Okay this may sound a little strange, and most people that know me will think of it as strange if I asked them. Anyhow, what is the best way to learn how to do a BJ? Heres the reason why I want to know.

I have sort of a bad gag reflex, although I found that even if you have a bad reflex you can train into getting over it. So I would like to know how can I go about finding the right toy to help me train. This is actually true with me, but I found that if I don't eat before giving a BJ; than I don't have the gag reflex all that much. Still with part of it getting in the way I want to train so I can go about pleasing my man without stopping every so seconds.

I have found that using a Vibe is a little to orthodox with the vibrations and the bumps on the toy. The ball gag does not really help with training. SO if you have any ideas on how I might go about doing this before doing so on my man. Any ideas will help. less

Okay this may sound a little strange, and most people that know me will think of it as strange if I asked them. Anyhow, what is the best way to learn how to do a BJ? Heres the reason why I want to know.

I have sort of a bad gag reflex, although I found that even if you have a bad reflex you can train into getting over it. So I would like to know how can I go about finding the right toy to help me train. This is actually true with me, but I found that if I don't eat before giving a BJ; than I don't have the gag reflex all that much. Still with part of it getting in the way I want to train so I can go about pleasing my man without stopping every so seconds.

I have found that using a Vibe is a little to orthodox with the vibrations and the bumps on the toy. The ball gag does not really help with training. SO if you have any ideas on how I might go about doing this before doing so on my man. Any ideas will help. less

I say there's only one way: ask the person who's receiving what they like. Everyone is different just like every female prefers a different pace during oral. I like it slow and gentle, others like rougher clitoral stimulation during oral. You can't ever really know what will work for any specific person. Just keep on with them until you find what they like the most.

Ooops. Didn't realize you meant how to learn to not gag while doing it. I'd say try not to cram it so far into your throat. I don't like that feeling and it's never been a necessary thing for anyone I've been with, so I didn't ever have a reason to force myself through the discomfort, although it's likely I'd ever force myself through too much discomfort just for someone's selfish desires, but I had a partner who choked me on his own -- not a good idea. My partner doesn't require that to get off thankfully, but if your truly serious bout going through that, I'd recommend the numbing stuff for your throat. less

make sweet love to the penis with your mouth. go slow and gentle. pretend your licking and sucking the most delicious popsicle of your life. look for reactions in him or even ask for him to tell you if he likes what you're doing or not. lick his penis all over. tease it. rub his head on your lips.

every one if different and enjoys different stuff so communication is really the best way you could approach anything. let each other know what you like, what's good and bad, etc.

and on the gagging part, you don't need to fit it all into your mouth. and if you try just go easy and be relaxed. but it's really not that important. just use your hand at the base of the shaft to keep him stimulated all over. licking and putting your mouth on it without it being in your mouth is usually fun too less