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Contributor: Bittenflame Bittenflame
Is it a turn on or turn off when someone says they love you while cumming or afterwards?
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Turn on
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71  (59%)
Turn off
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7  (6%)
Neutral
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42  (35%)
Total votes: 120
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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Is it a turn on or turn off when someone says they love you while cumming or afterwards?
It has been over 35 years of marriage for us, and I will NEVER tire of hearing the words "I love you". Why on earth would it be a turn off to say that or hear that, during the most intimate of moments...the moment of rapture and joy???? Of course, there are many times I cannot say "I love you" to him as he is cumming...cause..well, I kind of have my mouth full, Ha, Ha.
06/16/2012
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
i love hereing "i love you" in the bedroom
06/16/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I'm really more into kinky, rough sex. "I love you" doesn't play into that too well. LOL We always say "I love you" right before we go to sleep, but not during or right after sex. It just doesn't fit the mood. I don't know that I'd say it's a turn off, but it's not something I really want to hear when I'm cumming. Any other time of day? I'm more than happy to hear those words.
06/16/2012
Contributor: LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
I'm really more into kinky, rough sex. "I love you" doesn't play into that too well. LOL We always say "I love you" right before we go to sleep, but not during or right after sex. It just doesn't fit the mood. I ... more
agreed.
06/16/2012
Contributor: Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
I like to hear it alot.
06/16/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Is it a turn on or turn off when someone says they love you while cumming or afterwards?
I used to like it but after my divorce, I don't like to hear it, especially at a climax point. It seems like an afterthought to me.
06/16/2012
Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
it just depends
06/16/2012
Contributor: 31 Flavors 31 Flavors
I like it if the lovemaking is gentle. It seems out of during violent or kinky sex.
06/16/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Is it a turn on or turn off when someone says they love you while cumming or afterwards?
I think it's a turn on.
06/16/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Is it a turn on or turn off when someone says they love you while cumming or afterwards?
Definitely a turn on.
06/16/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I love it
06/16/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
I'm indifferent but my bf loves it
06/16/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I enjoy it, but it's not necessarily super arousing, just pleasant in its own emotional way. I am more of a dirty talk sort of person, so it doesn't usually get said in the natural flow of language during sex, but I like hearing it afterwards.
06/17/2012
Contributor: Sir Sir
Depends on who says it. Sometimes it offends me.
06/17/2012
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I love it, though I don't want that to ever be the first place someone tells me they love me.
06/17/2012
Contributor: britanny0620 britanny0620
It depends on who says it, when they're saying it, what they mean by it, etc. I've been with people who warned me beforehand that it was a habit to tell people that they had sex with that they love them in the heat of the moment.
06/17/2012
Contributor: britanny0620 britanny0620
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
I'm really more into kinky, rough sex. "I love you" doesn't play into that too well. LOL We always say "I love you" right before we go to sleep, but not during or right after sex. It just doesn't fit the mood. I ... more
I understand what you mean, this is how I feel when I'm in a rough sex kind of mood.
06/17/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
I'm really more into kinky, rough sex. "I love you" doesn't play into that too well. LOL We always say "I love you" right before we go to sleep, but not during or right after sex. It just doesn't fit the mood. I ... more
I think everybody is different. We like rough stuff, too. Yet, we both often say "I love you" during the most vile activities. I'd have to say our Kink comes from the dark side of our love. But, from our love, still, none the less.

06/17/2012
Contributor: digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Is it a turn on or turn off when someone says they love you while cumming or afterwards?
doesn't matter
06/17/2012
Contributor: marshmallow marshmallow
Turn on!
06/17/2012
Contributor: LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I think everybody is different. We like rough stuff, too. Yet, we both often say "I love you" during the most vile activities. I'd have to say our Kink comes from the dark side of our love. But, from our love, still, none the less. ... more
Well said. xoxo
06/17/2012
Contributor: butts butts
We RARELY ever say "I love you" unlike most couples, but when we do, it's kind of a big deal. Once in a while during super intimate lovey sex we'll say it. We usually cry It's not that we don't love each other as much as the couples who say it often, we just like to keep it special and only use it when we feel it's really appropriate.
06/18/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
I never say it when I am cumming, but we do say it in the bedroom as well as other places.
06/20/2012
Contributor: lia ayala lia ayala
i like to hear that n sum other stuff
06/20/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Definite turn on.
06/20/2012
Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
Quote:
Originally posted by lia ayala
i like to hear that n sum other stuff
sounds great lia
06/20/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Is it a turn on or turn off when someone says they love you while cumming or afterwards?
it's pretty much what makes me come, hearing that.
06/20/2012
Contributor: snowyslut snowyslut
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Is it a turn on or turn off when someone says they love you while cumming or afterwards?
If it's my girlfriend, whom I love deeply, then it's a huge turn on.

Other people (we have an open relationship)... that would be a turn off.
06/20/2012
Contributor: HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Is it a turn on or turn off when someone says they love you while cumming or afterwards?
I personally am neutral however it makes extremely happy and satisfied especially if we climax together.
06/20/2012