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Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
My sister is 19 years old and still a virgin. I applaud her for that, because I look back and wish I'd waited for someone special too.
But at the same time, I don't want her to be completely naive about sex and how her body works. I've given her a few little vibrators (that I got free with an order, unused), but she says she can't do anything with them because she's a virgin.
What do I say to that? How do I explain to her that everyone has needs, whether alone or with a partner?
07/24/2012
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Contributor: spookycutie spookycutie
Quote:
Originally posted by (k)InkyIvy
My sister is 19 years old and still a virgin. I applaud her for that, because I look back and wish I'd waited for someone special too.
But at the same time, I don't want her to be completely naive about sex and how her body works. I've ... more
Hmm...she'll probably get curious eventually and try them out, I would assume...?
07/24/2012
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
Tell her that a piece of plastic can't take away her virginity. Masturbating is not a stain on her purity - it just makes her know what her body prefers.

I'd tell her to start researching about sex, beyond what she learned in sex ed. As I understand it, most women don't really use vibrators for penetration, but for clitoral stimulation. Make sure she knows she has one, where it is, and what it's for. Bust the myth that every woman has earth-shattering orgasms from penetration alone (if she's one of the ones that doesn't, she shouldn't feel like a failure). Talk to her about birth control options and about foreplay. Some of the fun is figuring out the private things between you and your partner, but if she knows the basics about herself, her body, and men's bodies (assuming she's straight), she's in a better position.
07/24/2012
Contributor: Sangsara Sangsara
I'd say let her know how much more she'll enjoy it and he will as well if she knows what she likes. It doesn't have to be penetrative. Girls got a clit right? Being able to express your needs brings you so much closer to your partner. Otherwise you end up running a very common ( like 30%) risk of it just hurting and the thing she does when she's ready to take the step and bring her and her partner closer just ends up pushing them further apart. Emotions and love are only a part of sex- an important part but a lack of lust during sex due to pain can ruin the whole thing.
07/29/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by (k)InkyIvy
My sister is 19 years old and still a virgin. I applaud her for that, because I look back and wish I'd waited for someone special too.
But at the same time, I don't want her to be completely naive about sex and how her body works. I've ... more
I may be the only one to suggest that it is her decision, and if she is uncomfortable with it, don't push the issue. It's her sex life and her sex life alone.
08/09/2012