I feel like I'm in a position of constantly trying to convince people that I'm bisexual lately. I do tend to have a preference for women, though I was married for a very long while to a man, but I didn't stop being attracted to or interested in men. I just haven't met as many lately that did it for me and there are fewer men in my immediate social group, so I'm less likely to talk about them.

Does anyone else have this phenomenon sometimes? Other people seeing lulls in certain types of sexual interest externally and saying 'look you're really...' to you? Do you argue it or just roll your eyes? less

I feel like I'm in a position of constantly trying to convince people that I'm bisexual lately. I do tend to have a preference for women, though I was married for a very long while to a man, but I didn't stop being attracted to or interested in men. I just haven't met as many lately that did it for me and there are fewer men in my immediate social group, so I'm less likely to talk about them.

Does anyone else have this phenomenon sometimes? Other people seeing lulls in certain types of sexual interest externally and saying 'look you're really...' to you? Do you argue it or just roll your eyes? less

Why do YOU feel that way? You shouldn't. Nobody should feel that they need to "defend" anything about themselves, including who they prefer. That's really strange to me. Do you feel badly when people ask you? Do you live in a place where there's a lot of judgement. I mean, I know there's judgement EVERYWHERE, but a lot of areas, especially here in the US are really laid back about things like this. Sure each community is different, but even in my tiny conservative town, not much is ever said about different sexualities. We just mind our own business out here. Maybe you need a different "immediate social group." That is something you can change.

I never care what people think, in most cases. I only care what my loved ones think of me and still, I don't care too much there. LOL. I don't hardly wonder if people think bad of me. Maybe that's why I tend to be optimistic. When I'm feelign really badly about myself though, I've noticed I care more what others think, but usually that resolves quickly.

A lot of people think that since I'm 22, my partner is 25 and I am about to finish school, we have our own place, that we should already be spittin' out babies. I get that A LOT. "Why on earth are you not trying to harder to have kids of your very own?" Well, for one, I chose my career first and for two, I lost BOTH of my very own kids. Three, we have kids that are not biologically ours, but they are ours. That is annoying, but I'm actually really proud of our choices. I would do anything to have my own kids lives back, but I cannot change it and I'm proud that we decided to do things this way. The kids we have are old enough to do their own homework and be left alone in their bedrooms while I am taking classes at home so things work out the way we want them to. Mostly, when someone judges my relationship choices, I think very little about it, but realize that I did what was right for me. It's not the same as them asking why I chose to be with a male, but it's the type of judgement I get personally. I am able to blow it off really easily because I'm very happy with my decisions, and even if I chose to be with a woman, I would still feel happy that I had done what was right for me--if that was what was what I wanted in my life--I wouldn't have much hard feelings over what others think. less

I recently found myself having to defend my bisexuality to my own boyfriend who proclaimed that I couldn't be bisexual because I hadn't been with a woman more then once. I tried to explain that by his logic that he was basically saying that until someone has been with whatever gender they prefer that they have no sexuality at all and that I was being crazy.

I have also gotten comments from a few of my coworkers, one who is a lesbian and another who is a gay male, various remarks about how 'I'll pick a side eventually' and that 'Once you have done anything with another woman/man that makes you gay.'

Its a little frustrating to say the least but I stand very strong with how I identify my sexuality. less