How uncomfortable/upset does it make you?

Contributor: heather-mooney heather-mooney
Do you get frustrated when there are so many posts on here that are addressed as LADIES ONLY or something like that?
08/18/2012
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Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
No, I just get frustrated when I've seen the question asked 5 times already.
08/18/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by Geogeo
No, I just get frustrated when I've seen the question asked 5 times already.
Yup, this!
08/18/2012
Contributor: snowyslut snowyslut
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Originally posted by heather-mooney
Do you get frustrated when there are so many posts on here that are addressed as LADIES ONLY or something like that?
Not really?

If it's about women's issues (i.e. for cis women and trans women) that's fine.

If it's really about dfab people, or about people who have certain anatomy that SOME women and some non-women have... that does bother me.

It's really important to remember (or even just know) that genitals != gender.
08/19/2012
Contributor: butts butts
It's slightlyyy bothersome, especially as someone who very much enjoys vaginal penetration even though I'm a transman and those type of posts are often about female geared toys, but I understand that most people don't think about/know about transmen being included in what they're referring to as "ladies". I don't make a fuss over it, I just usually mention that I'm transsexual somewhere in my reply. As long as they aren't referring to me directly as a "lady" or making rude/misinformed comments, I'm fine haha.
08/20/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
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Originally posted by snowyslut
Not really?

If it's about women's issues (i.e. for cis women and trans women) that's fine.

If it's really about dfab people, or about people who have certain anatomy that SOME women and some non-women have... that does ... more
This. Sometimes it really is a topic geared towards people who identify as "ladies" in the social sense and I stay out of those (For example, a topic asking women which set of lingerie they think looks nicest.).
For topics related to simply having FAAB parts, I vote if it's anonymous and it does bug me but most people are ignorant not malicious I figure.
08/20/2012
Contributor: violets violets
I agree with others here that it's fine if it's a topic about women's issues or the like. But I really don't like when it's a topic about something like health issues for AFAB people. I get that most people just don't think about it, so it's not like they're doing it intentionally or meaning to hurt people. But it still just makes me feel rather uncomfortable.
08/20/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
Nope
08/20/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I think it's goofy phraseology and I don't particularly like it, but it doesn't make me particularly angry or deeply upset. It's just a bit annoying.
08/21/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
I get that they are trying to get to the audience which they are addressing or asking questions of. But to me, I feel like ladies can figure out if the question is for them or not without it.
08/25/2012
Contributor: MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
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Originally posted by butts
It's slightlyyy bothersome, especially as someone who very much enjoys vaginal penetration even though I'm a transman and those type of posts are often about female geared toys, but I understand that most people don't think about/know ... more
This, a thousand times, yes. But I don't reply, it still makes me too upset..
08/25/2012
Contributor: Happenstance Happenstance
Women have the right to their own spaces. But cis women do NOT have the right to exclude trans women. That kind of thing is pure transphobia. It's like saying that trans women aren't women. Yet historically, so many "womyn only" lesbian spaces have allowed trans men in?? How the hell does that make any sense? Trans men aren't women; they're men! Trans women are women!

So, because women (cis and trans) experience sexism and have different experiences from men or non-binary people, they are absolutely entitled to their own safe spaces. If someone is defining "ladies" or "women" or "womyn" by genitailia or anything other than personal identity and experiences, it's problematic as heck.
08/27/2012
Contributor: pleasurehunter pleasurehunter
It doesn't bother me, i just dont bother paying attention
08/28/2012
Contributor: Geography Geography
If it bothered people so much, wouldn't they start making "Male only" posts?
12/14/2012
Contributor: Ly-Ra Ly-Ra
It depends on what it's about, I guess... but yeah, sometimes it bugs me.
12/15/2012