I am just curious if this book has actually advertised largely for bdsm
Did fifty shades make you want to get more into bdsm?
10/19/2013
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Yes and no (as far as your question goes on advertising BDSM)...
The book is poorly written, badly edited, and the author knew literally nothing of BDSM or toy usage before the book - and didn't do her homework to find out the proper uses or safe procedures.
As a whole, the actual BDSM/Fetish world was (and still is) in a state of chaos - especially with naive women putting themselves in dangerous situations based on the suggestion of the book (ie: Craigslist ads "I'm new to this, totally submissive and looking for a Master" blah-blah-blah, infiltration of sites like FetLife only to find a world that's nothing like the book - and COMPLAIN about it, and even "Masters" and "Doms" showing up on vanilla dating sites asking around if people need training by a "real Master" etc.).
Thanks to this woman's moneybag husband who was just trying to make her happy by paying to privately publish her fan fiction, this thing has gone viral - and by doing so, has dragged down so many IQ levels with her writing style of a lovelorn pre-teen, criss-crossing American English with The Queen's English, and ridiculous repetition, both in actual words, as well as the same sex scene over, and over, and over, and... you get the gist.
Just my two cents, but I swear, if I ever see this woman, I'm probably going to beat her with her own book.
The book is poorly written, badly edited, and the author knew literally nothing of BDSM or toy usage before the book - and didn't do her homework to find out the proper uses or safe procedures.
As a whole, the actual BDSM/Fetish world was (and still is) in a state of chaos - especially with naive women putting themselves in dangerous situations based on the suggestion of the book (ie: Craigslist ads "I'm new to this, totally submissive and looking for a Master" blah-blah-blah, infiltration of sites like FetLife only to find a world that's nothing like the book - and COMPLAIN about it, and even "Masters" and "Doms" showing up on vanilla dating sites asking around if people need training by a "real Master" etc.).
Thanks to this woman's moneybag husband who was just trying to make her happy by paying to privately publish her fan fiction, this thing has gone viral - and by doing so, has dragged down so many IQ levels with her writing style of a lovelorn pre-teen, criss-crossing American English with The Queen's English, and ridiculous repetition, both in actual words, as well as the same sex scene over, and over, and over, and... you get the gist.
Just my two cents, but I swear, if I ever see this woman, I'm probably going to beat her with her own book.
10/19/2013
This may be opposite of popular opinion, but I found the book to be really insulting to the BDSM community.
Yes, BDSM has an aspect of domination and control - but the key to any healthy D/s relationship is consent, which is something this book seems to be missing. The foundation of D/s is respect, communication, and trust, which take a while to build. It is not built on blind submission, manipulation, scare-tactics, and borderline abuse.
I definitely agree with the above - it has opened up a lot of women to be taken advantage of by misogynistic men, claiming to be "experienced Masters", who simply have fantasies of totally owning and controlling women as objects/property/sex slaves/sex robots - rather than taking the time to understand the true meaning and power behind the dynamic.
Hopefully those who are truly interested see past the BS, and keep themselves safe!
Yes, BDSM has an aspect of domination and control - but the key to any healthy D/s relationship is consent, which is something this book seems to be missing. The foundation of D/s is respect, communication, and trust, which take a while to build. It is not built on blind submission, manipulation, scare-tactics, and borderline abuse.
I definitely agree with the above - it has opened up a lot of women to be taken advantage of by misogynistic men, claiming to be "experienced Masters", who simply have fantasies of totally owning and controlling women as objects/property/sex slaves/sex robots - rather than taking the time to understand the true meaning and power behind the dynamic.
Hopefully those who are truly interested see past the BS, and keep themselves safe!
10/20/2013
The first two responses to this thread make me deliriously happy! i agree with all of it. i live in a 24/7 D/s relationship and these damn books have done so much damage to O/our world. i'm glad that more people are opening up to BDSM and sexuality in general, but these books are not a good catalyst for it. As a community, BDSM practitioners now have to help these people stumbling into O/our world and sort them out. Some people have been brought to the community and subsequently done the appropriate research and learning and found the lifestyle to be a great fit and that's wonderful. It's great that documentaries have been spawned from this fad and a greater mainstream acceptance. It makes it a safer world for U/us. But goddamn, what a mess!
10/20/2013
It makes me a little more curious about bdsm. But i have to say that anyone that picks ups a fictional book and takes it for truth well then they are in for a rude awakening. So while yes she did give the bdsm world a bad image and an incorrect definition she never once tried to say she was writing a BDSM how to book. Im not defending her im just saying that no one should read a fictional book and take it as truth. It did interest me in BDSM but did i take the book word for word no i started looking into it the correct way. Yes there are alot of naive people out there that did take it for a how to guide and thats on them not the author.
10/30/2013
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I'll tie her down while you beat her with her own book.
Originally posted by
Holly Wood
Yes and no (as far as your question goes on advertising BDSM)...
The book is poorly written, badly edited, and the author knew literally nothing of BDSM or toy usage before the book - and didn't do her homework to find out the proper uses ... more
The book is poorly written, badly edited, and the author knew literally nothing of BDSM or toy usage before the book - and didn't do her homework to find out the proper uses ... more
Yes and no (as far as your question goes on advertising BDSM)...
The book is poorly written, badly edited, and the author knew literally nothing of BDSM or toy usage before the book - and didn't do her homework to find out the proper uses or safe procedures.
As a whole, the actual BDSM/Fetish world was (and still is) in a state of chaos - especially with naive women putting themselves in dangerous situations based on the suggestion of the book (ie: Craigslist ads "I'm new to this, totally submissive and looking for a Master" blah-blah-blah, infiltration of sites like FetLife only to find a world that's nothing like the book - and COMPLAIN about it, and even "Masters" and "Doms" showing up on vanilla dating sites asking around if people need training by a "real Master" etc.).
Thanks to this woman's moneybag husband who was just trying to make her happy by paying to privately publish her fan fiction, this thing has gone viral - and by doing so, has dragged down so many IQ levels with her writing style of a lovelorn pre-teen, criss-crossing American English with The Queen's English, and ridiculous repetition, both in actual words, as well as the same sex scene over, and over, and over, and... you get the gist.
Just my two cents, but I swear, if I ever see this woman, I'm probably going to beat her with her own book. less
The book is poorly written, badly edited, and the author knew literally nothing of BDSM or toy usage before the book - and didn't do her homework to find out the proper uses or safe procedures.
As a whole, the actual BDSM/Fetish world was (and still is) in a state of chaos - especially with naive women putting themselves in dangerous situations based on the suggestion of the book (ie: Craigslist ads "I'm new to this, totally submissive and looking for a Master" blah-blah-blah, infiltration of sites like FetLife only to find a world that's nothing like the book - and COMPLAIN about it, and even "Masters" and "Doms" showing up on vanilla dating sites asking around if people need training by a "real Master" etc.).
Thanks to this woman's moneybag husband who was just trying to make her happy by paying to privately publish her fan fiction, this thing has gone viral - and by doing so, has dragged down so many IQ levels with her writing style of a lovelorn pre-teen, criss-crossing American English with The Queen's English, and ridiculous repetition, both in actual words, as well as the same sex scene over, and over, and over, and... you get the gist.
Just my two cents, but I swear, if I ever see this woman, I'm probably going to beat her with her own book. less
joke !
10/30/2013
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