your discussion topic and question are a bit confusing. ^^;

I find strap-ons to be pretty awesome. I have a harness from the 'bend over beginner' and a few dildos I use. Not having a big dick sucks, obviously, but I also have the option of choosing my own size to suit a partner's preference, the shape, color, vibrations, etc. I own a VixSkin Buck and that one is Awesome. It's pretty girthy though, so not for everyone, but the material and construction are outstanding.
I'm in the process to trying to get a Realdoe. Wish they came in more colors, though. And that the bulb was longer. I did have a FTM friend who drilled into a dildo he liked, sawed down the bulb of the Feeldoe, and inserted the new slim bulb part into the dildo.
A lot of guys use pumps as well. I made my own though and so I can't really give a recommendation on one at this point.

I've really enjoyed the Goodfella: he's realistic, a good size and nice texture. I'm hoping to get a "real pump" soon: right now I'm working with a homemade one. And of course, my StP and packer are always important.

REALDOE!

Can't yap about it enough!