I'm curious as to the consensus on passing, when a new acquaintance assumes you are cisgendered. Please feel free to expand on answers/thoughts in the comments! Thank you
Feelings on Passing as Cis
04/15/2013
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I wish I could pass as cis, as in pass as being cis and of the gender I identify with.
It makes me really mad when people think I'm cis as in I'm the gender I was assigned at birth. I think it's obvious from my clothing and manner that I'm not cis and they should at least ask me.
It makes me really mad when people think I'm cis as in I'm the gender I was assigned at birth. I think it's obvious from my clothing and manner that I'm not cis and they should at least ask me.
04/16/2013
Sometimes I pass, sometimes I don't. I take it with the territory. It can be nice to be seen as a particular gender, but at the same time as long as people are being respectful, friendly, etc. I don't really mind all that much.
04/16/2013
As someone who's genderqueer, and wears....unusual clothing, I'm thrilled that people often can't tell "what I am."
One time a girl asked me what I was.....I told her I was female. She said, "No, not like that. What ARE you?" As in, she didn't know I was human. It seriously made my day.
One time a girl asked me what I was.....I told her I was female. She said, "No, not like that. What ARE you?" As in, she didn't know I was human. It seriously made my day.
04/16/2013
I don't understand this question. Passing is literally the point of transition. So you and other people see you as the gender you are. Why would you like not passing?
04/16/2013
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I was talking with a trans* guy and he said that though he liked being perceived as male he wasn't comfortable with people assuming he was cisgendered.
Originally posted by
needapacker
I don't understand this question. Passing is literally the point of transition. So you and other people see you as the gender you are. Why would you like not passing?
So I was curious what other people thought about passing with cis assumptions, and that's where the question came from.
04/16/2013
i wish i could pass...but it's hard to bind a 44 DDD chest....
04/18/2013
Yeah, I pass. People are always just going to my friends, "Oh, he's gay?" So yeah, they see me as a man-loving-man.
04/18/2013
I just want to share a sorta funny story...see I'm a cis-female but I run a huge support group in my state where a lot of trans-men/women come, meet with each other, discuss problems and an online support group for people who live in other countries or can't travel out of state to come but still want the same result. I collect donations and help people out...so I always giggle a little bit when instead of thinking I'm an ally, someone will compliment me saying that if they met me and didn't know me they'd think I was a cis-female. Nope, just an ally It's always so cute, and I think it makes my trans-friends happy when they find out I'm just an ally who puts that much time and effort into helping the cause, but I think it varies for trans-individuals. While some of my friends prefer to just "pass" others are proud that they've gone through something like hormones, surgeries, etc and proudly state that they are transgender.
04/18/2013
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But maybe it ws said with the hope that you'd answer with your gender identity, saying you're genderqueer or something else.
Originally posted by
WhoopieDoo
As someone who's genderqueer, and wears....unusual clothing, I'm thrilled that people often can't tell "what I am."
One time a girl asked me what I was.....I told her I was female. She said, "No, not like that. What ... more
One time a girl asked me what I was.....I told her I was female. She said, "No, not like that. What ... more
As someone who's genderqueer, and wears....unusual clothing, I'm thrilled that people often can't tell "what I am."
One time a girl asked me what I was.....I told her I was female. She said, "No, not like that. What ARE you?" As in, she didn't know I was human. It seriously made my day. less
One time a girl asked me what I was.....I told her I was female. She said, "No, not like that. What ARE you?" As in, she didn't know I was human. It seriously made my day. less
04/20/2013
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She was like 7, and she was looking at me like I was a mythical creature
Originally posted by
TransMarc
But maybe it ws said with the hope that you'd answer with your gender identity, saying you're genderqueer or something else.
04/20/2013
I prefer being perceived as cis when meeting new people. Being trans* isn't a big part of my life and while many of my good friends know and I go to support groups, in my day to day encounters I would rather not have someone clock me as trans or approach me because they realize i'm not cis
04/20/2013
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I like it, but it can also remind me of the fact that I'm trying to pass, reminding me of dysphoria and whatnot. Bittersweet reaction more often than not
Originally posted by
lesglitter
I'm curious as to the consensus on passing, when a new acquaintance assumes you are cisgendered. Please feel free to expand on answers/thoughts in the comments! Thank you
05/11/2013
I wouldn't enjoy passing as a cis guy because I'm nonbinary, and I'm already used to people assuming I'm a cis woman. Both make me uncomfortable, though.
05/25/2013
I'm a trans guy but I guess my presentation is very fluid in the sense that I sometimes dress masculinely, but overall am pretty feminine in look, dress, and mannerisms. When I'm not trying to pass I'm okay with being misgendered (not "okay", but at least it's understandable), but when I am it's very disheartening because I still get read as a woman most of the time.
05/28/2013
I WISH I could. I think it could help me feel more sure about my gender and stuff. Also would be really helpful for cosplay XD
06/08/2013
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Oh man, same here. I often don't really dress too masculine because my body type and my wardrobe don't really allow for it (I haven't been able to afford many new clothes in a long time), so most of the time I can understand it and I'm not too terribly upset. It's a lot worse when I get referred to as Miss or Young Lady, though.
Originally posted by
lexxxmoonchild
I'm a trans guy but I guess my presentation is very fluid in the sense that I sometimes dress masculinely, but overall am pretty feminine in look, dress, and mannerisms. When I'm not trying to pass I'm okay with being misgendered (not
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I'm a trans guy but I guess my presentation is very fluid in the sense that I sometimes dress masculinely, but overall am pretty feminine in look, dress, and mannerisms. When I'm not trying to pass I'm okay with being misgendered (not "okay", but at least it's understandable), but when I am it's very disheartening because I still get read as a woman most of the time.
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07/28/2013
I like to pass as a cis guy, I feel that T is working.
08/10/2013
I feel I pass as a cis guy and it makes me entirely happy.
08/18/2013
I'm genderqueer and being that I'm from the bible belt, people rarely acknowledge any gender outside of the man/woman binary. I think on my best days I might just look like a masculine woman, but most days? Nope, I don't pass at all.
08/20/2013
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same here
Originally posted by
Ciao.
Sometimes I pass, sometimes I don't. I take it with the territory. It can be nice to be seen as a particular gender, but at the same time as long as people are being respectful, friendly, etc. I don't really mind all that much.
08/20/2013
Most people I meet think I like men and they are right regardless of if they notice I'm a male or not. Anyone who misgenders me at first glance tends to change their mind as soon as they're around me for any time, even if just a few minutes. I just melt right into "Guy!" because I have always been one.
The fun happens when they notice it's "gay guy". Oh, the looks on their faces make me smile! I like to make it into a little joke, even if I never apologize or try to hide the fact that I'm a gay guy. As the old saying goes, "If you don't laugh, you'll be crying".
The fun happens when they notice it's "gay guy". Oh, the looks on their faces make me smile! I like to make it into a little joke, even if I never apologize or try to hide the fact that I'm a gay guy. As the old saying goes, "If you don't laugh, you'll be crying".
08/31/2013
I'll be honest with all of you. I had to goggle CIS to find out what this is about. And I'm still a little confused as to the what the letters stand for.
Sorry,
Sorry,
09/04/2013
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the letters dont stand for anything, it's short for cisgender
Originally posted by
OH&W, Lovebears
I'll be honest with all of you. I had to goggle CIS to find out what this is about. And I'm still a little confused as to the what the letters stand for.
Sorry,
Sorry,
09/06/2013
If I were trans, I think I'd feel complex about it. I believe I'd love passing, but sometimes, I might want to be viewed as trans and proud of it. I think more often than not, I'd love passing.
10/02/2013
I'm genderqueer and am almost always read as being a butch woman. I feel a lot closer to femme boy so that's frustrating to me. If I try to present more femme I think I'll just be read more as a straight woman and that would be even worse!
But I don't think its a bad thing for other people to want to pass. Or not pass. Its a really personal decision.
But I don't think its a bad thing for other people to want to pass. Or not pass. Its a really personal decision.
10/08/2013
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It's hard to pass in public with people you know you
Originally posted by
lesglitter
I'm curious as to the consensus on passing, when a new acquaintance assumes you are cisgendered. Please feel free to expand on answers/thoughts in the comments! Thank you
10/19/2013
i pass as cis, and i like it that way. i'm not completely stealth but i only "come out" as trans to those who need to know (doctors, relationship partners, etc)
10/26/2013
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