One of my oldest friends, someone I consider family more than friends, is pretty squeamish about my job—and especially if her kids are around.

They are 4 and 6 and I am perfectly capable of discussing what I do without including the fact that it's an adult products company, but she freaks out if they come within ear shot and I am talking about work. Tho I did point out to her that even if I used the word dildo around the kids, they'd probably have no idea or interest in what I was talking about.

I get it and I do try to respect her wishes, but I am surprised by how much it agitates her. The funny thing is, we don't have to talk about my job, but she, and my two other friends that belong to this group I consider family, are quite titillated by it all and so they ask...

Yeah, for the most part, my "new" friends are... well Carrie Ann is one of them, so that should give you an idea. (Big buncha perverts, all of them!)

I would love to have friends like you, Carrie Ann and the rest of the awesome EF staff! Perverts are where it's at!

Actually my best friend since birth is basically a virgin...so we completely don't have that category to talk about. She is a really open person and her brother is into swinging, toys, etc and she accepts him, but I have never ventured down the sexual talk with her. I figure I'll wait for her to come to me with it. It's not weird to me since it has been this way our entire lives.

But, with new friends I am often shocked with how naive and uneducated they are about sex and sex toys. They think things like if a girl has a sex toy she doesn't think her bf is good enough or if a guy has a masturbator and a gf he is a sex addict. My close friends don't have these opinions of course because I taught them everything they know, but NEW friends or random people I meet that hear from other friends that i do this often have their opinions about it much like Jezebel experienced. BUT I correct them instead of leave. If they continue to down it, I pretty much put them in a position where they start to question what is wrong with them not me lol. ;p

BUT thankfully I have a large circle of close friends and none of them would recreate a situation like Jez described.

We didn't leave right after that..I actually tried to get them to be a bit more open, but realized it wasn't gonna work. I just didn't want the post to be super long, LOL. We were planning to leave anyway, but the lack of good feedback was all the more reason to. Sometimes it's best to leave sex out of the picture, especially with these friends. I wish it weren't the case, though.

Ahh gotcha. I figure they made you so uncomfortable that they made you feel unwelcome to their conversation since your views were so different. If you had left right away, I wouldn't have blamed you either way.

A lot of my friends are outwardly Vanilla. I don't have sex with them, I don't need, crave or ask for their approval for what My Man and I do in the bedroom (and they don't ask me about what they do) so I try to stay friendly and non-committal when things like this come up.

A lot of our friends think we are pretty Kinky, but aren't exactly sure why. We don't talk about sex with people who don't understand. An occasional comment or joke (they don't usually understand) is made, so they get a clue, but are mostly clueless to our proclivities.

Although, if someone were to attack a practice that we find really fun, I might make a joke or say something like, "You never know what things you'd like until you've given them several chances. You can't judge just by guessing, if you've never done it." And then just leave it at that.

A few months ago, one of my MOST Vanilla friends' husbands hangs out with My Man. One night in bed he told me, "Did G. ever tell you she really likes anal?" I almost choked! I guess they guys got drunk and G's husband told My Man, under pain of death, not to tell anyone. Of course, he ran right home and told me. Neither of us could believe it. It's true (I'm actually proud of her.) So, sometimes people put on fronts just to save themselves embarrassment.

My brother is a Kink, but he's.....my brother. So, aside from jokes and those knowing looks when someone mentions sex toys, or Liberator Wedges or Mom says something with a Double Entendre, (and she doesn't realize it) we don't really discuss a lot. I'm firmly convinced that Heavy Catholic Guilt warped us both.

Kinda similar here; it's gotten better but I assumed coming to college, everyone'd want to fuck. Eh. Whatever. They do what they do.

I hate fundamentalist Christians. I won't even get started.... I'll just say that because I can already feel my blood rising. I had a FB status once that said, "Just because you don't struggle with homosexual feelings, doesn't mean that homosexuals chose to feel them." Or something along those lines and I was basically told that I don't care enough about the Bible or God and essentially my soul is in danger.

So yeah... I KNOW how you feel.