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Contributor: Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
if someone told you they had an std would you date them?

I am talking to a guy who i really really like but he told me that he has clamida. Now I know this is treatable and thats fine and all but it just scares me because I sure as hell dont watch to catch anything.

If someoen told u they had something but it could be treated would you date them?

What if it wasnt treatable like herpies or hiv?
03/18/2012
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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
Um, no. I wouldn't go there.
03/18/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Such a hard question/situation! I actually don't think I'd let it stop me, if I really liked the person. Some STD's are totally treatable. I would recommend that he take care of it, go to a Dr., take antibiotics or whatever was necessary to clear it, but I don't think I'd cut off contact with them. If my partner caught one it'd mean he cheated so I would leave in that case, but as long as it's not from cheating, why not make a friendship at least? I would NOT have sex until it was cleared, but if you must, you can prevent yourself from contracting it. Not 100%, but you can take steps to prevent it. If it wasn't treatable? I have no clue! I wouldn't stop seeing them, but would be too paranoid to risk having sex and contracting something.
03/18/2012
Contributor: jmex83 jmex83
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Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
if someone told you they had an std would you date them?

I am talking to a guy who i really really like but he told me that he has clamida. Now I know this is treatable and thats fine and all but it just scares me because I sure as hell dont ... more
I wouldn't date them. If I know that it won't be able to go to the next level, whats the point? Whos to say that I end up with this person and marrying them? If not, then I have run the risk of catching it and passing it on to someone else. No way.
03/18/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
if someone told you they had an std would you date them?

I am talking to a guy who i really really like but he told me that he has clamida. Now I know this is treatable and thats fine and all but it just scares me because I sure as hell dont ... more
Obviously, he was involved in some risky sexual behavior not all that long ago if he still has it. I'd stay away!
03/18/2012
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I wouldn't fool around with them until it's treated, if it's a treatable one. If not, I would just stay at "friends" and go on from there.
03/19/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
If it is treatable, then I would encourage them to get it treated and see what goes from there. If they refuse, then no. I would not date someone with a curable STD, because I don't have one and I don't want to have one.
03/19/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
if someone told you they had an std would you date them?

I am talking to a guy who i really really like but he told me that he has clamida. Now I know this is treatable and thats fine and all but it just scares me because I sure as hell dont ... more
Chlamydia is treatable, and curable. I would worry about a guy who knows he has it, yet isn't taking care of his body and getting it treated.

Please don't lump "HIV" and "Herpes" in the same category. Herpes is not fatal, most studies have shown that by the age of 40 approx 90% of people have at least one form of herpes virus, and it's treatable. I would probably date a guy with herpes, IF he was taking an anti-viral medication and sex was avoided during an outbreak. It isn't that bad of a disease, as diseases go.

HIV, while treatable, can still be fatal. I think I would sadly, not date someone who was HIV positive. Sad, but true.

I did refuse a date with a man I really liked at one point years ago. He admitted he had been diagnosed with Trichamonas. (A parasitic sexually transmitted condition.) When I asked him if he had gone through the treatment, he said, "I bought the pills and the guy (pharmacist?) said I couldn't drink while I was taking them, so I said Fuck it. Guys don't have any symptoms with Trich anyway." Uh, dude just lost himself a date.

It was his lack of not only self care, but lack of caring about any future partners (he told me about the Trich before he ever asked me out, I guess he thought I forgot. I didn't.)

Why does this young man you are talking about not care for his own body? That would bother me more than his actually contracting a curable STD. People get STDs, but not DOING anything about it is just immature and irresponsible.
03/19/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
I would have to say no.
03/20/2012
Contributor: jjdd jjdd
If he knows he has Chlamydia and hasn't gotten it treated, that is really strange. Chlamydia is easily treated with anti-biotics. So, I wouldn't sleep with someone who was just like "oh yeah. I have this disease that I could easily take care of but can't be bothered to."

But, on a separate note... I dated a guy for almost a year who had genital herpes. We were really careful, always used condoms, didn't have sex during outbreaks, etc. I never got it. So, I don't think it has to be a deal breaker as long as communication is strong.
06/27/2012
Contributor: little miss kinky little miss kinky
I wouldn't knowingly date someone with an STD. Too risky.
06/27/2012