How often do you "come out" a week?

Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
I am interested in hearing opinions from the LGBT community about how often they tell people about their sexual orientation who didn't know before.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Never
34
1-5 times
20
6-10 times
3
10-20
1
more
1
Total votes: 59 (54 voters)
Poll is closed
12/05/2011
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Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I guess that depends on how many people I meet in a week, and their relationship to me.
12/05/2011
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
I find myself having to do it all the time. I am comfortable with it usually but it gets annoying going to straight clubs or things like that becuase I know I will feel uncomfortable telling strangers I am not interested in them.
I hate it when people assume that becuase I am gay I am open for threeways or things like that. Guy's often ask me if they can watch me having sex with my girlfriend. This makes it really alkward for me and I just want people to understand that they wouldn't want to be watched having sex with the person they loved so why should I? Ahhh sore point for me : (
12/05/2011
Contributor: ehue1992 ehue1992
Yeah it really depends. Sometimes my reputation as the token gay kid in our small town precedes me, sometimes I have to spell it out to people. The only thing that stays constant is people's general disdain for gays in my little town. :\
12/06/2011
Contributor: Gingy Gingy
I don't really tell everyone of feel it necessary to tell anyone but when it comes up I am honest with who and what I am. I just don't think I should have to announce it all the time just as straight people don't have to.
12/08/2011
Contributor: JGrey JGrey
I keep it to myself
12/08/2011
Contributor: RavenWolf88 RavenWolf88
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I guess that depends on how many people I meet in a week, and their relationship to me.
Same here.
12/09/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
Depends on the person. I've not come out to anyone in about 2 years. Last person I came out to was my mother.
12/09/2011
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
I don't really tell anyone because it's just not relevant 99% of the time.

I don't try to hide it and I make comments that would allude to "it" plenty. *shrug*
12/10/2011
Contributor: neon neon
I have to tell people maybe 3 times a month. although I do talk about my girlfriend more than that and refer to her as such, not sure if that counts as coming out.
12/10/2011
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
I always play the pronoun game where I tell people I have a date with a person, or "they are nice" ahah, "they are attractive." When I don't feel that I need to come out I don't necessarily hide it I just don't stand in front of class and proclaim it.
12/11/2011
Contributor: ButchAndFemme ButchAndFemme
I actually can't remember the last time I had to "come out". I do occasionally hear a stutter over the phone when I am having a conversation with a customer service representative. "Well ma'am is your... wife... listed as well on the insurance policy?". I typically sense a lot of confusion.
12/11/2011
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
Quote:
Originally posted by ButchAndFemme
I actually can't remember the last time I had to "come out". I do occasionally hear a stutter over the phone when I am having a conversation with a customer service representative. "Well ma'am is your... wife... listed as well ... more
Haha the awkward "girlfriend and wife game." Congrats on being married, it's not an easy thing in this society! Marriage or gay marriage : )
12/19/2011
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
It's not a seceret and I dont really care who knows, but I dont tell anyone unless they ask or unless I feel there is a friendship. I do try to keep it quiet at work though.
01/05/2012
Contributor: null null
I don't really tell anyone, I try to keep it to myself.
Maybe that's why I can't find a female partner.
01/05/2012
Contributor: LeeBee LeeBee
I've never really come out. I just am how I am, and most people pick up on it once I mention say, my date with my girlfriend last night.
01/10/2012
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by Katelyn
I am interested in hearing opinions from the LGBT community about how often they tell people about their sexual orientation who didn't know before.
This week, I told two people I am trans
01/10/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
It doesn't really come up in day-to-day conversation, especially considering I'm single right now and not really looking.
01/10/2012
Contributor: mrs poop. mrs poop.
It's really not pertanaint to my everyday conversation. So ... Almost never?
01/11/2012
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
Quote:
Originally posted by Katelyn
I find myself having to do it all the time. I am comfortable with it usually but it gets annoying going to straight clubs or things like that becuase I know I will feel uncomfortable telling strangers I am not interested in them.
I hate it when ... more
I feel ya sister. But we had a super short conversation about this, so I know exactly where you're coming from.
01/25/2012
Contributor: marshmallow marshmallow
i dont really have to that often
07/04/2012
Contributor: ghalik ghalik
Pretty much never. People just assume I'm a big fat homo I guess.
07/04/2012
Contributor: quantumspork quantumspork
Very rarely—when I was with a girl I'd sometimes casually say "my girlfriend" in conversation and not always think about whether the person I was talking to knew already. I'll be spending next semester abroad, though, and just remembered that I'll probably be doing quite a bit of coming out while I'm there.
07/04/2012
Contributor: vitriolicvertigo vitriolicvertigo
It's obvious as hell that I'm a big queer. Everyone in my life knows, and if they're meeting me through someone else, they already know and are probably queer too.
07/05/2012
Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
i dont have to really say anything
07/13/2012
Contributor: Charry Charry
Most people know. When I came out, I just let everyone know at once, and I make it pretty obvious what I am.
07/13/2012
Contributor: PDXlady PDXlady
Depends for me too. If I meet someone and it's relevant to the conversation it might come up but it doesn't necessarily happen every week, maybe once or twice a month on average. Sometimes less than that.
07/15/2012
Contributor: Demonise Demonise
I don't mention it at all unless it comes up.. so rarely.
07/15/2012
Contributor: Equae Equae
Mine comes up fairly often because I recently got engaged, and now have to correct people that my fiancée is a she, not a he.
07/17/2012
Contributor: Lori Gonzales Lori Gonzales
everyday
10/10/2012