HELP!!! Does anyone know where to find a sex positive/gender identity therapist?

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Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
OK, so I have a friend (he has no idea where to go and I said I'd help) and he's struggling in the worst way right now with sexual and gender identity issues. He's hurting really badly and needs a therapist or a counselor that he can see A.S.A.P. in North Carolina. Maybe Fayetteville? Maybe Raleigh? He has transportation so "in the area" if they're great. Confidentiality is important, he'll be paying in cash. If you know someone, or know how I can find someone, I would be forever grateful. I figured I'd start here, with this wonderful community before I went to find a random person on the internet.

Thank you so much.
03/06/2011
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Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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03/07/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
Unfortunately I'm not from that area and have no idea how I could help. I wish him the best though.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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Originally posted by BadassFatass
Unfortunately I'm not from that area and have no idea how I could help. I wish him the best though.
Thank you, that means a lot
03/08/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by BadassFatass
Unfortunately I'm not from that area and have no idea how I could help. I wish him the best though.
I did a little bit of googling, but like her, I also didn't find much. I also don't know much about things in that matter. I'm sorry.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
Yeah, I was shocked that there wasn't a resource of sex-positive counselors and therapists across the US. Like, really shocked, or at least not one that was easily found through a search. Thanks for looking though, I appreciate any love and help I can get right now
03/08/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I did a little digging, and came up with the following - I hope some of it is helpful! Please bear in mind I'm not at all familiar with the geography of North Carolina so some of these may be a ways away:

From link

"North Carolina

Samuel S. Allen, MA, NCC, LPC
Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill area, NC.
Email : info@samallencounselin g.com
Website : link
Samuel Allen is a licensed psychotherapist with over 20 years' experience with the transgender community. Expertise and extensive experience working with FTM's, as well as individuals who identify as MTF,TS,CD,TG, lesbian, gay, bi, pansexual, questioning, intersex, pre/post/non-op, partners, families. Services are kink/leather-friendly. Located in the Raleigh-Durham NC area, with telephone counseling available everywhere. Also provide consultations to employers, organizations, attorneys, etc. Referrals for other services, including Hormone Therapy and SRS, if applicable.

Louise Hahn, M.A., NCC
Winston-Salem, Durham, Wilmington, NC.
Nationally certified counselor specializing in gender-related issues. Psychotherapy addressing concerns of CD's, TG's, TSs and their SOs. In RTP (Research Triangle Park) every other week.
Phone : (910) 395-0772

David Price Rogers, Ph.D.
Triangle Psychology Services
5425 Turkey Farm Road
Durham, NC. 27705
Phone : (919) 968-8070

Nova Swanstrom MA, LPA- gender therapist
Delta Behavioral Health
1920 Tradd Court
Wilmington, NC. 28401
Phone : (910) 343-6890
Email : nswanstrom@deltadbt.co m

Lisa Griffin, Ph.D.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Charlotte, NC.
Phone : (704) 458-0433
Email : info@drlisagriffin.com
Website : link
Dr. Griffin specializes in gender identity issues, working primarily with gender- variant children, adolescents, and adults and their families, and also providing therapy groups for people in transition. As part of this work, she provides guidance throughout the transition process, linking individuals with medical and legal professionals as needed. She also periodically offers workshops for spouses, partners, and parents. She is a member of WPATH and IFGE, as well as the American Psychological Association and the North Carolina Psychological Association. She is a member of the Advisory Board of the University of North Carolina at Charlotte Center for Professional and Applied Ethics and of the Board of Directors of the Freedom Center for Social Justice.

Kyra Grosman, M.A.
6115 Park South Blvd
Charlotte, NC. 28205
Phone : (704) 552-0116
Email : kgrosman@southeastpsyc h.com
Website : link

Melissa Leonhardt, MA NCC LPC
Licensed Therapist
North Carolina
" I am a licensed professional counselor that is a lesbian. I have been in a monogamous relationship for 18 years and we have an 8 year old son via artificial insemination. I have 17 years experience in counseling children and families. In the past 6 years I have opened my own online private practice that serves the GLBT community exclusively. I do relationship counseling, counseling for depression, anxiety, etc. I also counsel transgendered individuals who are seeking HRT or SRS. My fees are affordable and services are confidential. Counseling is provided to the GLBT community by a member of the GLBT community. This is where to go if you are having problems with depression, anger, anxiety, relationship issues, etc. I also provide recommendation letters for hormone treatment and SRS in accordance with the WPATH. Counseling is provided online via secure live chat. Affordable prices and NC Medicaid is accepted. For more information Email : brandnewdaycounseling@ gmail.com or visit my website : link "

Also, I came across a therapist in Durham whose personal website advertises confidential transgender couseling: link If it were me, I might start with her, but only based on the little blurb on her website.

Please remind your friend that it can take time to find a counselor that 'fits' a person, for any issue - if the first one doesn't click properly, keep trying!

Good luck to your friend
03/08/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I did a little digging, and came up with the following - I hope some of it is helpful! Please bear in mind I'm not at all familiar with the geography of North Carolina so some of these may be a ways away:

From link

"North ... more
Tori, you brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much! You are amazing. Seriously, I'm in awe. Thank you

And I have kept reminding him that he's not crazy, or hopeless and that these things take time. I really appreciate the support
03/08/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I did a little digging, and came up with the following - I hope some of it is helpful! Please bear in mind I'm not at all familiar with the geography of North Carolina so some of these may be a ways away:

From link

"North ... more
Seriously, you may have just help save a life. How did you find this website? I might write to them and tell them that they are difficult to search for.
03/08/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
Good find Tori and good luck to your friend Lucidity.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Lucidity
Seriously, you may have just help save a life. How did you find this website? I might write to them and tell them that they are difficult to search for.
It was no problem, really. I just did some searching and kept changing key words until I found what I wanted. I think this one came up when I dropped 'therapist' and 'psychologist' and used 'counselor' and 'transgender' worked better than 'gender identity' as well. It just takes a little time

And he's certainly not crazy, I think most people need therapy at one time or another in their life - even if it's not as critical of an issue, it's simply the letting go of what's going on in your head to someone else, with knowledge of how these things work, to help you organize and sort through things. But as with any kind of therapy/counseling, it is VERY important that your friend find the right person to work with for them - not just the first one they find. It can take time and can be frustrating, just like finding the right psychiatrist to understand your anxiety issues (I've done that one myself) or even finding the right OB to deliver your baby. Patients in counseling won't get better with the wrong therapist, simply because they're not able to fully trust them.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!
03/08/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
It was no problem, really. I just did some searching and kept changing key words until I found what I wanted. I think this one came up when I dropped 'therapist' and 'psychologist' and used 'counselor' and ... more
You're amazing! And yeah, I spent literally over 12 hours talking to him this weekend. Telling him he's FINE and not crazy! I'm like, "Sweetie, if you want to wear woman's underwear, you don't need medication or a psyche ward, you just need some well-fitting lingerie!"

I think he knows it'll take time to find the right fit; he's a really smart, well adjusted person, the only thing wrong with him is that he thinks there's something wrong. He just doesn't understand that it's ok to be fluid in your sexuality or gender identity and that having fetishes and kinks doesn't make you a freak.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Lucidity
You're amazing! And yeah, I spent literally over 12 hours talking to him this weekend. Telling him he's FINE and not crazy! I'm like, "Sweetie, if you want to wear woman's underwear, you don't need medication or a psyche ... more
What might be helpful then as well to some counseling might be a support group - that way not only can he hear a professional tell him that he's perfectly fine, but he can be around other people with similar feelings and actually SEE that he's going to be ok. The counselor he chooses can most likely help him with that. Local LGBT centers usually have support groups as well!
03/08/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
What might be helpful then as well to some counseling might be a support group - that way not only can he hear a professional tell him that he's perfectly fine, but he can be around other people with similar feelings and actually SEE that ... more
Yeah, that's one of the reasons I wanted him to find a good counselor, so they could point him in the direction of a quality, local support group.

Unfortunately, he still has three years left in the military Not the most nurturing environment for a person with gender and sexual identity issues.
03/08/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
You ROCK, Tori! Great job!

Lucidity, I hope your friend is able to find the help he needs. It's a difficult area to sometimes find help in, but even calling the nearest University Teaching Hospital may help him find someone as well. Community hospitals usually won't be much help, but Teaching Hospitals have better resources.

Good luck to him.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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Originally posted by P'Gell
You ROCK, Tori! Great job!

Lucidity, I hope your friend is able to find the help he needs. It's a difficult area to sometimes find help in, but even calling the nearest University Teaching Hospital may help him find someone as well. ... more
That is a brilliant idea, P'Gell! Thank you

This is why I came to you all for help. I've never seen such great ideas and blind caring as I have in this community.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Vesper Vesper
In case the above doesn't work out, or if anyone else is looking for therapists near them, there is also:

link
03/10/2011
Contributor: XzombehxbearzX XzombehxbearzX
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Originally posted by Lucidity
OK, so I have a friend (he has no idea where to go and I said I'd help) and he's struggling in the worst way right now with sexual and gender identity issues. He's hurting really badly and needs a therapist or a counselor that he can see ... more
google brand new day counseling its online and i think maybe local to you therapist name is melissa shes uberly nice.
04/06/2011
Contributor: XzombehxbearzX XzombehxbearzX
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I did a little digging, and came up with the following - I hope some of it is helpful! Please bear in mind I'm not at all familiar with the geography of North Carolina so some of these may be a ways away:

From link

"North ... more
I see Melissa once monthly. Shes so very nice. Bit lacking in email responses and always showing up but best therapist Ive ever had and Ive had waaaaaaay to many. Ive talked to ppl that have seen her and they loved her. Shes the best and cheapest there is in my opinion. Not to mention she does online as well as in person.
09/12/2011