calling women gay?

calling women gay?

neon neon
what do you think of lesbian and bisexual women calling themselves "gay"?
04/01/2011
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hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Seems fine to me. Even though it is common for people to say "gays and lesbians" as a group, gay is a gender-neutral term to refer to people exclusively attracted to their own gender.
04/02/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
I think people can call themselves whatever they like. *shrug*
04/02/2011
Curves Curves
i think it sounds silly. that's like a gay man calling himself "lesbian".

queer makes more sense.
04/02/2011
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Quote:
Originally posted by Curves
i think it sounds silly. that's like a gay man calling himself "lesbian".



queer makes more sense.
But some people (not me, but its a common conception) find "queer" to be offensive. You're never gonna please everybody.
04/02/2011
chidoll chidoll
Quote:
Originally posted by neon
what do you think of lesbian and bisexual women calling themselves "gay"?
I like using the term 'gay' for myself. I use 'lesbian' about the same amount, though. I don't understand someone who is bi using it, though. To me, gay means being attracted to the same sex exclusively. But as long as it's not being used as an insult, whatever. *shrug* To each their own, though!
04/04/2011
Brosia Brosia
I prefer gay myself (or better yet, queer). "Lesbian" to me just has too many connotations that don't fit.
04/27/2011
horngry horngry
I think it's fine. There shouldn't be different terms for men and women.
04/27/2011
Triple X Moma Triple X Moma
Quote:
Originally posted by neon
what do you think of lesbian and bisexual women calling themselves "gay"?
I think everyone can be gay it means happy.
08/11/2011
TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
I think it's perfectly fine.
08/11/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by BadassFatass
I think people can call themselves whatever they like. *shrug*
That's what I was going to say.

In my mind, I think of "gay" as a man. But, if a woman wants to use the term, who the hell am I to tell her otherwise? It's her sexuality.
08/11/2011
FleurDevereux FleurDevereux
I'm female and I frequently say I am gay. I don't see any problem with it at all.
08/22/2011
zz1aag zz1aag
I love calling myself "Gay". I must say I strongly dislike when people call me "Queer." Just personal preference.
08/22/2011
K101 K101
I don't quite see the problem with it? Never known of anyone who had a problem with it.
08/22/2011
LuciFaery LuciFaery
Quote:
Originally posted by Curves
i think it sounds silly. that's like a gay man calling himself "lesbian".



queer makes more sense.
If I were a gay man, I'd call myself a lesbian~

I don't really care what people call themselves. Yes, I typically use 'gay' for men and 'lesbian' for women, but I call myself gay, and I'm a lesbian. I do take small issue with bisexual people calling themselves gay, because they're not, they're half-gay. And it sends the wrong message, a bisexual calling themself gay, so that's my only real issue with it.
08/22/2011
Paradoxica Paradoxica
Quote:
Originally posted by neon
what do you think of lesbian and bisexual women calling themselves "gay"?
It's the term I find most comfortable
09/04/2011
Rockasaurus Rockasaurus
I'm totally okay with it. Like Portia Del Rossi has said, some people have problems identifying as lesbians, but are okay with being gay. My girlfriend and I just call ourselves gay most of the time. It's easier.
05/09/2012
tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by neon
what do you think of lesbian and bisexual women calling themselves "gay"?
SHRUG. why not. people can label themselves whatever the hell they want ASAIC
05/10/2012
Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I think they can call themselves whatever they want.
05/10/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
I call myself lesbian, gay, queer, dyke, whatever I feel like at the time. I've had a lot of people tell me I'm not a dyke because I'm femme but you know what? Sometimes I feel like a dyke. I think whatever you want to call yourself is fine.
05/11/2012
sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
Quote:
Originally posted by neon
what do you think of lesbian and bisexual women calling themselves "gay"?
It annoys me when people call women gay, men are gay women are lesbians...I don't know it bothers me for some reason
05/11/2012
namelesschaos namelesschaos
What ever people call themselves I'm fine with.

However in formal/professional writing, I would expect a bit more care with language. For those that don't know calling women "gay" reflect a male bias it be like saying only policeman fireman etc. in formal written it would be inappropriate due to the gender bias.
05/11/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
I don't see a problem with someone referring to themselves how they want though it can be confusing to others not informed. I tend to associate "gay" with a homosexual male and "lesbian" with a homosexual female. The term queer is more of an umbrella term for those outside of the gender and sexual binary.
05/11/2012
dragonn dragonn
Quote:
Originally posted by neon
what do you think of lesbian and bisexual women calling themselves "gay"?
seems fine to me.
05/11/2012
Stacy8807 Stacy8807
I mostly use the term gay for myself. I prefer that over lesbian for some reason. But sometimes I do use the term lesbian. When I think of the term gay I just think of a person that likes the same sex, not a homosexual guy. I guess I'm a different thinker then most people lol.
05/20/2012
Youssii Youssii
Quote:
Originally posted by Curves
i think it sounds silly. that's like a gay man calling himself "lesbian".



queer makes more sense.
But queer doesn't just mean "gay" - a lot of people use to to describe other orientations and gender identities that aren't cis/straight.
05/20/2012
Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
That's what I was going to say.

In my mind, I think of "gay" as a man. But, if a woman wants to use the term, who the hell am I to tell her otherwise? It's her sexuality.
I totally agree.
05/20/2012
Bzz Bzz
I use gay and lesbian interchangeably for myself.
05/21/2012
tiggle biddies tiggle biddies
gay is a more socially acceptable word where i live. lesbian sounds dirty, i guess because of so many pornos based off of men's fantasys of what women must do when they are alone.

my room mate will call herself a dyke sometimes. (she's bi) somehow dyke sounds less like a slutty word than lesbian.
05/21/2012
marshmallow marshmallow
Everyone should be able to identify how they want!
05/29/2012
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