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Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I recently discovered a new type of, I suppose what you would call a "sexual orientation", which is the sexual attraction and love for an inanimate object. I have heard of such things as being in love with inflatable pool toys, cars, etc, but I just watched an incredibly informative documentary on this, and now have a totally new view of it all!

My fascination only comes with the fact that this is new to me, but in a way, I see it as no different than any other type of love or relationship, but I am just wondering what your stance is on it. If you would like the basic information, wikipedia had some info on it, and the documentary that I viewed can be found here, called Married To the Eiffel Tower.

I think the saddest part of the video was when Amy is not allowed to have a moment with one of her loves while visiting the city.

So, what are your thoughts?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am an objectum sexual myself
1
I know someone who is objectum sexual
3
I have never heard of this before
12
I have heard of this, but do not know anyone who is objectum sexual
47
I would probably stare at someone for kissing an inanimate object too!
24
I think it is wrong to judge someone for loving an inanimate object
13
Other
3
Total votes: 103 (65 voters)
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06/21/2012
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Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
There was a guy on My Strange Addiction that was in love with his car and would masturbate on it and everything....it's certainly odd but to each his own I guess.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I have heard about it, embarrassed to admit I saw it while watching the Tyra Banks show. Sometimes the things she had on there were so odd I had to watch.

I also saw the show and episode Geogeo was talking about.

I'm pretty sure it was also on the Nat.Geo. show Taboo. Ah, love that show! I think that is where I saw the guy in love with a mannequin and one with several life like/life size EXPENSIVE dolls.

I saw the one you mentioned, Peggi as well as one about a woman in love with the Berlin Wall.
06/21/2012
Contributor: digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
I recently discovered a new type of, I suppose what you would call a "sexual orientation", which is the sexual attraction and love for an inanimate object. I have heard of such things as being in love with inflatable pool toys, cars, etc, ... more
never heard of it
06/21/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I've heard of this, but I don't know anyone that way, nor am I that way.
06/21/2012
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
I'd never heard the term before, but I have heard of this happening with people. Reminds me of the documentary Guys and Dolls, which features men that prefer sex dolls over women. One of the men (maybe more, but one particularly stands out in my memory) seemed genuinely in love with his doll.

I guess there's no harm in it. No reason to judge.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I have heard of it. I did see something with the guy and his car. He was in love with that car. I would stare if I saw a person really humping their car and doing other things with it. I probably couldn't help myself. It's like when I see my Chihuahua try to hump my cat. I can't help but look because it's like WTF??

There was an episode of House were the guy loved his sex doll. But I love some of my toys, so I can't say anything about loving objects.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I have heard of it but don't really know anyone like that.
06/21/2012
Contributor: bh253 bh253
I have never heard of that!
06/21/2012
Contributor: HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
I recently discovered a new type of, I suppose what you would call a "sexual orientation", which is the sexual attraction and love for an inanimate object. I have heard of such things as being in love with inflatable pool toys, cars, etc, ... more
There is a show called My Secrete Addiction. I have watched it a few times on ondemand. A man was in love with his cars. He hugs, kisses, and has sex with them. He said that he got turned on while washing one of them and thats why he does it. Another girl is addicted to drinking nail polish while another female is addicted to smelling and now drinking gasoline. Women who are obsessed with their finger and toe nails be long (like over a foot long).
It was the most disturbing show I've seen in a long time.

Do you think any of us would be object-sexuals since we use Dildos and Vibrators to pleasure ourselves? I mean some of us have favorite toys we like to use more than others. We take care of them right and we get upset if they break or malfunction. What are your thoughts?
06/21/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
hmmm I've heard of it and I find it fascinating, mostly because I don't understand it, bookmarking that video you mentioned to watch later.
06/21/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Quote:
Originally posted by Geogeo
There was a guy on My Strange Addiction that was in love with his car and would masturbate on it and everything....it's certainly odd but to each his own I guess.
I saw that too! Very different if I do say so myself.
06/21/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by HarlequinBunnie
There is a show called My Secrete Addiction. I have watched it a few times on ondemand. A man was in love with his cars. He hugs, kisses, and has sex with them. He said that he got turned on while washing one of them and thats why he does it. Another ... more
I don't think the use of sex toys is actually objectum sensualis because they are being used as tool, either for masturbation or with an other person.

I doubt few of us love our toys above and beyond a relationship with an other person. Sure, some sex toy users are between lovers, but most would also have a lover, and can function with a human being as a lover. Most of us can get aroused over people not purely due to a sex toy. We may enjoy our toys, but it isn't the same kind of love we have for human lovers.

I don't see my toys as lovers. They are tools, which help me reach my objective of getting to orgasm. When one Wahl broke, I got an other. If it had broken completely before I had obtained the second one, I would have used my Hitachi, all while still continuing to have sex with my husband.

Using a toy DURING sex, or between partners is not the same as this fetish described above.
06/21/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
I agree with P'Gell. To me, toys are just tools.

I don't think it's a bad or sick thing to be object sexual, but it feels a little 'off' because the objects can't love them back. Clearly they're not hurting anyone with this, and I doubt they put themselves in any danger for the most part, it just comes off as a little lonely to me.
06/21/2012
Contributor: pasdechat pasdechat
I have heard about this, but I still find it really puzzling. On the one hand, I like to think of myself as open-minded, and I don't think there's anything MORALLY wrong with loving an inanimate object (although sex dolls specifically do give me pause, because it makes me feel like the person wants a relationship with a woman who can't speak/act on her own).

But I digress--I don't think people who are attracted to objects should be judged for it. I can't help but feel, though, that people like this are missing out. Granted, I'm looking at it from the perspective of someone who has been with other people, but..."love," ; to me, entails some kind of relationship, and is it really possible to have a relationship with something that by definition cannot interact with you? I suppose you could draw a parallel with unrequited love, except that even in that case, there is presumably some sort of interaction between the two people. If attraction were based on appearance alone I could sort of see how being in love with an object could be fulfilling, but it's not--there's a whole other dimension to it that has to do with social interactions and the personality of the other person/people.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, yes, I think it would be wrong to judge someone for feeling/acting on this kind of attraction, but I am not entirely convinced that it's healthy. Humans are social animals, after all--wanting to form relationships (romantic or not) with others is a basic biological drive.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
I recently discovered a new type of, I suppose what you would call a "sexual orientation", which is the sexual attraction and love for an inanimate object. I have heard of such things as being in love with inflatable pool toys, cars, etc, ... more
I think there are too many "sexual orientations" to count. I tend to just mind my own life. I don't really have an opinion about it.
06/21/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Geogeo
There was a guy on My Strange Addiction that was in love with his car and would masturbate on it and everything....it's certainly odd but to each his own I guess.
I saw this one as well--my first experience hearing about this lifestyle. It was different, but to each their own. I find it odd but I am sure there are people out there who find me odd too.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
I have seen Married To the Eiffel Tower. and seen a few other shows about this. There are forms and support networks out their...

What ever makes the person happy and feel fulfilled
as long as no one is getting hurt go git yours
06/21/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
I recently discovered a new type of, I suppose what you would call a "sexual orientation", which is the sexual attraction and love for an inanimate object. I have heard of such things as being in love with inflatable pool toys, cars, etc, ... more
Doesn't affect me or my friends and family but I don't judge others.
06/21/2012
Contributor: HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I don't think the use of sex toys is actually objectum sensualis because they are being used as tool, either for masturbation or with an other person.

I doubt few of us love our toys above and beyond a relationship with an other person. ... more
I do agree with you. I'm not in love with my toy yet I posed the question as a whole. Of course not everyone is addicted to their sex toys. The toys are just tools to help reach an objective. That does not mean that someone out there in the real world would or could be addicted to their toys. Men and women have dolls now that are life like to the point of limp dildos all the way up to erect dildos. Self lubing and some can even sound alive. These dolls I'm speaking of go for up to $50,000. The client tells the manufacturer what color eye, hair, and skin to give the doll. Eccentric men and women out there that can afford this, some do fall in love with the toy.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
Quote:
Originally posted by pasdechat
I have heard about this, but I still find it really puzzling. On the one hand, I like to think of myself as open-minded, and I don't think there's anything MORALLY wrong with loving an inanimate object (although sex dolls specifically do give ... more
This is where I'm at also. I don't think we have the right to judge but I also can't see how it could be healthy.
06/21/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
It seems sort of weird to me - but hey, they're not hurting anyone...
06/21/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Awww. This sounds sad. If they're genuinely happy, good for them. It's one of the more harmless sexual fixations a person can have.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Rey Rey
I know someone with it
His primary object fetish is shoes (high heels specifically)

As an off-shoot of this, he has a foot fetish but to him it is more about the feet in the shoes, than the feet themselves.

Hey, whatever floats your boat!
06/22/2012
Contributor: kadytheredpanda kadytheredpanda
Quote:
Originally posted by Geogeo
There was a guy on My Strange Addiction that was in love with his car and would masturbate on it and everything....it's certainly odd but to each his own I guess.
There's a British documentary with other "mechanophiles" as well. It's called "My Lover My Car" or something like that. You can find it on YouTube last time I checked.
06/22/2012
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Quote:
Originally posted by kadytheredpanda
There's a British documentary with other "mechanophiles" as well. It's called "My Lover My Car" or something like that. You can find it on YouTube last time I checked.
I totally saw that docu! I don't remember what it was called but I did watch it on youtube.
06/22/2012
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I mean, I think it's kind of peculiar, but if they are enjoying themselves and they aren't hurting themselves or others, who am I to judge?
06/22/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
I've heard of it. I wouldn't judge if I saw someone kissing an object for any reason. I've seen some buildings so pretty I'd like to kiss the architect... Why not the building itself? It doesn't really gross me out or anything, though I would rather not see someone trying to actually sex up an object in public.
But at the same time... Some of those people are just gross. I saw a documentary that featured an old man who, um, sexually violated another man's car. What the hell?!
06/22/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
I recently discovered a new type of, I suppose what you would call a "sexual orientation", which is the sexual attraction and love for an inanimate object. I have heard of such things as being in love with inflatable pool toys, cars, etc, ... more
The ways of sex are many, varied and wonderful!
06/24/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by GONE!
I've heard of it. I wouldn't judge if I saw someone kissing an object for any reason. I've seen some buildings so pretty I'd like to kiss the architect... Why not the building itself? It doesn't really gross me out or anything, ... more
Maybe the car said, "Come on over and see me sometime?"
06/24/2012