What reasons have people given you to try and stop your transition? - Created by MasonM on Jun 11, 2012: EdenFantasys Forum

MasonM

I recently made my second attempt to come out to my mother. The first had been completely ignored and so I tried a different tactic this time by attempting to tell her about the 'side effects' of my DHEA (which she thinks I'm taking for depression).

As I was explaining them I commented 'I don't mind the physical changes a bit because if it turns me into a guy, so what? I would rather be happy as a guy than miserable as a woman.'

The look she gave me was disgusted and horrified and then I got a lecture on how it's 'wrong' and 'a fallacy' and various things from the Bible.

I've also had others try to discourage me, primarily for reasons relating to their knowing me as a female or how 'weird' it would be to have to learn new pronouns, etc.

So now I'm wondering what reasons others have been given for why they shouldn't transition.

Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):

Religious Reasons (God made you perfect!)

Unnatural Reasons (It's just weird and wrong!)

Social Reasons (People won't understand!)

Psuedo-Science Reasons (You're just femme/butch!)

Personal Reasons (But you're my baby boy/girl!)

Physical Reasons (It's bad for you!)

Other (Please Explain)

Total votes: 54 (18 voters)

Poll is closed

06/11/2012

Peggi

All of my friends tend to get religious reasons, unnatural, social, personal and on occasion they'll use a psuedo-science.

I think a lot of it has to do with the way people are taught. They aren't taught wide-spread acceptance, and that can become a problem. Even as someone who fully supports anyone who is trans, the first time someone came out to me, I was the first person she told, and I was super confused.

I didn't understand it, but I tried to be there, listen, be supportive, even if I didn't know "how it all worked". I didn't understand the psychology behind it or the genetics at play, but I just accepted that this was how things were going to be.

Once you break that barrier down and they realize and accept that this is just how it will be, no matter how long that takes, it gets easier.

06/11/2012

britanny0620

((In regard to the 'God made you perfect!' answer: ))
Uhm... so, people shouldn't aspire to lose/gain weight? People shouldn't wear makeup? People shouldn't get any reconstructive surgery? Or heck, even surgeries for health reasons? Because God made them PERFECT.
I'm not a religious person, and I don't mind people who are, but if you're gonna use that excuse to shame something, you need to realize the full extent of it.

(Not directed at anyone in particular, just saying)

06/11/2012

thisisadeletedaccount

I'm not even going through any medical/hormonal transition processes, but even a vague mention of their existence makes my mom start rambling about the side effects and health concerns and how no one is perfectly happy with their body and she knew a woman who hated her nose so much that she got multiple plastic surgery treatments and then she still wasn't happy and assorted other puzzling, tangential commentary. It tires me out and makes it harder to even consider talking about more trans*-related things with her.

06/12/2012

AnotherBrother

The one that bothers me the most is "You're my baby boy/girl".

When I came out I got "I know what you have: I gave birth to you. You'll always be my baby girl." It took a decade to get her to stop calling me a girl. I'm still fighting with her over calling me the right name. At least she's finally catching on 15 years later.

06/13/2012

sodapin

Quote:

Originally posted by MasonM

Lol, practically all of the above D:

06/15/2012

aaronlt

...Yeah. My mom claimed that I hate women. (Despite that I'm a feminist?)

I get a lot of psuedo-science crap, like stating that post-op, my dick won't be huge, so what's the point of transitioning.

And the "religious" claims that I'll go to hell or that god this and god that.

The funniest anti-trans bit I've ever seen/heard is, "Why don't you just change your mind?"

It's really sad. The body is designed to serve the brain. My neurons tell me I'm male. My body cannot supersede my brain's functionality without causing severe duress.

06/15/2012