How many of you are like me an have absolutely no interest in having children so you've chosen not too?
Are you childless by choice?
Cat E.
09/09/2012
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I'm never going to have children.
09/13/2012
The thought of bringing a child into this terrifying, scary world horrifies me. We also do not have the financial means to properly care for a child at this time. The way I see it, if one cannot take care of it, don't have it. If we were ever in the position to, I would prefer to adopt, as there are so many deserving children out there without good homes.
09/13/2012
I am not, as I do want to have children, but I am very supportive of those who are. I have many friends and a few relatives who have chosen not to have children for whatever reasons, and every reason not to have a child is perfectly valid and should be respected.
09/13/2012
I am childless by choice. I was always the little old lady kid.... I never understood how to really be a kid so I don't know how I would raise one. I just wish that others would understand that's my choice b/c everyone tells me I'm crazy. I just wish others would realize that just b/c I am a married woman does not mean that the only thing I live for is a child. I also wish that people could truly understand that just b/c you can have children doesn't mean you have to or should. This comes up a lot now for my husband and I since we've been together 12 years (married for 4 years) and are about to start reaching our 30's. It's even tougher now since all our friends are having babies!
09/13/2012
Also by choice - to the point of having my tubes tied. I never felt the "baby crack" of obsessively needing a child in my life. I had two instances of "You know, I think I'd like to have a baby", and both feelings lasted less than two weeks. My ex-husband was in the camp of "Oh, you'll change your mind". By the time I hit thirty, I told him "You want a baby so damn bad, you get pregnant and keep it in the shed!"
A friend and I were discussing this matter recently - she's more interested in adopting than having her own. Older children are more independent, can give you feedback, and they're young enough to be healed of whatever trauma led them into the state home. I've noticed it's always about "omg i want teh baybee part last 4evar" with others instead of "Think of how interesting and amazing it would be when they're old enough to think and learn and talk and do things! With their own personalities!"
It amuses me that a biological truism is treated as a reason and/or payment for existence. If you've got the drive and the means, then do it. Just don't force your Religion of Motherhood on me.
A friend and I were discussing this matter recently - she's more interested in adopting than having her own. Older children are more independent, can give you feedback, and they're young enough to be healed of whatever trauma led them into the state home. I've noticed it's always about "omg i want teh baybee part last 4evar" with others instead of "Think of how interesting and amazing it would be when they're old enough to think and learn and talk and do things! With their own personalities!"
It amuses me that a biological truism is treated as a reason and/or payment for existence. If you've got the drive and the means, then do it. Just don't force your Religion of Motherhood on me.
09/13/2012
Cat E.
I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who feels this way.
09/14/2012
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