What, if any, is your level of familiarity with the transgendered community?

I am a srtaight male with a wife,but if I were single it would not bother me at all to date or fall in love with a transgender. I think anyone that finds someone that loves them and they also love the other person for whatever they may or may not be is just fine.

On the physical end you would get the best of all worlds in a sexual way and I know I enjoy vibrators/dildos fucking my ass by my wife so why not by my transgender spouse who would love me with there dick or our dildo's/vibrators. Even the ability to just try oral sex and taste come from you spouse and still have a vagina of sorts to lick and fuck would not be so bad in my mind. It does look good on the videos.

I think you would also be able to really talk about anything without grossing out your lover would be easier in a relationship with a transgender. Just my opinion and I say live and let live.

I agree with SL&P, you really need to go do a little research Mr. P Spot. I know you were trying to be helpful and all, but in your ignorance you said some very hurtful and offensive things.

On another note, I just wanted to tell you all that this weekend, my dad told his parents that he's transgendered. They took it really well, especially given their very conservative background, so we're all happy and relieved. We haven't yet told them that he has started the transition from man to woman; we're taking baby steps, letting them get used to the idea, before we dump everything on them. It would crush my dad to lose his parents; we were afraid we'd never be able to tell them at all. So basically, I wanted to let you all know that things are going really, really well so far. If his parents from the deep south can learn to accept a transgendered child, then there's hope that the rest of the world may someday, too. ^__^

Thank you Luscious, SL&P, and Misha's Amusements for educating! It's not always easy and it makes a huge difference.

I recently passed up an opportunity for education. My mother and I had been talking about pregnancy and although I really want a baby I really don't want to carry it because of the way it would very visually gender me in a way I can't bind. I not-so-subtly mentioned a friend I had who didn't want to get pregnant because they're genderqueer and mom said, "oh, well then they should get pregnant because it might fix it!". *sigh*

I'm not sure I'm up to the task of educating her and it made me realize just how valuable the folks who do educate are.

keep up the good work!

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There are trans people out there who totally pass. I don't look like an effeminate male or a butch dyke or gay, or even like someone who could have been a woman. I am an average sized height, very athletically built middle aged man who looks like a man. Big feet, big wrists, muscles, average guy clothing. I'm not bisexual. I'm probabley more on the sexually conservative side. I am just as confused by women as the rest of the straight guys are. I don't understand all the conversation about "Bath and Bodyworks" or the hype about finally having a Victoria's secret in the mall or why a woman needs more than one purse or pair of shoes. But I understand the lure of really fine tools and how to renovate anything after a trip to Home Depot.

Trans people are not all alike. Its more of a mind/gender identification concept than anything to do with sexuality. It so does not mean we are going to be bisexual or drag queen looking or effeminate or open to anything sexually.

And the"pregnant man" grew up here. He had his own set of issues. He hated his dad and idolized his mom. He was till he transitioned, the typical Filipina beauty padgent queen. He eventually left the island because doctors will not perform top surgeries on transgender people. Its because it does not pay, number one, number two, there are so few that they are invisible in Hawaii's culture, and three, our doctors really are not skilled in things that are not day to day general surgery. Forget lung transplants,etc. We don't even have enough beds or doctors for those in great need. Even on the big Island of Hawaii, there is only 1 orthopedic surgeon.

Men don't have babies, women have babies. Maybe this is old fashioned thinking, maybe its a reaction to feeling "someone is exploiting us." We are not freaks or freaks of nature ass a whole. Just like there are cisgender freaks, there are transperson freaks. Not everyone is gender fluid. Some transmen and women are completely undetectable in society.

This has been a good read; thank you to everyone that contributed actual facts or links to find solid information. Thank you also to those that shared personal stories.

There is a lot of educating that needs to happen in general. I identify as queer and most of my friends are queer. Many are trans and many are claiming their own identities as they see fit; female born and remaining female bodied but identify as male, or FtM and on hormones with breast reduction surgery but don't identify as male or female.

It is not up to me or anyone to tell another who they are and I am so thankful for those that educate us gently. I still fumble at times and have much to learn. More often when I talk about another person, I am beginning to refer to that one person as "they" rather than "he" or "she". It isn't a perfect fit but it honors those of my friends that do not fit the gender binary of masculine or feminine.

For transgender in the workplace issues and rights:

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For transgender health issues and education:


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Gender Identity 101 (good site)


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Trans-health .com because trans people have unique health issues

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Zhanna Wilde's personal page. She has many videos on Youtube which have great deal of informative documentaries. Zhanna is a great artist, poet and musician from Kiev, Ukraine. She was born a man and made a fruitful transition and now lives in Israel but has been a great mentor to the international trans community. She is also on Facebook. She's remarkable, courageous and full of energy. She also mamged to transition in Russia/Ukraine before homosexuality and transgenderism was decriminilized. People are still ostracized from varying from the norm in all areas of what used to be known as USSR. Even though the former Soviet Union is now many countries that are free and democratic (and even less socialist than US) many people have been publicly beaten for not assuming cookie cutter gender roles. Even the first Russian Pride Parade last year had to have violence stop by the police.

I live in a place, where there are not very many transgendered people. (I' have not seen one up close...)

If I saw one, I would treat them how they deserve to be treated. How they want to be treated, and that is like any other person. If a man wants to be a women, so be it, good for him/her. Its none of my business really.

If you gotta dream follow it.

Just to let you know, I'm trans, too. I'm a pre-HRT, pre-op FTM. I've been out for at least five years (coming up on six) and I'm 20. I plan to go the whole way through transitioning, and what with the good news of the FoxL2 gene, it could be easier for transsexuals to transition in the future (and if it's successful, no more shots and pills for the rest of our lives).

So, hey, I ended up bumping into this topic because I'm looking for things that will be useful with me being sexually active. I'm glad to see there are a crapton of us out there and on this site. I don't feel, eh, a little creepy for it.

Yeah, nine months late, but hey, even if someone thinks they don't know any transgender people, they probably do. We're everywhere, really.

An ex boyfriend I had felt he was a woman inside and considered surgery, but decided it was to inhuman currently. It kinda bothered me in the end because I'm straight and I wouldn't have been okay with a lesbian relationship later in life.

I am the wive of a transwoman. We have been married for less than a year and recently my partner has conveyed her desire to transition to living as a female.

I have to say it will be interesting to go from being outwardly heterosexual to being viewed as a lesbian by others. But luckily I am bisexual and so I have no issues and have begun to embrace being a "new lesbian" and enjoy now referring to my husband as my wife. Of course those around me aren't finding it as easy.

One book I just started reading is "She's Not the Man I Married" by Helen Boyd, I haven't gotten through it enough to give a good review, but it is helping me to process the change.

My lover is transitioning to become male!

My sister's lover also claims to be FTM transgendered.