How do you identify yourself?

Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
How do you identify yourself?
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Cross dresser
Other: Please explain
Total votes: 315 (231 voters)
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Contributor: Kkay Kkay
Genderqueer. I dislike 'it'. In most cases I prefer to just be referred to by name, or as a person.
Contributor: GenderSexplorations GenderSexplorations
FtM and male who is proud of my trans* status! Generally 'he' or 'they'.
Contributor: LuciFaery LuciFaery
I agree with Kkay. I prefer being referred to as genderqueer, if not my name. But, if I have to choose a pronoun, I prefer 'he'.
Contributor: NuclearTeapot NuclearTeapot
I prefer the your highness and/or the use of the royal "We" but generally I don't mind being a she.

I have dabbled in cross dressing but currently due to my stature and large chest I am running into trouble "passing".
Contributor: Twitch Twitch
Contributor: [Red] [Red]
I'm a chick with intensifying penis envy. I also like wearing men's clothing and I enjoy the aesthetic my chest binder creates, but I'm not very interested in 'passing' as a male. Not sure if that qualifies as crossdresser or not, but I checked the box anyways. I like pretty lacy things as much as I like to fantasize about using a penis. Normal, average human female, I suppose. Just a girl cool with being female (who bitches about shit like big hips and annoying boobs and icky periods like every other chick I know) and I consider myself straight.

What I don't like is when I'm treated differently for being female without regard to who I am as a person. Online, I typically prefer not to mention my gender and let people make assumptions as they will.
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
I am incredibly interested in gender studies and the like, but I go by 'female'. Language is very complicated and I have a hard time thinking of anything else I'd like to go by, particularly when it comes to pronouns. I'm a her/she, mostly because its easy. If I could think of an easy alternative, I'd probably accept that. My gender, although a part of me, does not define me. It doesn't -mean- anything to me. It means I can carry children (though I won't) and that I have a monthly period. That's about it. Its a biological term for the way my body looks and works.

There was a little girl at the nursery school where I worked who often was called a 'he' by other students because she had short hair. One day she turned to them and laughed and said: 'You think I'm a boy. Because I have short hair'. I think that identifying someone by how they look is sort of strange and archaic, but its a hard thing to get out of. I mean, we still have male/female bathrooms, for heaven's sakes. (Though I once saw a photo of a bathroom somewhere that featured a gender neutral bathroom area, and that was awesome).

I mostly think: Be whatever you want to be and do whatever you want to do. She/He/It? They are words. You aren't words. You are a human being, and honestly, what you 'are' beyond that doesn't matter one bit.
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
I think I have something to add. I commented 35 minutes ago, but I keep thinking about this question and discussion. I wondered a few moments ago about how I would describe being 'female', if I take on that title. And for me, it doesn't feel like anything. It doesn't really mean anything to me, but I can see how it would for other people. For me, being female just means I've got a vagina and that's all. It doesn't have anything to do with what I like to do or who I am.

That would be a little like if I decided to identify myself by the little freckle I have above my lip or the scar I have from when I broke my arm as a kid. It doesn't mean anything to me.

Can I just... not identify? And still recognize that I am carrying the female biological makeup?

I'm a chromosomally female. And I identify as human. That is all.
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I'm a woman.

To me, "female" is an adjective. When I hear someone say something similar to "A female was in the room." I always want to ask them "a female what?" because in pure English the word "female" is not a noun.

Anyway, my pedantic side being purged, I enjoy being a woman. It works for me and I am thankful every day I was fortunate to have been born with an identity which I am comfortable with. I have some trans friends who have gone through difficult times although most are doing well as older people, their childhoods and younger days were more difficult than most. I'm glad things can be done to help those who need re-assignment, however deeply each individual needs to go to feel comfortable in their bodies. I wish society would be more tolerant of simply people the way they are and the way they need to be.
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
Originally posted by P'Gell
I'm a woman.

To me, "female" is an adjective. When I hear someone say something similar to "A female was in the room." I always want to ask them "a female what?" because in pure English the word ...
Yes! Thank you for this.
Contributor: XzombehxbearzX XzombehxbearzX
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
How do you identify yourself?
I go with Queer.
But that makes it easier rather then saying:
Gender Queer, FTM, Male, Polyamourus, Pansexual.
Contributor: JRabbits JRabbits
I'm just a girl.
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
How do you identify yourself?
We are a male/female couple.
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I'm genderqueer or an androgyne. Specifically a female-bodied genderqueer/androgyne.
Contributor: nori nori
zie and hir (zee, and here) are typically accepted for most queer people; though i find it difficult to put into everyday conversation.
Contributor: Rawhide Rawhide
Female, pronouns she and her
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'm a woman.
Contributor: TheBadHobbit TheBadHobbit
I'm cisgengered female.

I'm also minorly autoandrophiliac, AND really like the idea of crossdressing - not just to be kinky, but just for the fun of dressing up and pretending to be something different for a while <3 I've veered towards bigender territory a few times, but at heart I simply identify as female, no matter how much I might like to be male for a little while.

So while I'm pretty into genderplay, I probably can't call myself genderqueer, and I always feel a bit weird coming in from my position of cis privilege and poking around in the trans community . . .

. . . but y'all have all the best info on packing and binding! ;3

. . . does that make me a horrible person?

edit: 'towarlds' isn't a word! Who knew?
Contributor: big b big b
don and emmas baby boy.
Contributor: cameronfeidh cameronfeidh
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
How do you identify yourself?
I'm not really sure if I'm genderqueer or trans, but I'm definitely on the trans* spectrum (currently transitioning from female to male). I prefer male pronouns but I'm alright with people calling me female pronouns as well; whatever. I know who I am and a word won't change that.
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
Female but I don't really care if someone calls me otherwise.
Contributor: chenault chenault
Genderfluid or genderqueer, if we're going with widely known labels. Getting into more detail, the more performative I'm feeling, the more masculine my gender expression -- although there is a definite foppishness to my masculinity. My spectrum looks something like: Marlene Dietrich --- Oscar Wilde --- Bertie Wooster --- Peter Wimsey.
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
How do you identify yourself?
Bodily I identify myself as female, but I do not believe that Personalities (or Individual consciousness) is male or female.
Contributor: jesseftm jesseftm
I'm out as trans, but I identify as male.
Contributor: M121212 M121212
I'm a lady ^.^
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
Female-bodied female, for me!
Contributor: julia. julia.
Cis Female
Contributor: digipop digipop
Contributor: sissymorwen sissymorwen
I tend to identify as gender fluid, non-binary, transgender person. To most of society, that gets shortened to "feminine presenting" because explaining myself 15 times a day isn't fun.