The New Intimacy

Do you believe a site like the EF Forum can really sustain new questions forever or after a while will it just be repetition of questions and comments, for the most part?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
We LOVE spending time daily reading and posting on the EF Forum. Amazing site and amazing "adult toy store", both. However, while we THOUGHT I had a lifetime of "stories", including the advantage of having a group of friends who DO speak freely about sexual things (thus giving me MANY peoples stories to share), we find that we are rapidly "running out" of stories and have "told them all" here. I thankfully had a business trip to Paris a few weeks ago, and got a FEW new stories to post (from a couple visits to some adult toy stores there), but I really wonder, with thousands of posts, from who knows how many people here, after a certain point, will every possible question not have already been asked...ten different ways? Are there really that many possible opinions on anything to do with romance or sex, or opinions on toys? Sure, new toys come along, new materials...etc, but is that enough to really keep this growing, and going, OR, is that the reason that the NON sexual stuff....the SOCIAL area, is now by far the most active????

What is YOUR say?
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Yes, at some point most of what gets posted WILL be repetition of prior material.
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No, there are enough topics and questions to keep this going...FRESH..for years.
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Total votes: 78 (76 voters)
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10/12/2011
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Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Yes, there will always be new topics, because we'll continue to discuss politics and current events, but the same old topics are already being repeated. It happens; it's the nature of forums.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
There's definitely a lot of repetition and I think much of that has to do with people not searching and point farming. I think pretty much every one of the polls is useless. -shrugs-

People have to want quality content for it to continue to be new, novel or even just useful.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I think that despite repetition, people's views and minds alter over time, and so what you may have thought at one point may be different now. That in mind, that leads to times changing in general. Talking about which side you'll vote for this coming election may not be the same as your answer 4 years from now. Despite repetition, I enjoy the forum and don't mind answering the same question more than once!
10/12/2011
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
I think it's similar to talking to a friend. I have a friend that I have known most of my life, we have never run out of things to talk about and probably never will. Sometimes we revisit conversations or topics too for a good laugh or because one of us feels differently about it over time.
10/12/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
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Originally posted by JessCee
I think it's similar to talking to a friend. I have a friend that I have known most of my life, we have never run out of things to talk about and probably never will. Sometimes we revisit conversations or topics too for a good laugh or because ... more
I agree, there's always going to be something to talk about because new stuff happens daily in each of our lives and in the world.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Just as there are only seven original jokes in the world, there are only a handful of original questions. What makes the difference is that there are always new people joining the site and there will always be some new event, product or something going at Eden to spark a conversation.

I think that's why it's really important that we don't just talk about sex in the community. There are only so many ways you can ask how people "do it".
10/12/2011
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I think it's a combination. Yes, certain things will be discussed over and over. But new products will come out and new things will happen in the world thus creating new conversations to be had. People will have new experiences to share.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
Yes, there will always be new topics, because we'll continue to discuss politics and current events, but the same old topics are already being repeated. It happens; it's the nature of forums.
I agree...on the SOCIAL tab. I was more wondering about in the SEXUAL topic areas. That is where things are already going into multiple repeat mode.
10/12/2011
Contributor: OhMy! OhMy!
There will always be new members to the forum, and with that comes the chance they will ask a question that's been asked before. The beauty is that no one shuns them here for doing so, and usually respects them enough to answer their question.

Secondly, while the questions may remain similar, it's the answers that will always be dynamic. Our opinions can change over time (like with products we love) and the people participating may be a different mix. This produces a great dynamic that you can't find anywhere else.
10/12/2011
Contributor: NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
There are always questions that are very close to others, but new members join everyday so there will always be a new topic persay.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
There will ALWAYS be repetitions on certain topics, especially when people don't bother to go through the search engine in the community forum. But that doesn't mean there's nothing new on all the categories, interesting questions pop up in our minds from time to time.

What bothers me are those new members (point farmers?) who post threads asking questions on toys, whilst information can be found on relevant reviews.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
Just because things repeat doesn't mean it's a bad thing. We can learn a lot by asking the same question over and over again.
10/12/2011
Contributor: -BillD -BillD
I think there will always be plenty of discussions, but originality will be lost inevitably.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
New topics come and go, and the old ones repeat a lot too. I'm in the middle on this, because I already see lots of repeats as well as lots of new topics.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
It's bound to repeat, but think of it this way. Peoples' opinions may change over time, too.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
There's definitely a lot of repetition and I think much of that has to do with people not searching and point farming. I think pretty much every one of the polls is useless. -shrugs-

People have to want quality content for it to continue ... more
I agree. The forums used to be a lot more fun, but now everyone is point farming with useless polls and questions that could easily be answered by simply do a search. There is no reason the forums have to be redundant; that's what the search bar is for. The repetition is from people not using that because they don't care.
10/12/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
I agree. The forums used to be a lot more fun, but now everyone is point farming with useless polls and questions that could easily be answered by simply do a search. There is no reason the forums have to be redundant; that's what the search bar ... more
I use to agree - and the repetition bored me - and think it's clear that many people who were regulars rarely post anymore.

But have a little different take on it. The people who have become bored and opted out have been replaced by new people who have found the site and are excited to take part. Expecting them to all search and be satisfied deprives them of the ability to be active participants.

In a world where nothing is perfect - this forum fits right in. I've learned to appreciate the contributions of newer contributors and still marvel at the huge age diversity from 18 to over 60.

It's a 100% opt in approach - so it's all good.
10/13/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
actually, one of the reasons why I've become so much less active is because I keep seeing the same question over and over again. There is once in a blue moon where I'll see a new post and learn something new, but that is pretty rare. But most of the time, it's just some rewording the same question and adding one or two more options to the poll.

I think repetition would happen a lot less if people actually checked that their question was already asked
10/13/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Ms. Spice
actually, one of the reasons why I've become so much less active is because I keep seeing the same question over and over again. There is once in a blue moon where I'll see a new post and learn something new, but that is pretty rare. But most ... more
SO....do you think Matter/Antimatter is proportionally more energy productive then dark matter ablation in a gaviton containment field, when considering FTL space travel issues?

HEY....just trying to give you a FRESH post you have NOT seen before!!!!
10/13/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
There are always going to be similar questions with drastically different answers, depends on the phrasing and what exactly is asked. New people have fresh ideas, experiences and answers. That is what makes the forum work. I have searched prior to a couple of my questions and still ended up asking about the same question but with a bit of a different twist. I got the answers I needed to know.

I think that sometimes when a question is repeated, the answer or answers the writer needed was not found in the replies or lack thereof. Sometimes what you are asking is not phrased right, the answers are not what you were trying to find out or others just did not care enough to provide an honest answer.

If I am not interested in a discussion, I move on and go to one I am interested in. Or I ask a question I want to know the answers to - forums aren't perfect, but neither is the conversation you have had about twenty times with your best friend, either. It is an area in which to socialize, get your questions answered and have fun interacting with the other users, a community!
10/13/2011
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
I think this forum reached its exhaustive point ages ago. At least it has for those that are frequent.
10/13/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I see the same questions over and over again. Not much new going on. Its nice to see something fresh and new here.
10/14/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
This is why I try to add forum posts of things that are going on in this world instead of just sexual posts. I know a lot of people disagree with some of my ideas and opinions, but it is healthy to debate these issues.
10/14/2011
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
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Originally posted by Ansley
Just as there are only seven original jokes in the world, there are only a handful of original questions. What makes the difference is that there are always new people joining the site and there will always be some new event, product or something ... more
Yeah, I agree. The nature of human communication of all kinds is that we repeat ourselves constantly. There are no original ideas, just variations on a theme. It's no more and no less true on the EF forums than it is in any other social situation.
10/14/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
Am I the only one getting a kick out the fact that, in a thread about repetition of threads, many of the answers are the same?

So: I feel that the site will live on for quite some time, because there is already quite a bit of repetition already, and it's not causing the site to slow down.
10/14/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I use to agree - and the repetition bored me - and think it's clear that many people who were regulars rarely post anymore.

But have a little different take on it. The people who have become bored and opted out have been replaced by new ... more
I don't think that using the search bar deprives people of the opportunity to participate; it simply makes posts less redundant. I see lots of great, original posts (I really like the new "Sex Fact" posts from Kayla, for example) in the midst of all the clutter. What's unfortunate is that great posts like that get lost between "Do you enjoy anal? Take the poll!"
10/20/2011
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
All new news is old news happening to new people...
10/20/2011
Contributor: aimtoplease aimtoplease
something new will always happen
10/20/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
I don't think that using the search bar deprives people of the opportunity to participate; it simply makes posts less redundant. I see lots of great, original posts (I really like the new "Sex Fact" posts from Kayla, for example) in the ... more
I mostly agree. Many of us have posted well thought out responses - but when we see the question for the 10th time, we don't feel like repeating what we've typed many times before.

At the same time I see people go off the deep end try to ask 'original' questions. Some of them are so obtuse and useless, that their purpose is meaningless.

All in all, I can live with both the repetition and inane posts because the Forum is 100% opt-in.
10/20/2011