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"Turn your Facebook red for marriage equality" day

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Contributor: Peggi Peggi
So today (well more like this evening) I woke up and got on facebook to see that half of my friends had red photos, whether it was through a filter, some red image, or a red block with an '=' in it. I didn't know what it was about until someone told me. To be honest, I was thrilled to see so much support for the day! Did you participate? If so, how did you do it? Did other sites do this as well?

I participated, and made a picture that included my love for Doctor Who! Here is the picture I made:

03/26/2013
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Contributor: BeepBop BeepBop
Most of my friends just have the equality symbol. Your graphic is FABULOUS/awesome/amazi ngtastic!
03/26/2013
Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I wanted to but I just got home and now it seems a little late to change my picture but almost half of my friends have changed their picture! It's amazing what the Human Rights Campaign started with that (It's their logo, just in red for today). I love seeing the amount of support that marriage equality is receiving.
03/26/2013
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I noticed a lot of people have changed their picture and that's cool. I'm all for allowing gays and lesbians to marry, but I don't feel like changing my picture is going to matter or by not changing doesn't mean I don't care and don't support them.
03/26/2013
Contributor: Virgingasms Virgingasms
I don't go on facebook very often so this is the first I'm hearing about it. Love the picture, Donna is my favorite companion!
03/26/2013
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by BeepBop
Most of my friends just have the equality symbol. Your graphic is FABULOUS/awesome/amazi ngtastic!
Thanks!!! I don't make these often but when I do, I try to do it for a cause, and be fun or creative with them. I couldn't resist this one!
03/26/2013
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
I wanted to but I just got home and now it seems a little late to change my picture but almost half of my friends have changed their picture! It's amazing what the Human Rights Campaign started with that (It's their logo, just in red for ... more
I didn't change mine until about 5pm my time, I hadn't planned to, until I decided to make this, and then figured it was worth changing. And I'll probably leave it on for a few days
03/26/2013
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by Zombirella
I noticed a lot of people have changed their picture and that's cool. I'm all for allowing gays and lesbians to marry, but I don't feel like changing my picture is going to matter or by not changing doesn't mean I don't care and don't support them.
That's very true, typically I don't change my display picture for support, because I do enough on pages and rallies to show my support for the cause, but it still makes me happy to see that others do it, just because I'm not always aware. My cousin, who I have never seen any support for any communities, changed hers and it was really awesome to see it, because now I know that she is an ally, and most of my family is against gay-rights, so I loved seeing that
03/26/2013
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by Virgingasms
I don't go on facebook very often so this is the first I'm hearing about it. Love the picture, Donna is my favorite companion!
I love Donna! Couldn't resist using this picture, and 10th Doctor was my favorite, so it was perfect Donna and Rose were my favorites, I think I was more upset about Rose leaving only because they loved each other.
03/26/2013
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
I think changing your icon on a social media site for 'equality' or any other cause is silly. Are you actually doing something else for the cause? No? Then a shiny new icon is, as my grandmother would say, about as useful as tits on a bull. If you're pro queer rights, why not write letters, make calls, volunteer, donate money, and actually do something legitimately helpful instead?
03/27/2013
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
I love your graphic! I didn't participate, as gay marriage isn't the right I feel is the most important (I'm more concerned with homelessness rates among queer youth and bullying!), but it warmed my heart to see so many people on my friend's list being supportive.
03/27/2013
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by Virgingasms
I don't go on facebook very often so this is the first I'm hearing about it. Love the picture, Donna is my favorite companion!
I love Donna! Couldn't resist using this picture, and 10th Doctor was my favorite, so it was perfect Donna and Rose were my favorites, I think I was more upset about Rose leaving only because they loved each other.
03/27/2013
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by Pixel
I think changing your icon on a social media site for 'equality' or any other cause is silly. Are you actually doing something else for the cause? No? Then a shiny new icon is, as my grandmother would say, about as useful as tits on a ... more
Well, most of the people who got the alert for the day got it because there were several pro-rights groups that had it listed, but most of the people who are on those groups are bombarded by petitions and in-person events being listed regularly, so I'd imagine if you'd stick around in a group that constantly posts that sort of thing instead of just photos or status updates, chances are you probably are there to get notification of the petitions and such, otherwise being a part of the group would just get annoying. So I'd imagine most of the people who knew to change their picture already are doing other things I changed mine, and I sign at least 1 petition a day, send in those emails or letters when they request it, and go to the in-person events as well
03/27/2013
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by Pixel
I think changing your icon on a social media site for 'equality' or any other cause is silly. Are you actually doing something else for the cause? No? Then a shiny new icon is, as my grandmother would say, about as useful as tits on a ... more
Well, most of the people who got the alert for the day got it because there were several pro-rights groups that had it listed, but most of the people who are on those groups are bombarded by petitions and in-person events being listed regularly, so I'd imagine if you'd stick around in a group that constantly posts that sort of thing instead of just photos or status updates, chances are you probably are there to get notification of the petitions and such, otherwise being a part of the group would just get annoying. So I'd imagine most of the people who knew to change their picture already are doing other things I changed mine, and I sign at least 1 petition a day, send in those emails or letters when they request it, and go to the in-person events as well
03/27/2013
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by Pixel
I think changing your icon on a social media site for 'equality' or any other cause is silly. Are you actually doing something else for the cause? No? Then a shiny new icon is, as my grandmother would say, about as useful as tits on a ... more
Well, most of the people who got the alert for the day got it because there were several pro-rights groups that had it listed, but most of the people who are on those groups are bombarded by petitions and in-person events being listed regularly, so I'd imagine if you'd stick around in a group that constantly posts that sort of thing instead of just photos or status updates, chances are you probably are there to get notification of the petitions and such, otherwise being a part of the group would just get annoying. So I'd imagine most of the people who knew to change their picture already are doing other things I changed mine, and I sign at least 1 petition a day, send in those emails or letters when they request it, and go to the in-person events as well
03/28/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
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Originally posted by Pixel
I think changing your icon on a social media site for 'equality' or any other cause is silly. Are you actually doing something else for the cause? No? Then a shiny new icon is, as my grandmother would say, about as useful as tits on a ... more
I agree that doing things such as volunteering make a more quantitative difference, but I would argue that even changing profile pictures does to a certain extent, as well. For one, queer and ally visibility. It can make a difference. It did for Rob Portman. It did for Dick Cheney. It did for my dad. Knowing a "real life gay person" can make people reevaluate their own beliefs. Secondly, I know that when I was a queer teenager, seeing such overwhelming support for "something queer" would have made the world of difference. Perhaps I wouldn't have spent so many years hating myself to the point of nearly destroying myself. Perhaps I wouldn't have felt so alone. So different. Perhaps I would have been able to come out sooner, knowing that some people in my ultra-conservative hometown supported a form of queer rights. It's true that I will never be able to tell you the extent that such tokens of supports would have had on me, but I'm fairly confident it would have, in the very least, been positive.

There are so many amazing causes out there that people can give their time and money to support. And maybe some people who changed their pictures are supporting this and other causes in those ways that are more measurable; however, I believe that little actions like this can make a difference, too. Just because you can't do everything doesn't mean you can't do something.
04/01/2013
Contributor: DreezzyyBabyy DreezzyyBabyy
Yes, I did. As for the people saying there was no point in doing so, what's wrong with it? Who does it harm? It's better to show your support than to be ignorant. Okay thanks (: I would like to get married so this IS a big deal to me. I support so many causes, what's wrong with supporting mine? I'm just ready for it to not be such a big deal anymore and for when I can get married to a woman without it being called a "gay marriage", but just a marriage.
04/01/2013