For the kids: Presents & Santa

For the kids: Presents & Santa

zwee75 zwee75
For those of you with children, what percentage of the gifts that your children receive are from Santa as opposed to being from you? I don't remember getting any presents from my parents as a kid, I thought they were all from Santa. I never questioned it and it never bothered me. But my daughter is at the age where she's very aware and really taking all this in so I'm thinking maybe one gift will be from us. Not sure... What are your experiences?
11/29/2011
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- Kira - - Kira -
My son is three. All his gifts come from us. I'm a very honest person and I just can't bring myself to tell him something exists when it doesn't. I know it's all in fun, but I just really hate lying - especially to my child. I couldn't do it with a straight face. I'll explain to him when he's older that there's the spirit of Christmas and the stories that go along with it but I'm not gonna lie to him. I'm sure I'm the only person in the world that does this.
11/29/2011
Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by - Kira -
My son is three. All his gifts come from us. I'm a very honest person and I just can't bring myself to tell him something exists when it doesn't. I know it's all in fun, but I just really hate lying - especially to my child. I ...
No, when I have kids I'll explain to them that we, personally, don't believe in Santa the same way we don't believe in Buddah. That they should be tolerant of other children that DO believe in Santa and not argue with them and let them have their belief. X3
11/29/2011
Philia Philia
We spend Christmas at my parents' house and they usually get one big gift that's "from Santa" that's left by the tree unwrapped. They make a big deal about leaving milk & cookies "for Santa," and when I was a kid I used to add carrots for the reindeer (hey, they're doing all the work, really), and my son liked that story, so he does that, too.

So it's this weird real/not real thing where for about 24 hours we all engage in a collective fantasy/fiction that Santa is real, and then the rest of the time I pretty much hedge ("some people believe in Santa and some people don't" or "what if Santa is real? what if he's not real?"). I haven't actually said "NO, there is NO Santa," but I also haven't said "YES, there is a Santa."

I guess we try to keep in "agnostic" about Santa until he figures it out for himself. I think that most kids are that way for much longer than it seems; even if someone tells them one or the other, they kind of hold out for things to go either way.

It's also weird because I kind of do it not just for him but for the kids in school/day care with him. I remember some kids being the big naysayers, and they went around telling everyone he wasn't real and acting all superior because they knew, and the rest of us being totally bummed out that they were messing up the fun. I don't want him to be the one messing up everyone else's fun.

So I try to surf the fine line of not lying to him and maximizing the fun of believing in Santa.

However, since I really hate malls and Mall Santas, I do tell him that THOSE Santas aren't real.
11/29/2011
zwee75 zwee75
I don't like lying to my 3.5 year old either. But I think it's nice to believe in magic as a child. I don't resent my parents for "lying" to me. I loved the story of Santa and so does my daughter.

Similarly, the Binky Fairy recently visited her (late, yes, it's been a very rough 1.5 years). I made her a beautiful letter from the fairy and really talked it up. She loved it. I felt bad, yes. But I think the ol' Binky Fairy made it a little easier on me. She still talks about her...

Anyway, I'm digressing...
11/29/2011
Sammi Sammi
Most of my kids' presents come from Santa. We give them a few, but the majority are still from him. As they get a bit older, Santa will bring less and more will be from us.
11/29/2011
Ash1141 Ash1141
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Originally posted by zwee75
I don't like lying to my 3.5 year old either. But I think it's nice to believe in magic as a child. I don't resent my parents for "lying" to me. I loved the story of Santa and so does my daughter.

Similarly, the Binky ...
I agree with you wholeheartedly. About 50% of our kids presents come from santa. I didn't want to make them all from him because if we're low on cash some years, I don't want them wondering if they were bad or something and that's why santa didn't get them much.
11/29/2011
mama2007 mama2007
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Originally posted by - Kira -
My son is three. All his gifts come from us. I'm a very honest person and I just can't bring myself to tell him something exists when it doesn't. I know it's all in fun, but I just really hate lying - especially to my child. I ...
I totally agree with you! We don't do Santa either, never have. My in laws do, but we don't tell them it's from santa we just say grandma/papa. No need to bring up santa in my eyes. it is lying yeah but it's also kinda dumb to do lol. my kids are 3 (daughter) and almost 4 (son) years old.
11/30/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
When I was a kid, most of my gifts were from "Santa" with the understanding (at least to me) that "Santa" was code for "Mom."
11/30/2011
Peggi Peggi
It was about half and half for me, maybe 2 from parents and 2 from santa. If there was an uneven number Santa always pulled through giving me the most haha.
12/01/2011
badk1tty badk1tty
Most come from "us". A few come from Santa, just for Christmas spirit.
12/01/2011
lashes2000 lashes2000
My kids all get 1 "big" gift from us and the rest are from Santa.
12/02/2011
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
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Originally posted by zwee75
For those of you with children, what percentage of the gifts that your children receive are from Santa as opposed to being from you? I don't remember getting any presents from my parents as a kid, I thought they were all from Santa. I never ...
I have always put small but yet cool gifts from santa.Usually I'll throw in 1 thing that was on the "list" from santa. All the rest I put from me under the tree.O and i never wrap santas presents...i just stuff the stocking and around it if i cant fit everything in!
12/03/2011
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