The New Intimacy

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Contributor: Stellar Stellar
My lovely contributors!
I hope you are trying to enjoy the spring sun despite anything on your way - family duties, exams, exhaustion, not-so-springy weather and so on. After all, it won't be long until we'll complain about heat So, before you will be caught up with your chores again, spare a minute for another hot topic I would like to share with you. And you - with me!

In the spirit of the upcoming Mother's day - sweetest wishes to all moms we have on EF here - you are adorable! - I want to talk about after-kids sex. It doesn't mean that our childless contributors should stay aside - I'm sure you have an opinion, too!

It is now open for discussion, do you think THIS to be true, false or plausible?

After becoming a parent, you change your sex life dramatically

Please note - I'm not talking about necessarily BAD changes. On the contrary, I'm sure that there appears more intimacy after having a child. Of course, you have less time, but when you do, this time is magical. So you change quantity for quality. I don't have any children yet, so that's all my imagination and conclusions built on books, movies and conversations. I hope for some real-life, cute and touching comments, my dears!

Let the discussion begin!
What would be your verdict?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Holly14725 , 9ers girl , OneofakindBeauty , C&K0143 , AshMegJo8295 , Andykh , hoser69 , JulesRhyn , Beautifulbrownbabydoll , Evoluchun , SexyScorpio69 , Devz , 20yearstogether , Soundside46
14  (64%)
Kat Vanir
1  (5%)
unfulfilled , cheekyx , CassN , wrecklesswords , RobbieVibrates , TheToyGuy , Chey
7  (32%)
Total votes: 22
Poll is open
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Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I think every couple with kids is going to be different. It's how much you put into the relationship. Some people don't give the relationship as much time as they did before kids because there's work, kids, household chores and errands etc and are too tired to do anything intimate.

Also, there are some mom's who do not get the help with their kids or household that they don't feel appreciated by their partner that they don't Want to be intimate.

Others on the other hand, make the time for their partner and their sexlife.

I am a mom and have friends who are mom's and that had been my experience. It depends on the couple, how attentive they are to the relationship, how appreciated everyone is feeling, etc.
04/25/2016
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
unfulfilled hit the nail right on the head.

I will also add, about that time in one's life, you have kids work usually gets more involved also. You get either get promoted or take on more jobs to make more money, even change careers. You need more money to take care of them, save for a house, college etc. Seems dayc are shorter also after you have kids. And the more kids the shorter the days, it seems. More kids, more housework too, cooking, cleaning laundry, driving them to school, games, friends houses, relatives etc.

I will also say, having kids is the best thing that happened to me (us) beside marrying OW.
04/25/2016
Contributor: OneofakindBeauty OneofakindBeauty
I so think its true, but it also depends on the effort put in by the both of you to make sure that your sex life is not affected. If that means when you are down doing "laundry", or making a date night regularly, or whatever you have to do to keep the flame burning then it wont take such a toll on your sex life after baby!! You both have to make the steps to keep that fire kindling!!
05/11/2016
Contributor: AshMegJo8295 AshMegJo8295
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Originally posted by Stellar
My lovely contributors!
I hope you are trying to enjoy the spring sun despite anything on your way - family duties, exams, exhaustion, not-so-springy weather and so on. After all, it won't be long until we'll complain about heat So, ... more
After I became a parent my sex drive dropped way low. It took me a while to really get back in my groove. And while it wasn't really my choice for my sex life to change, it did in fact change.
05/15/2016
Contributor: Beautifulbrownbabydoll Beautifulbrownbabydoll
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
My lovely contributors!
I hope you are trying to enjoy the spring sun despite anything on your way - family duties, exams, exhaustion, not-so-springy weather and so on. After all, it won't be long until we'll complain about heat So, ... more
My sex life changed. You have to plan sex around your children's schedule. Instead of random fun quickies it's now wait till the kids are sleep. Sometimes I think please just go to sleep. After they are off to bed and a sleep it's go time!
05/21/2016
Contributor: Evoluchun Evoluchun
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
My lovely contributors!
I hope you are trying to enjoy the spring sun despite anything on your way - family duties, exams, exhaustion, not-so-springy weather and so on. After all, it won't be long until we'll complain about heat So, ... more
i would believe it although wouldnt truly know
07/21/2016