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Khanner
I've never been able to find a term I really like in regards to what to call my orientation. I'm just a little bit picky when it comes to etymology, I suppose.
Bisexual: There are more than 2 genders and sexes I'm attracted
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I've never been able to find a term I really like in regards to what to call my orientation. I'm just a little bit picky when it comes to etymology, I suppose.
Bisexual: There are more than 2 genders and sexes I'm attracted to.
Pansexual/Omnisexual: Not a fan of proclaiming I'm attracted to EVERYTHING, like what, sheep, kids, crock pots?
Queer: I don't think it's "weird" that I dig chicks and non-binary people.
Usually I just use the term bisexual, though, because it's the term most people are familiar with. If there was a more correct term for "Adulthumansexual" I'd be most comfortable with that.
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I feel the exact same thing. If I use pansexual, I feel it doesn't really describe my situation, because I'm not attracted to EVERYBODY; I'm not bisexual because I don't JUST like men because they're men and women because they're women, and I don't use "queer" because that word is often misunderstood and people use it to mean different things, some of which I don't fit in with.
I can be attracted to non-binary people (and quite often I have found a tendency to go for genderqueer rather than stereotypically male or female people), and I can at times be attracted to very girly girls and very manly men. It changes with the person. Some people who were objectively extremely attractive did absolutely nothing for me, and others who were plain to the point of making vainilla seem exotic have made me positively drool. Honestly, I can never anticipate who I'm going to be attracted to, so I have no idea in which category I fit.
Though generally, I have found that it's hard for me to feel instantly attracted to people, I have to have some sort of relationship with them first for the attraction to develop. I generally don't do one-night stands for this reason. There is just no point; even if we make it to bed, it will at most be a "meh" experience for me, no matter this person's skills.
Is there such a thing as a demisexual who can occasionally feel purely physically attracted to some (very specific) people?
Maybe I'm just queer and demiromantic? Is there such a thing? Who knows.
But there is no equivalent for the word "queer" in my native tongue, so at home I just use "bisexual" and leave it at that, even if it doesn't really fit me. :/
Labels are awful, awful things. -_-