My husband is FTM and I have always felt that my sexuality is mutable but am more inclined to men, so when i label myself I say I'm straight.

Do you label your sexuality?
I find that it is something that come up in "Real world" situations like when I talk about my husband or when I call my husband he.

How do you all deal with this situation? less

It sounds like you're kind of fluid and that calling yourself "straight" may be the easiest way to deal with it in social situations. It might even make your husband feel more confident/secure/comfo rtable to have a straight wife. It might make him feel less like he falls into some kind of middle ground or grey area which might help his security and alleviate dysphoria. i do know a spare few trans* folks who feel like their trans* identity can get lost this way. Some that feel like they can no longer fit into the LGBT community if they get too assimilated into the straight world which can make some of them feel rejected or isolated so it's important to talk to him about it if you haven't already.

Of course, pansexual or bisexual or anything along those lines would work equally well, depending, obviously, on your husbands comfort.

i'm a lesbian. i have been criticized for being too closed minded or shallow because i'm not interested in trans* men, which can be frustrating. i think i'm pretty open but the reality is, they are men, and not because i'm clinging to my lesbian label, but because there are things about men i'm simply not attracted to and trans* guys, with or without surgery, have some or all of those things and it just doesn't work for me. i don't really rule out the possibility that it could happen but it hasn't so far. If it did, i'd have to reevaluate my lesbian label.

As a lesbian, i also definitely don't rule out the possibility that i could be attracted to and interested in a trans* woman who is interested in women. In which case, i'd still be a lesbian, of course. less

It sounds like you're kind of fluid and that calling yourself "straight" may be the easiest way to deal with it in social situations. It might even make your husband feel more confident/secure/comfo rtable to have a straight wife. It might make him feel less like he falls into some kind of middle ground or grey area which might help his security and alleviate dysphoria. i do know a spare few trans* folks who feel like their trans* identity can get lost this way. Some that feel like they can no longer fit into the LGBT community if they get too assimilated into the straight world which can make some of them feel rejected or isolated so it's important to talk to him about it if you haven't already.

Of course, pansexual or bisexual or anything along those lines would work equally well, depending, obviously, on your husbands comfort.

i'm a lesbian. i have been criticized for being too closed minded or shallow because i'm not interested in trans* men, which can be frustrating. i think i'm pretty open but the reality is, they are men, and not because i'm clinging to my lesbian label, but because there are things about men i'm simply not attracted to and trans* guys, with or without surgery, have some or all of those things and it just doesn't work for me. i don't really rule out the possibility that it could happen but it hasn't so far. If it did, i'd have to reevaluate my lesbian label.

As a lesbian, i also definitely don't rule out the possibility that i could be attracted to and interested in a trans* woman who is interested in women. In which case, i'd still be a lesbian, of course. less

My husband is FTM and I have always felt that my sexuality is mutable but am more inclined to men, so when i label myself I say I'm straight.

Do you label your sexuality?
I find that it is something that come up in "Real world" situations like when I talk about my husband or when I call my husband he.

How do you all deal with this situation? less