Did your parents encourage your education?
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But yes, my parents supported and encouraged my education.
I would definitely encourage any child to continue their education ... but also help them figure out what they want to do so they don't waste their youth like I did.
I would encourage it for any theoretical children.
They saved from the time they got married so they could put all four of us through private school & all the way through whatever post grad schooling we needed. We were the only family I knew who didn't go on any vacations growing up because my father was always working & saving the money.
If I had children, I would do the same thing, but balance it with vacations & just general family time spent together.
My dad encouraged me to consider a variety of options, such as work, vocational training and higher education. I'm starting uni soon, but was never encouraged to follow that path specifically by either parent. Most of that encouragement came from my teachers. One of my cousins is in uni at the moment, but as far as I know no one in my family has a degree.
Our children are encouraged to go to college. One is finished with college, one is in Grad School and one is still a child. We did what we could for them, financially and our parents did help (my husband's parents never though college was important (despite paying for my husband's entire education. I suspect they thing college isn't necessary for girls.) My husband's mother helped out the kids, once her husband was dead. He thought college was "a waste and made people book smart and every day dumb." (And he frequently aimed this barb at me, as he resented the fact that I had at least 7 or 8 more years of schooling than he did. Asshole.) But, as my parents were both helping, she kind of felt like she had to.
Our kids have still had to borrow some money. Again, they got absolutely not a PENNY of financial aid from anywhere, I honestly don't know how freakin' broke really you have to be to get Pell Grants or other financial aid! Neither my children nor myself nor my husband ever got a penny, and we certainly weren't rich. Although, I do suspect both my parents and my husbands parents HID a lot of money (from their own children) and pleaded poverty, but the government knew they had money they simply didn't want to spend, and thus denied either of us Aid. Even with two kids in college at one time, and virtually NO savings, (as I spent a lot of time at home with small children and had more kids than both our families together) though, with the Bush Era anti-funding-for-middl e-class families bullshit, my kids got no financial aid. ("Kids should just borrow money for school from their parents." said Romney. It never occurred to this man that MOST parents don't have $50,000 to $300,000 just lying around to lend to their kids. Again... Asshole. Shows you how out of touch people like him are.)
Our daughter who is now in Grad School is going to be in a lot of debt. My hope is she can get a good job as soon as she gets her MS. She did get a small scholarship last year and this year, but it's a drop in the bucket, as only two schools in our state offer her degree (Library Science) and both are expensive. But, seeing as an Master's Degree is the equivalent of a Bachelor's Degree 20 years ago, she really needed to get the degree. I would like if my oldest dd would go back to Grad School, but she never really liked school after 6th grade or so, and seems content with what she is doing.
My husband and I will encourage our children to go to school; we pretty much expect it out of them.
But my mother was jealous of the potential I could have with a degree and my father is old school--women have babies and stay home....
My dad lied on his income, cause he didn't want the "govt" to know how much he made, so I didn't get any financial aid.
And someone made the stupid rule, that until you're 24, you can't reapply for yourself.
My parents haven't encouraged me to do or go far, I didn't get any help or assistance, no car, no money, no food. I just dealt with it, as is.
My father was very perturbed when I told him that I was quitting the family business and going to university. I was twenty four and had had enough of the long hours and low pay.
Both him and my mother now remember that time quite differently. LOL!
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