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Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Did you always know that you were GLTBQ? Did it dawn on you earlier in life, later in life? After something big happened in your life?

It seems like my friends sensed it long before I ever did. And I didn't totally come out until I met my girlfriend. And it's like I never was anything but lesbian.
09/14/2011
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Contributor: Rawhide Rawhide
I could tell during childhood that I was different from most females, but that had more to do with being masculine than being gay.

I knew I was gay when I hit puberty and started having crushes.
09/14/2011
Contributor: mizzmilla mizzmilla
I never really thought about it until I met my girlfriend, then it was the same - like I wasn't ever attracted to anyone else.
09/15/2011
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by mizzmilla
I never really thought about it until I met my girlfriend, then it was the same - like I wasn't ever attracted to anyone else.
That's so happy. Makes me smile and feel all warm inside.
09/15/2011
Contributor: Spoken Pandora Spoken Pandora
I think I knew that there was something going on with me. As a child I enjoyed playing those little intimate games us little girls enjoy so, but I didn't think anything of it then. I don't think I thought it was wrong nor did I realize there was a name for it. But I always craved women. I did the whole straight thing because that's all I knew. But the older I got the more it became apparent that I preferred women. When I was 18 I did a paper on it for school and during my research found myself.
09/18/2011
Contributor: Rawhide Rawhide
Lots of people I know realized in college though. Go figure
09/19/2011
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by Rawhide
Lots of people I know realized in college though. Go figure
Yeah, same here. I think it was part of why a few years ago when I first got the inkling, I was afraid to really say anything, even to my closest friends because I was afraid it would be viewed as me just going through some "phase."
09/20/2011
Contributor: PassionCpl PassionCpl
Nope, definitely didn't know until well into my 20's
11/06/2011
Contributor: ehue1992 ehue1992
I more or less always knew I was "different", but it wasn't until I was in middle school I knew for sure that I was gay.
11/09/2011
Contributor: sissymorwen sissymorwen
Well, I happen to believe that sexuality is fluid, so I don't think that I "always knew" what I identify as now.. Especially since I didn't have the words or the knowledge to conceptualize how I identify now when I was younger.
11/10/2011
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by sissymorwen
Well, I happen to believe that sexuality is fluid, so I don't think that I "always knew" what I identify as now.. Especially since I didn't have the words or the knowledge to conceptualize how I identify now when I was younger.
After reading a few other threads throughout the forums, I definitely like this concept of sexual fluidity. It seems to make a lot more sense and feels like it opens up a wider range for sexuality.
11/10/2011
Contributor: Rainbow Boy Rainbow Boy
For me, it was totally unusual. I had always strictly liked girls—sexually, physically, emotionally, you name it. Then, as puberty started to progress, I watched my first gay porn by accident, and I got pretty curious and aroused by man-on-man action. I tried anal shortly after because of that curiosity, and it's like I kept going down that path. Of course I still liked girls (and I still do) in the same ways, but I also liked guys as well. It feels to me as if I like members of the same sex a lot because I like anal so much, not the other way around.
11/11/2011
Contributor: mudpie mudpie
I definitely didn't always know. I figured it out when I was twelve.
11/15/2011
Contributor: Pink Kitty Pink Kitty
Well first off mine was a mistake, I met my first boyfriend when I was 13. I mean I had, had a girlfriend, but we didnt last. But this guy whom I seldom hung out with just totally kissed me one day. So more or less it was a shocker.
Earlier in my life, my parents caught me playing "Dress- up" with my female cousins, and took me to see a childrens shrink, he recommended a doctor, the doctor had said that I had a hormonal imbalance. As a 6 year old I didnt know what that meant.

So then I found out that I have JUST enough estrogen in my body (thats the imbalance more estrogen), to have fem type emotions. A few years ago (when I was about 18) I went to a check up without my parents and the doctor said AND I QUOTE; "The imbalance might explain my homosexuality and desire to crossdress, however does not make it any less wrong, you are who you are" So mine is medical AS WELL as mental.
11/17/2011
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by Pink Kitty
Well first off mine was a mistake, I met my first boyfriend when I was 13. I mean I had, had a girlfriend, but we didnt last. But this guy whom I seldom hung out with just totally kissed me one day. So more or less it was a shocker.
Earlier in my ... more
That's actually pretty rad, I like that. yay science! haha
11/17/2011
Contributor: Pink Kitty Pink Kitty
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Originally posted by wrecklesswords
That's actually pretty rad, I like that. yay science! haha
My parents have me on medication for it hahaha, Because my doctor is pro LGBT he has me on placebo's hahahahahaha
11/17/2011
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by Pink Kitty
My parents have me on medication for it hahaha, Because my doctor is pro LGBT he has me on placebo's hahahahahaha
bahaha that's even better! big cheers to your doctor!!
11/17/2011
Contributor: Pink Kitty Pink Kitty
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Originally posted by wrecklesswords
bahaha that's even better! big cheers to your doctor!!
Right? He gave me a drug that my parents have heard of and dont get that it is NOT real haha. They INSISTED I get medicated to "get impure thoughts from my head" haha. Its supposidly called Heterocil it has a fake website and everything XD. Its called Hetracil apparently
11/17/2011
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by Pink Kitty
Right? He gave me a drug that my parents have heard of and dont get that it is NOT real haha. They INSISTED I get medicated to "get impure thoughts from my head" haha. Its supposidly called Heterocil it has a fake website and everything XD. ... more
bahahaha! that is priceless!
11/17/2011
Contributor: midnightcaresses midnightcaresses
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Originally posted by wrecklesswords
Did you always know that you were GLTBQ? Did it dawn on you earlier in life, later in life? After something big happened in your life?

It seems like my friends sensed it long before I ever did. And I didn't totally come out until I met ... more
I didn't always know. I still don't think I know. :/
02/18/2012
Contributor: asoutherngirl asoutherngirl
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Originally posted by sissymorwen
Well, I happen to believe that sexuality is fluid, so I don't think that I "always knew" what I identify as now.. Especially since I didn't have the words or the knowledge to conceptualize how I identify now when I was younger.
I think sexuality is fluid too. In my teens I was 100% straight and now I am questioning.
03/01/2012
Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by wrecklesswords
Did you always know that you were GLTBQ? Did it dawn on you earlier in life, later in life? After something big happened in your life?

It seems like my friends sensed it long before I ever did. And I didn't totally come out until I met ... more
It wasn't until I was 19-20 when I figured it out. Looking back, I totally should have known though!
03/03/2012
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by charletnarouh
It wasn't until I was 19-20 when I figured it out. Looking back, I totally should have known though!
I kind of feel that way, too. I look back at my past behaviors, how I never really had "dreams" of 'marrying the perfect man'... and it just all makes sense now.
03/03/2012
Contributor: PirateofPenance PirateofPenance
I should have known, but I didn't.
03/04/2012
Contributor: SomeMonster SomeMonster
I think it was always something I considered, but I didn't really explore it until the opportunity for my first real relationship came up. Everything before then had been sort of an 'idolized' view of men I had intelligence-boners for, but weren't interested in getting serious with.
I'd had 'shameful' crushes on women before, but it always made me feel awkward and squirmy. Everything kind of sank into place for me once I met my longtime partner.
03/05/2012
Contributor: FruityCloud FruityCloud
As I child I always thought of guys, I figured I was straight. However, one of my best girl friend and I started making out, and we actually together in that moment realized we were Bisexual. I'm not with her anymore (as this was a few years ago), and I do still prefer guys, but I'm still very much attracted to girls.
03/07/2012
Contributor: Interesante Interesante
I didn't always know that I was transgender, no... But I never did feel comfortable wih myself when I thought I was female and there were a lot of signs pointing to this that made it really obvious, looking back on it.
03/10/2012
Contributor: Mia.The.Wonder.Slut Mia.The.Wonder.Slut
I always knew I preferred women over guys, but when I was young I thought it was because I wanted to emulate them. When I would draw, I always found drawing women to be more satisfying because I found the female body more beautiful. When I would pick my favorite characters in tv or film, it would always be a women. At sleepovers, I was always the first volunteer to practice kissing or "show mine" in hopes of glimpsing "yours." I never knew that girls could love girls or have sex with girls though until I grew up a little and saw my first girl-on-girl scene in "Wild Things," and it made me feel so nervous about my sexuality that I didn't address it again until high school. But denying didn't make it go away. I always loved women.
03/19/2012
Contributor: Sam I Am Sam I Am
I knew I was bi for sure by the start of middle school, and I had an idea that I liked girls and boys even in elementary school. I started feeling like my gender was wrong early in high school, and started really questioning and eventually coming out as genderqueer in college.
03/20/2012
Contributor: sneako sneako
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Originally posted by wrecklesswords
Did you always know that you were GLTBQ? Did it dawn on you earlier in life, later in life? After something big happened in your life?

It seems like my friends sensed it long before I ever did. And I didn't totally come out until I met ... more
always knew I was different, but didn't realize I was different sexually until I was 16
03/20/2012