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Are you a "Listener" or a "Jumper"?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Once again there was a tragedy at sea, where a Korean ferry boat capsized. Like with the Costa Concordia cruise ship disaster of a couple years back, many who perished listened to the crew to "stay in place, wait in line, wait for instructions". While that sure seems "reasonable", a good number of those who survived say they did so, because they saw the opportunity to jump off the ship into the water, and took it.
The same thing has happened in countless other situations as well. On 9/11 many people in the towers received instructions from security to "stay put until "rescued" by authorities. Some listened, some other said "no way" and immediately took to the stairways to escape. Guess who lived?
Faced with an impending disaster scenario, are you one who will see the opportunity to leave and do so (Jump), or will you put your trust in the "trained experts" and listen to their instructions, no matter what?
I am not suggesting people ignore authorities during emergencies, but long ago I decided that the best place for me to be in a disaster is as far away from the source of trouble as possible, and I don't plan to wait for anyone to tell me to "go". I really think, regardless of the situation, you have to have a certain survival mindset beforehand. What about you?
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PadoruLover , TheToyGuy
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edeneve , Bignuf , RebelSentry , Vnessa , RonLee , DeliciousB , NJ casanova
7
lala22
1
SaucyxGirl , tiny princey , PadoruLover , Lavender*Moon , RebelSentry , lala22 , symbiasin , ChaoticNight , TheToyGuy , sXeVegan90
10
Inquisitor , Lvstoplay
2
Total votes: 22 (18 voters)
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Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
I am one of those people who doesn't freeze up in crisis. I attempt as quickly as possible to come up with solutions. Since I know that some people tend to freeze under pressure or can make critical mistakes due to stress I tend to explore all my options..but if I feel mine are more logical and/or increases my odds of safety then I go with mine.
04/17/2014
Contributor: PadoruLover PadoruLover
I'd like to say I'd stay but I don't know.
04/26/2014
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I tend to go against the grain if I'm in a situation that I'm fairly unhappy with, usually.
04/26/2014
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
Definitely a jumper--I'm not going down without a fight. Any time I cruise, we have a balcony suite. I am not going down with that ship lol. Any time we are sitting in a restaurant, my husband sits facing the door, ready for any kind of trouble coming in and already knows at least 1 escape route for us. It can be a bit crazy but I've learned a lot from being with a man in the military lol.
05/24/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I keep a powerful flashlight in my pocket nearly all the time. One of the office buildings in Chicago had a fire with fatalities due to smoke because people could not find the exits. We will all die one day, I just don't want it to happen from something as stupid as not being able to find a way out.
05/25/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Definitely a jumper--I'm not going down without a fight. Any time I cruise, we have a balcony suite. I am not going down with that ship lol. Any time we are sitting in a restaurant, my husband sits facing the door, ready for any kind of trouble ... more
Damn Vnessa, I like your husband even more now!
05/25/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
I'm a little bit of both. To be honest, it depends on the situation. Also, in fairness, there have been countless times that doing what you are told to do has in fact saved your life or at least not made your condition worse. If you have ever been in bad an auto collision where you were wearing your seat belt and the air bags have deployed or known anyone that has been in this situation, then doing what you've been told has in fact saved your life.

This has happened to me twice on separate occasions. I'd like to add that through no fault of my own.
05/25/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
I'm a little bit of both. To be honest, it depends on the situation. Also, in fairness, there have been countless times that doing what you are told to do has in fact saved your life or at least not made your condition worse. If you have ever ... more
Yes, very true on this point. As I was reading, I was thinking, ok--I would follow the rules in light of wearing my seat belt and then you mentioned seat belts! Crazy lol. I do follow rules to prevent injury though. But if there's a catastrophe, all bets are off.

Car accidents are very scary. I was sandwiched once where my car was totaled. Thankfully, my injuries weren't too severe, but it scared the hell out of me. There are some crazy drivers. The lady who hit all of us never even tried to break.
05/25/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by RonLee
Damn Vnessa, I like your husband even more now!
He's a good man
05/25/2015
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by SaucyxGirl
I am one of those people who doesn't freeze up in crisis. I attempt as quickly as possible to come up with solutions. Since I know that some people tend to freeze under pressure or can make critical mistakes due to stress I tend to explore all my ... more
I agree.
05/31/2015
Contributor: ChaoticNight ChaoticNight
Interesting question!

I really think it's situation based. I'm not one to make on the fly decisions (I tend to research the heck out of a product before I buy for example, even if it takes weeks), so I would try and assess the situation as thoroughly as possible considering the limited time I'd have. While I want to trust authority figures, the truth is they are just people too who were trained by other people, and training- while overall beneficial- doesn't have all the answers. We can't 100% predict how situations will turn out, so I would take heed of what the people in charge advised, but if I feel I know better than them I'm trusting my instincts. Either way there is risk involved.
05/31/2015
Contributor: ChaoticNight ChaoticNight
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Originally posted by Lvstoplay
I agree.
Ditto. I feel I'm more this type of person too. And I think it's wise to not just blindly listen to someone, but to observe the situation yourself and look at ALL possible options.
05/31/2015
Contributor: dhig dhig
gah, i have no idea what i'd do!
10/06/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
I admit I would probably hear the authorities out and follow their direction so long as it coincided with what I myself know. If I was out of my depth it is safer to follow the one with the experience.

Patients defer to Nurses, Nurses defer to doctors. Doctors defer to Specialists and so and and so forth till we either get the correct answer or run out of people to ask.

Sadly it takes time.
10/07/2015