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Contributor: FindingJames FindingJames
Do you think they are a good idea? They are informative, but I wouldn't want to out myself like that.
07/13/2012
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Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
If I want someone to know my real pronoun preference, they're usually someone I'm comfy enough with that I can just say it - I'm a very verbal person, so cards wouldn't be ideal for me.
07/13/2012
Contributor: dontbackdown02 dontbackdown02
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Originally posted by FindingJames
Do you think they are a good idea? They are informative, but I wouldn't want to out myself like that.
no thank you
07/13/2012
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
What are "pronoun cards"? I can form an idea, but I'd rather be educated
07/13/2012
Contributor: pestilence pestilence
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
What are "pronoun cards"? I can form an idea, but I'd rather be educated
I'm also curious about this.
07/13/2012
Contributor: sodapin sodapin
I wouldn't opt for them only because it just makes it an even bigger situation than necessary in my opinion D:.

I did find THESE cards amusing though xD
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They may come in handy for those people who just don't get it.
07/14/2012
Contributor: Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
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Originally posted by sodapin
I wouldn't opt for them only because it just makes it an even bigger situation than necessary in my opinion D:.

I did find THESE cards amusing though xD
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They may come in handy for those people who just don't ... more
oh my god, i vote for those
07/24/2012
Contributor: Schattenstern Schattenstern
I think they'd out me.. But I do pass well enough and I prefer the pronouns people assume (male) me as so I guess I wouldn't need them.
12/23/2012
Contributor: needapacker needapacker
I think it's stupid. If you pass, they're unnecessary and you'd out yourself. If you don't pass, simply correct the person. It makes things way more complicated than they need to be.
12/24/2012
Contributor: hanjonatan hanjonatan
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Originally posted by needapacker
I think it's stupid. If you pass, they're unnecessary and you'd out yourself. If you don't pass, simply correct the person. It makes things way more complicated than they need to be.
yep, this. i don't understand why anyone would want to make a situation more awkward like that, unless they just really want to draw attention to the fact that they're trans. no thank you.
12/25/2012
Contributor: fizzygato fizzygato
I'm not sure what you mean by "pronoun cards," either.

You mean like a business card you hand out that says your pronouns on it, or a name tag sort thing you wear that has your pronouns on them?

I feel like it would out me, and I pass as a cis little boy.

I often like toying with people, like having half of them call me "she" and half call me "he," but get anxiety about the two different pronoun-callers crossing paths.

Idk... I feel like I do subtle ways of outing myself, instead of indirectly saying them, like writing an autobiography where I talk about myself in the 3rd person and use "they" pronouns the entire way. It makes people ask questions like, "Why were you calling yourself they?" Then I'm like, "Because it's my pronouns!"

I feel like I get slight dysphoria from being called "she" pronouns and feel mad/ afraid when I'm called "he," but at the same time like I don't feel like spending 20 minutes educating every person I meet who openly genders me, which would be quite a few people, like sales clerks, cashiers, etc. Not a lot of people I've met understand things ~beyond the binary~ and I don't have the time/energy to teach them all

For that reason I'd probably just keep living how I am/ not using pronoun cards
12/27/2012