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Contributor: Roz W Roz W
Is there an L/G/B/T community where you are? Are you a part of it? Do you socialize mainly within it?

I live in a decent-sized city, and purposefully got involved with some queer-women's social groups when I thought it would get me dates (which it didn't directly, but was fun). Over time I noticed that people who were dating people of the same sex tended to stick around, and people who ended up dating people of the opposite sex would kind of disappear (this was a bi-friendly "queer" group). Now that my primary relationship is with someone of the "opposite" sex I find myself associating more with bi/pan people or just LGBT-friendly nerds. I do think different groups face different issues, and people tend to associate more with people whose life experiences are similar to their own; has this been your experience?
03/24/2012
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Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
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Originally posted by Roz W
Is there an L/G/B/T community where you are? Are you a part of it? Do you socialize mainly within it?

I live in a decent-sized city, and purposefully got involved with some queer-women's social groups when I thought it would get me dates ... more
I have lots and lots of LGBT friends and I'd say most of them are, but my closest are not.
03/24/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
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Originally posted by Roz W
Is there an L/G/B/T community where you are? Are you a part of it? Do you socialize mainly within it?

I live in a decent-sized city, and purposefully got involved with some queer-women's social groups when I thought it would get me dates ... more
I think that more open minded people enjoy hanging out with more open minded people.
03/25/2012
Contributor: Positwist Positwist
Yes and no. I have a few groups of friends that are mostly queer folks, but not exclusively. Our straight & cis friends are no more likely to drift away from the group than anyone else.

I also have groups of friends formed around other interests where I'm the only queer. Being part of a strong queer community is really important to me, but it's not the only community that's important to me.
03/25/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
Most of my friends are kind of queer. In the sense that their orientation isn't really clearly defined. It's a myriad of orientations, really. I like variety!
03/27/2012
Contributor: Voir Voir
All of my friends are straight personally but not exactly conservative minded I don't guess. Sexuality isn't really a big issue between us. We're friends because of similar tastes and likes and we kinda grew up and got in hella trouble together more than because of who we want as partners. Even though I'm constantly questioned by uhhh people we meet about my orientation I just usually shrug or state that I've dated men in the past. Because I really don't care ab that stuff =o=
03/28/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
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Originally posted by Caus
Most of my friends are kind of queer. In the sense that their orientation isn't really clearly defined. It's a myriad of orientations, really. I like variety!
I like variety too
03/28/2012
Contributor: tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by Roz W
Is there an L/G/B/T community where you are? Are you a part of it? Do you socialize mainly within it?

I live in a decent-sized city, and purposefully got involved with some queer-women's social groups when I thought it would get me dates ... more
-graduate high school
-all your friends come out of the closet
-...ok cool
03/28/2012
Contributor: SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
I live in a place with a fairly small LGBT population. We have two main social groups (and some people are in both), one for partying and one that is very chill. I'm very active in the chill group. Most of my closest friends are also LGBT and from my social group... and it's not that I have issues with being friends with straight people, but it's nice sometimes to be friends with someone else who understands you.
06/15/2012
Contributor: tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by Roz W
Is there an L/G/B/T community where you are? Are you a part of it? Do you socialize mainly within it?

I live in a decent-sized city, and purposefully got involved with some queer-women's social groups when I thought it would get me dates ... more
haha this is literally RIGHT next to the "how out are you" thread
06/15/2012
Contributor: Bittenflame Bittenflame
Well, I literally have 2 groups of friends in two places where I live. One in my hometown consisting of just straight people. The other at college which consists of all gay people XD
06/18/2012
Contributor: lia ayala lia ayala
love pride n i try to go to ne event the lgbt has in my area
06/20/2012
Contributor: Mitzuki Mitzuki
A lot of the people I know are straight, but open minded and curious. :]
06/21/2012
Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
I HAVE A MIXTURE
06/21/2012
Contributor: marshmallow marshmallow
yes!
06/23/2012
Contributor: DarthTaco DarthTaco
Most of my friends identify as straight or bisexual. I only have one gay friend xD. It's kind of funny how I always end up being the gay friend :'P. I'm also the religious friend o.o.
06/23/2012
Contributor: nori nori
I am part of my college's women's center. So quite a few of my queer community friends come from there.

But i've got a good mix of queer, lesbian, gay, queer, pan, trans*, poly and monogamous friends. I like the mix.
06/24/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
No, my friends are a really diverse mix of sexualities.
06/24/2012
Contributor: wildshores wildshores
most of my friends aren't straight, but they're not necessarily gay women
11/05/2012
Contributor: hanjonatan hanjonatan
i'm not part of any "community". i have friends of all kinds of orientations, though less straight dudes than anything else.
11/05/2012
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
Most of the people I speak to socially both on the Internet and in real life tend to be gay. Somehow I find that level of commonality makes things easier.
11/05/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I'd like to say that my partner and I have a pretty even mix of friends orientationwise. However the truth is that the majority of our friends are straight and we are simply not "out" to them at all.
11/05/2012
Contributor: katat katat
I live in a college town so there is a pretty decent sized gay community. Its very fluid though, with new people coming in every year and most leaving once they graduate
01/31/2013