may be the first paper explicitly devoted to asexuality in humans. Johnson defines asexuals as those men and women "who, regardless of physical or emotional condition, actual sexual history, and marital status or ideological orientation, seem to prefer not to engage in sexual activity."
She contrasts autoerotic women with asexual women: "The asexual woman [...] has no sexual desires at all [but] the autoerotic woman [...] recognizes such desires but prefers to satisfy them alone." Johnson's evidence is mostly letters to the editor found in women's magazines written by asexual/autoerotic women. She portrays them as invisible, "oppressed by a consensus that they are nonexistent," and left behind by both the sexual revolution and the feminist movement. Society either ignores or denies their existence or insists they must be ascetic for religious reasons, neurotic, or asexual for political reasons.
Sorry it is so long... but this seems to sort of describe me. I am very interested in the opinion of others...
