I did a little digging, and came up with the following - I hope some of it is helpful! Please bear in mind I'm not at all familiar with the geography of North Carolina so some of these may be a ways away:

From link

"North Carolina

Samuel S. Allen, MA, NCC, LPC
Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill area, NC.
Email : info@samallencounselin g.com
Website : link
Samuel Allen is a licensed psychotherapist with over 20 years' experience with the transgender community. Expertise and extensive experience working with FTM's, as well as individuals who identify as MTF,TS,CD,TG, lesbian, gay, bi, pansexual, questioning, intersex, pre/post/non-op, partners, families. Services are kink/leather-friendly. Located in the Raleigh-Durham NC area, with telephone counseling available everywhere. Also provide consultations to employers, organizations, attorneys, etc. Referrals for other services, including Hormone Therapy and SRS, if applicable.

Louise Hahn, M.A., NCC
Winston-Salem, Durham, Wilmington, NC.
Nationally certified counselor specializing in gender-related issues. Psychotherapy addressing concerns of CD's, TG's, TSs and their SOs. In RTP (Research Triangle Park) every other week.
Phone : (910) 395-0772

David Price Rogers, Ph.D.
Triangle Psychology Services
5425 Turkey Farm Road
Durham, NC. 27705
Phone : (919) 968-8070

Nova Swanstrom MA, LPA- gender therapist
Delta Behavioral Health
1920 Tradd Court
Wilmington, NC. 28401
Phone : (910) 343-6890
Email : nswanstrom@deltadbt.co m

Lisa Griffin, Ph.D.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Charlotte, NC.
Phone : (704) 458-0433
Email : info@drlisagriffin.com
Website : link
Dr. Griffin specializes in gender identity issues, working primarily with gender- variant children, adolescents, and adults and their families, and also providing therapy groups for people in transition. As part of this work, she provides guidance throughout the transition process, linking individuals with medical and legal professionals as needed. She also periodically offers workshops for spouses, partners, and parents. She is a member of WPATH and IFGE, as well as the American Psychological Association and the North Carolina Psychological Association. She is a member of the Advisory Board of the University of North Carolina at Charlotte Center for Professional and Applied Ethics and of the Board of Directors of the Freedom Center for Social Justice.

Kyra Grosman, M.A.
6115 Park South Blvd
Charlotte, NC. 28205
Phone : (704) 552-0116
Email : kgrosman@southeastpsyc h.com
Website : link

Melissa Leonhardt, MA NCC LPC
Licensed Therapist
North Carolina
" I am a licensed professional counselor that is a lesbian. I have been in a monogamous relationship for 18 years and we have an 8 year old son via artificial insemination. I have 17 years experience in counseling children and families. In the past 6 years I have opened my own online private practice that serves the GLBT community exclusively. I do relationship counseling, counseling for depression, anxiety, etc. I also counsel transgendered individuals who are seeking HRT or SRS. My fees are affordable and services are confidential. Counseling is provided to the GLBT community by a member of the GLBT community. This is where to go if you are having problems with depression, anger, anxiety, relationship issues, etc. I also provide recommendation letters for hormone treatment and SRS in accordance with the WPATH. Counseling is provided online via secure live chat. Affordable prices and NC Medicaid is accepted. For more information Email : brandnewdaycounseling@ gmail.com or visit my website : link "

Also, I came across a therapist in Durham whose personal website advertises confidential transgender couseling: link If it were me, I might start with her, but only based on the little blurb on her website.

Please remind your friend that it can take time to find a counselor that 'fits' a person, for any issue - if the first one doesn't click properly, keep trying!

Good luck to your friend less

I did a little digging, and came up with the following - I hope some of it is helpful! Please bear in mind I'm not at all familiar with the geography of North Carolina so some of these may be a ways away:

From link

"North Carolina

Samuel S. Allen, MA, NCC, LPC
Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill area, NC.
Email : info@samallencounselin g.com
Website : link
Samuel Allen is a licensed psychotherapist with over 20 years' experience with the transgender community. Expertise and extensive experience working with FTM's, as well as individuals who identify as MTF,TS,CD,TG, lesbian, gay, bi, pansexual, questioning, intersex, pre/post/non-op, partners, families. Services are kink/leather-friendly. Located in the Raleigh-Durham NC area, with telephone counseling available everywhere. Also provide consultations to employers, organizations, attorneys, etc. Referrals for other services, including Hormone Therapy and SRS, if applicable.

Louise Hahn, M.A., NCC
Winston-Salem, Durham, Wilmington, NC.
Nationally certified counselor specializing in gender-related issues. Psychotherapy addressing concerns of CD's, TG's, TSs and their SOs. In RTP (Research Triangle Park) every other week.
Phone : (910) 395-0772

David Price Rogers, Ph.D.
Triangle Psychology Services
5425 Turkey Farm Road
Durham, NC. 27705
Phone : (919) 968-8070

Nova Swanstrom MA, LPA- gender therapist
Delta Behavioral Health
1920 Tradd Court
Wilmington, NC. 28401
Phone : (910) 343-6890
Email : nswanstrom@deltadbt.co m

Lisa Griffin, Ph.D.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Charlotte, NC.
Phone : (704) 458-0433
Email : info@drlisagriffin.com
Website : link
Dr. Griffin specializes in gender identity issues, working primarily with gender- variant children, adolescents, and adults and their families, and also providing therapy groups for people in transition. As part of this work, she provides guidance throughout the transition process, linking individuals with medical and legal professionals as needed. She also periodically offers workshops for spouses, partners, and parents. She is a member of WPATH and IFGE, as well as the American Psychological Association and the North Carolina Psychological Association. She is a member of the Advisory Board of the University of North Carolina at Charlotte Center for Professional and Applied Ethics and of the Board of Directors of the Freedom Center for Social Justice.

Kyra Grosman, M.A.
6115 Park South Blvd
Charlotte, NC. 28205
Phone : (704) 552-0116
Email : kgrosman@southeastpsyc h.com
Website : link

Melissa Leonhardt, MA NCC LPC
Licensed Therapist
North Carolina
" I am a licensed professional counselor that is a lesbian. I have been in a monogamous relationship for 18 years and we have an 8 year old son via artificial insemination. I have 17 years experience in counseling children and families. In the past 6 years I have opened my own online private practice that serves the GLBT community exclusively. I do relationship counseling, counseling for depression, anxiety, etc. I also counsel transgendered individuals who are seeking HRT or SRS. My fees are affordable and services are confidential. Counseling is provided to the GLBT community by a member of the GLBT community. This is where to go if you are having problems with depression, anger, anxiety, relationship issues, etc. I also provide recommendation letters for hormone treatment and SRS in accordance with the WPATH. Counseling is provided online via secure live chat. Affordable prices and NC Medicaid is accepted. For more information Email : brandnewdaycounseling@ gmail.com or visit my website : link "

Also, I came across a therapist in Durham whose personal website advertises confidential transgender couseling: link If it were me, I might start with her, but only based on the little blurb on her website.

Please remind your friend that it can take time to find a counselor that 'fits' a person, for any issue - if the first one doesn't click properly, keep trying!

Good luck to your friend less

It was no problem, really. I just did some searching and kept changing key words until I found what I wanted. I think this one came up when I dropped 'therapist' and 'psychologist' and used 'counselor' and 'transgender' worked better than 'gender identity' as well. It just takes a little time

And he's certainly not crazy, I think most people need therapy at one time or another in their life - even if it's not as critical of an issue, it's simply the letting go of what's going on in your head to someone else, with knowledge of how these things work, to help you organize and sort through things. But as with any kind of therapy/counseling, it is VERY important that your friend find the right person to work with for them - not just the first one they find. It can take time and can be frustrating, just like finding the right psychiatrist to understand your anxiety issues (I've done that one myself) or even finding the right OB to deliver your baby. Patients in counseling won't get better with the wrong therapist, simply because they're not able to fully trust them.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!! less

You're amazing! And yeah, I spent literally over 12 hours talking to him this weekend. Telling him he's FINE and not crazy! I'm like, "Sweetie, if you want to wear woman's underwear, you don't need medication or a psyche ward, you just need some well-fitting lingerie!"

I think he knows it'll take time to find the right fit; he's a really smart, well adjusted person, the only thing wrong with him is that he thinks there's something wrong. He just doesn't understand that it's ok to be fluid in your sexuality or gender identity and that having fetishes and kinks doesn't make you a freak. less

What might be helpful then as well to some counseling might be a support group - that way not only can he hear a professional tell him that he's perfectly fine, but he can be around other people with similar feelings and actually SEE that he's going to be ok. The counselor he chooses can most likely help him with that. Local LGBT centers usually have support groups as well! less

You ROCK, Tori! Great job!

Lucidity, I hope your friend is able to find the help he needs. It's a difficult area to sometimes find help in, but even calling the nearest University Teaching Hospital may help him find someone as well. Community hospitals usually won't be much help, but Teaching Hospitals have better resources.

Good luck to him. less

I did a little digging, and came up with the following - I hope some of it is helpful! Please bear in mind I'm not at all familiar with the geography of North Carolina so some of these may be a ways away:

From link

"North Carolina

Samuel S. Allen, MA, NCC, LPC
Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill area, NC.
Email : info@samallencounselin g.com
Website : link
Samuel Allen is a licensed psychotherapist with over 20 years' experience with the transgender community. Expertise and extensive experience working with FTM's, as well as individuals who identify as MTF,TS,CD,TG, lesbian, gay, bi, pansexual, questioning, intersex, pre/post/non-op, partners, families. Services are kink/leather-friendly. Located in the Raleigh-Durham NC area, with telephone counseling available everywhere. Also provide consultations to employers, organizations, attorneys, etc. Referrals for other services, including Hormone Therapy and SRS, if applicable.

Louise Hahn, M.A., NCC
Winston-Salem, Durham, Wilmington, NC.
Nationally certified counselor specializing in gender-related issues. Psychotherapy addressing concerns of CD's, TG's, TSs and their SOs. In RTP (Research Triangle Park) every other week.
Phone : (910) 395-0772

David Price Rogers, Ph.D.
Triangle Psychology Services
5425 Turkey Farm Road
Durham, NC. 27705
Phone : (919) 968-8070

Nova Swanstrom MA, LPA- gender therapist
Delta Behavioral Health
1920 Tradd Court
Wilmington, NC. 28401
Phone : (910) 343-6890
Email : nswanstrom@deltadbt.co m

Lisa Griffin, Ph.D.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Charlotte, NC.
Phone : (704) 458-0433
Email : info@drlisagriffin.com
Website : link
Dr. Griffin specializes in gender identity issues, working primarily with gender- variant children, adolescents, and adults and their families, and also providing therapy groups for people in transition. As part of this work, she provides guidance throughout the transition process, linking individuals with medical and legal professionals as needed. She also periodically offers workshops for spouses, partners, and parents. She is a member of WPATH and IFGE, as well as the American Psychological Association and the North Carolina Psychological Association. She is a member of the Advisory Board of the University of North Carolina at Charlotte Center for Professional and Applied Ethics and of the Board of Directors of the Freedom Center for Social Justice.

Kyra Grosman, M.A.
6115 Park South Blvd
Charlotte, NC. 28205
Phone : (704) 552-0116
Email : kgrosman@southeastpsyc h.com
Website : link

Melissa Leonhardt, MA NCC LPC
Licensed Therapist
North Carolina
" I am a licensed professional counselor that is a lesbian. I have been in a monogamous relationship for 18 years and we have an 8 year old son via artificial insemination. I have 17 years experience in counseling children and families. In the past 6 years I have opened my own online private practice that serves the GLBT community exclusively. I do relationship counseling, counseling for depression, anxiety, etc. I also counsel transgendered individuals who are seeking HRT or SRS. My fees are affordable and services are confidential. Counseling is provided to the GLBT community by a member of the GLBT community. This is where to go if you are having problems with depression, anger, anxiety, relationship issues, etc. I also provide recommendation letters for hormone treatment and SRS in accordance with the WPATH. Counseling is provided online via secure live chat. Affordable prices and NC Medicaid is accepted. For more information Email : brandnewdaycounseling@ gmail.com or visit my website : link "

Also, I came across a therapist in Durham whose personal website advertises confidential transgender couseling: link If it were me, I might start with her, but only based on the little blurb on her website.

Please remind your friend that it can take time to find a counselor that 'fits' a person, for any issue - if the first one doesn't click properly, keep trying!

Good luck to your friend less