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Can you be in love with 2 people at once?

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Contributor: socceras socceras
I just wondered if anybody else has felt like this. I know it is very hard.
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Yes
32  (74%)
No
7  (16%)
Other
4  (9%)
Total votes: 43
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Contributor: Kissy Kissy
Sure - I see it on TV all the time
05/15/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by Kissy
Sure - I see it on TV all the time
Haha
05/15/2012
Contributor: Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
I don't think so.
05/15/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I definitely think it's possible...hasn't happened to me though.
05/15/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by socceras
I just wondered if anybody else has felt like this. I know it is very hard.
Very tough question. I suppose different people will have their different opinions on this, but for me, I do not feel that real love is something I feel for more than one person... at a time! I can understand loving more than one person on different occasions. I mean when things don't work out with someone you love, eventually it can be possible to truly love another person down the road, I think. Me, I've only really loved one person--my current partner. We've been together for 6 years and I don't believe I could truly love someone else while loving him. He seems to feel the same way. I think the term love is what's too often abused and misunderstood. In my opinion, love is a very... limited thing? I don't know the word for it, but love to me means something really big, not just feelings. If that makes sense?

Lust? Sure! You can lust many, many people. I think that's what's often confused with the word love. I've been quilty of mistaking intense like/lust for love several times and it wasn't until being with my current partner for so long and actually feeling love that I understood what it was.
05/15/2012
Contributor: lilly555 lilly555
While I can't be sure because I don't think I've ever been in love I think it's possible. Those who are a part of the poly community and members of Eden could probably answer this better. Especially since there are variations of poly relationships. But I don't doubt that those that are in relationships with multiple partners are capable of loving both parties. This might not be for everyone but it's not an impossible feat that should be denied or made to seem illegitimate.
05/15/2012
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by socceras
I just wondered if anybody else has felt like this. I know it is very hard.
yes i think you can be expecially if your in an open marriage and relationship where more then one person is involved if theres no feelings there for that other person then it is devoid of the perpous
05/15/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I voted "Other" because I'm not sure if I personally can but I'm 100% certain that others can. Polyamorous people exist, after all. Ask the many on this site.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
Never have. I've swung, having several lovers at the same time, but having only loved one at a time. I think it's possible, though.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
I've been in love with more than one person at a time. It's definitely possible, but unless you're in a polyamourous relationship/lifestyle , it's difficult and stressful.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Teaser Teaser
I do think you can love more than one person at a time. I think that's why, at least in part, people change partners. I think that during that transition, you are in love with them both.
05/15/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
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Originally posted by Sex Positivity
I don't think so.
agreed
05/15/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I am in love with two people. I have two partners. We have all three been together for 9 years.

I don't feel I have a limited amount of love to give. The more I love, the more I have to give.
05/15/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
I certainly think so, but you usually have to choose one
05/15/2012
Contributor: Peaches2000 Peaches2000
Quote:
Originally posted by socceras
I just wondered if anybody else has felt like this. I know it is very hard.
Personally, I have nver experienced this, but I have a friend who is in the middle of it. My heart aches for her...
05/15/2012
Contributor: SimpleTeaser SimpleTeaser
I voted other because, I'm really not sure.
05/16/2012
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
Love to people yes, nor do think it be hard to do. Now what comes after that: Have a successful poly relationship with two people, choosing one, or having two painful break ups, that would be the hard part.
05/16/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
Very tough question. I suppose different people will have their different opinions on this, but for me, I do not feel that real love is something I feel for more than one person... at a time! I can understand loving more than one person on different ... more
My thoughts exactly. I'm sure there are people that can be in love with more than one person, but I don't think I could ever be.
05/16/2012
Contributor: socceras socceras
Thanks guys. I am having a really hard time right now it's very hard for me. I am only in a relationship with one person the poly thing is not me. I just wana know what it's like for other ppl and knowing im not the only one helps.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Most definitely.
06/13/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I think it's possible.
06/14/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
I dont think so.
06/14/2012
Contributor: elli elli
Yes, and I'm one of those people. I've been in my current two relationships for about 2 years now, and I don't see either of them ending any time soon.
06/15/2012