My gf proposed, and I don't know what to do - I have to tell my family, but I know they are going to freak out. Any suggestions?
Telling a homophobic family you're getting married
02/05/2011
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It depends on your home and living situation, but I would be the better person and tell them. It's hard to give them the opportunity to be the family you want them to be when you keep in them in the dark and never give them the chance. Be honest, invite them to celebrate with you, and if they shun you then oh well. You gave them the invitation and you were the bigger person who actually put the effort into family togetherness and unconditional love. But hopefully they'll end up surprising you and really consider attending.
It's better to have invited them and being turned down than not to do it and risk missing the chance to be together for your special day. Who knows, even if they decline to join you now they might come to their senses 10 years down the road and regret it. And that's far better than them saying "No, we had no idea she was getting married. It really hurt us that she never shared that and we would have come for it."
Good luck!!!
It's better to have invited them and being turned down than not to do it and risk missing the chance to be together for your special day. Who knows, even if they decline to join you now they might come to their senses 10 years down the road and regret it. And that's far better than them saying "No, we had no idea she was getting married. It really hurt us that she never shared that and we would have come for it."
Good luck!!!
02/05/2011
I won't repeat Jen's sage advice, but I'll also add that prefacing the actual announcement with the fact that you are deeply in love and happier than you've ever been might help them realize what is important. Actually, saying it again after the announcement would reinforce it as well. Even if their first reaction is shock and loathing, hopefully over time they'd remember what was truly important in what you said.
Best of luck in telling your family, and congratulations for getting engaged!
Best of luck in telling your family, and congratulations for getting engaged!
02/05/2011
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