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Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Dr. Dick on Demand: What’s Up with Me, Doc—Am I Gay or Straight?
...do you wonder about this sort of thing? Or are you pretty sure you know? Has your sexuality changed as you've gone thru life or always remained the same?

I love Dr Dick. He always makes me think and always put it out there, blunt and real.
09/14/2009
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Contributor: Cinnamon Cinnamon
Without a doubt, I have always known. I have never questioned it, although I have been very inactive at times.
09/19/2009
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I do wonder about this. Sometimes I just get very blase about sex/our sex life and it makes me wonder if I'm not lesbian. Doesn't that sound strange? I mean, shouldn't I know, heh? But boredom makes me doubt, a lot.
09/19/2009
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
I've been bisexual all my life. I had crushes on girls just as much as boys when I was growing up. My parents thought it was a phase and brushed it off. But I knew better.
09/19/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
I was always attracted to both women and men, but I knew I wasn't a bisexual - that there was something else going on (in my head) that made me different from other bisexuals I knew.

Then I started meeting people who fall outside the binary male/female gender identities and I was attracted to them too.

So I gave up wondering about my sexuality a while ago. I figure there's no reason to analyze my attractions because that's just who I am.
09/19/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
I've never wondered about it - I've always known, and for me it's never changed.
09/20/2009
Contributor: Saraid Saraid
Well, I have known for some time that I'm bisexual, or so I thought, but the more I think about it I think I'm lesbian. However, I'm very happy with my male partner. However, if it weren't him, I'm sure I would not be with a man.
09/20/2009
Contributor: Envy Envy
I've always know I was straight. However what bugs me is a LOT of the time I'm not attracted to men much (or women anyway, but as i said, I'm straight). So I guess I'm straight-asexual? I get little feelings here and there, but it could be the combination of birth control (got off it now) and being over puberty that has left me with no desire for any gender whatsoever. It worries me because I have a very loving bf and sometimes I just don't feel it when in the beginning 2+ years ago I did.

Ah life, thou hast mockethed me.
09/20/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
I am ...... 98% sure that I am heterosexual I suppose?

However, I am 100% sure that I like want to be with a man. I enjoy my partner's musky scent, hairy body and his penis. But.... in the past, I have acknowledged that another woman was attractive. I've never fantasized or desired to fantasize about another women though - or be with one sexually.

SO, I guess... the question is - what makes someone bisexual?
09/21/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
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Originally posted by spicywife
I am ...... 98% sure that I am heterosexual I suppose?

However, I am 100% sure that I like want to be with a man. I enjoy my partner's musky scent, hairy body and his penis. But.... in the past, I have acknowledged that another woman was ... more
oops, I meant "that I like AND wand to be with a man"
09/21/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
want

*shrug* what's the point of correcting yourself if you make another typo? lol
09/21/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I went through this period of my life where I was super convinced I was a lesbian...even though I've never had sexual contact with a girl. Then I had me a boyfriend and figured that identifying as bisexual was pretty safe, since I still have crushes on girls but find the boys equally attractive. Now my boyfriend is all "You can't have that label, you're just bicurious. You can't be bisexual if you've never had sex with a girl." And I'm all "Labels are overrated anyway. I get to choose the ones I'm stuck with, don't I?" Jury's still out on this one. Personally, I'm just fine with being with whomever I want to be with, regardless of gender.
09/21/2009
Contributor: TinyTease TinyTease
Very interesting article. I think that sexuality has more to do with being open to experiences than anything else. I mean...what defines "sexuality" anyway? This is something I think about a lot, sexual orientations/desires. The only thing I can say is, I believe that just as with everything in life, we are always learning more about ourselves. There are fluctuations in interests and fantasies and desires as we age. It doesn't really matter "what" you are as long as you're with someone who makes you happy.
09/21/2009
Contributor: Valyn Valyn
I don't wonder back and forth on it.. though, there is a twitter-based site thing that'll tell you how gay you are based on your tweets. Yeah, it's silly
09/21/2009
Contributor: Polyserena Polyserena
I identified as hetero on this site coz really I don't have much use for a double ended dildo and have no 'bi experience'. But I am a bit of a fence sitter in terms of attraction. Strangely with me I think it's a hormonal thing. When I was on OCs I lost my deire for men and increased it for women. Very weird and defeats the purpose of the pill just a bit. But my preferences fluctuate a little anyway. Thinking it could be related to my cycle too- more attracted to women at end of cycle and more to men at beginning. Any biology geeks want to confer with me on this one? I pretty much don't worry anymore about labels and such, I like my relationship with my boyfriend.
11/09/2009
Contributor: Dragon Dragon
I'm bisexual in sexuality. Love sex, and can definitely enjoy a woman... But I'm really only attracted to men emotionally. I don't know what that's called and I don't care. "Slut" maybe!
11/09/2009
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I prefer to think that there are phases for me. Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't.

I agree with Miss Cinnamon, labels aren't the best things out there.
11/09/2009
Contributor: Sir Sir
I'm only attracted to my little girl, actually. I don't fantasize or think about sex with anyone other than her. But before her, I was solely attracted to men. She came along, though, and that was very much changed. Though I do list myself as "heterosexual," I am actually more "open-minded," because gender is not a deciding factor for me in who I am attracted to. It certainly wasn't when it came to my little girl.

It was a bit hard to deal with for me, being attracted to a female, because I had always identified as homosexual, but it was also easy because I had fell in love with her so badly.
11/09/2009
Contributor: Saturday Saturday
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Originally posted by Sir
I'm only attracted to my little girl, actually. I don't fantasize or think about sex with anyone other than her. But before her, I was solely attracted to men. She came along, though, and that was very much changed. Though I do list ... more
That all sounds too good to be true. I envy the shit out of her.
02/22/2010
Contributor: Phoenix77 Phoenix77
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Originally posted by Saturday
That all sounds too good to be true. I envy the shit out of her.
I have identified as bi since I was about 18, though I've only been with one woman... I've also been in a relationship since then, but since that's slowly falling apart, I know I'm not interested in guys enough to pursue anything. I would definitely date a girl though, if the right one comes along.
03/16/2010
Contributor: Gary Gary
Quote:
Originally posted by Valyn
I don't wonder back and forth on it.. though, there is a twitter-based site thing that'll tell you how gay you are based on your tweets. Yeah, it's silly
Wow! No Link?
03/16/2010
Contributor: KBToys24 KBToys24
I've always known and never shifted.
03/16/2010
Contributor: sqweak sqweak
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
...do you wonder about this sort of thing? Or are you pretty sure you know? Has your sexuality changed as you've gone thru life or always remained the same?

I love Dr Dick. He always makes me think and always put it out there, blunt ... more
My sexuality hasn't changed actually? I always knew I liked girls but when I was younger I supposed that every girl liked girls the way that I liked them. Though I’ve only slept with one woman, I’ve pined over hundreds. I’ve spent a lot of time denying it, I thought it was a phase; you know some people are bisexual in college and then they get older and marry, end of story. I think a lot of us teeter back & fourth between “am I gay or straight,” due to this on going perception that you can't have it both ways, which cause so much doubt (it has in me at least). You either liked Barbies or Hot Wheels; I just so happen to like both.

I prefer to dominate women, I like the companionship of a women but I have stronger relationships with men. For whatever reason, finding a woman is unreasonably complicated for me. I’m definitely confident in my bisexuality now more then I ever have been in my life.
04/25/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
I've always been 100% hetero but then I did have a fling with two women during my college years. I identify as able to be pursuaded mainly cause I like a woman's body but not enough to want a permanent relationship with her...unless it's as part of a poly grouping. So I dunno, I wouldn't say I'm uncertain or unsure I just don't really fit the labels.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
I've always known I'm hetero. I often find women pretty, but the thought of doing anything sexual with them is, well, boring.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Laccaria Laccaria
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I've always been 100% hetero but then I did have a fling with two women during my college years. I identify as able to be pursuaded mainly cause I like a woman's body but not enough to want a permanent relationship with her...unless it's ... more
I really like "able to be persuaded." That's a good description for me too. I've never been confused about my sexual feelings exactly, but I have been confused about what to call them. Bisexual implies a level of interest in women that I just don't think is actuate for me. On the other hand, I'm open to women under the right circumstances. I just can't see having any sort of exclusive relationship with a woman.
04/30/2010
Contributor: LadyInToyland LadyInToyland
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
...do you wonder about this sort of thing? Or are you pretty sure you know? Has your sexuality changed as you've gone thru life or always remained the same?

I love Dr Dick. He always makes me think and always put it out there, blunt ... more
I've known for a while, though looking back, I probably should have always known.
05/24/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
...do you wonder about this sort of thing? Or are you pretty sure you know? Has your sexuality changed as you've gone thru life or always remained the same?

I love Dr Dick. He always makes me think and always put it out there, blunt ... more
I have always known I was hopelessly attracted to the totality of a man but I do like a nice pair of tits on a woman. I don't self identify as bisexual because if given the choice I'l invariably choose a guy over a girl. Still it can be fun to play...
08/13/2010
Contributor: deadpoet deadpoet
In high school, I was 50/50. I even dated a girl for a few months, but then I met the love of my life. And we have been together ever since.
08/13/2010
Contributor: Curves Curves
i've always known i was bisexual.
04/01/2011