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Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
I tend to feel extremely guilty when it comes to asking for time off of work; sick leave, vacation leave, emergencies...etc... I feel guilty.

I generally have to give myself a pep talk before I approach my boss and ask her if I can have a day off, even though I know that she'll usually just say that it's fine.
05/03/2013
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Contributor: stacylyn stacylyn
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Originally posted by SMichelle
I tend to feel extremely guilty when it comes to asking for time off of work; sick leave, vacation leave, emergencies...etc... I feel guilty.

I generally have to give myself a pep talk before I approach my boss and ask her if I can have a day ... more
nope
05/03/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
I work for myself now. Back when I worked for someone else, I never felt guilt if I needed time off because of a real thing. Heck, even when it was just a super nice day and I didn't want to be cooped up in the office, I didn't feel guilty!

Working for myself, it's harder, because each of my clients is like a boss and I do feel a responsibility to them. But I vowed to myself that I'd take enough time off to stay sane and so far, I've done that. But it IS hard to know where to draw the line.
05/03/2013
Contributor: sunflower sunflower
I have no morals. I am all for taking time off.
05/04/2013
Contributor: TJax TJax
I work in a team scenario. For a couple years I was a team lead. Those years I felt morally obligated to my team members to be there to support them. I found it nearly impossible to take time off myself, but never batted an eye when one of my team members took time off. It just changed when we shipped.
05/04/2013
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
I have no hesitation in taking time off work from my current job. We earn a generous amount of time off and the company encourages us to use the time. In fact, their policy is use it or lose it! So, I look forward to each and every day that I am off.
05/04/2013
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
Yeah, I sometimes do feel guilty. Occasionally ranging from extreme contrition to just feeling bad about not taking my favorite co-workers with me. Ironically I feel worse asking for sick leave than I do vacation time. I rare ask for vacation leave and when I do I feel I need it to maintain sanity and not overturn my desk lol. And when I do feel guilt, it's about leaving my team because I'm in a semi-leadership position.
05/04/2013
Contributor: VeganChick (is Gone) VeganChick (is Gone)
I feel guilty when I call in sick, but not for taking vacation time.
05/04/2013
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Heck no! If you're sick, you're sick, that's what happens to us humans. Everyone deserves days off even when they aren't sick. If you want to request a day off then I feel you have the right to do it. As long as someone isn't abusing it, do it.
05/04/2013
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
I am self-employed, but taking time off affects other people. I always feel guilty taking sick days. Vacation days that are planned in advance are guilt free.
05/04/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Nope. Everyone needs time off.
05/04/2013
Contributor: ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
Since working at my new job for 6 months, I've only missed work when I had a 102.6 fever. Even then, I tried coming in and was sent home. I feel really guilty and almost like it's not okay to take time off because someone else has to do my job while I'm gone.

Meanwhile EVERYONE else around me at work is constantly coming in late, leaving early, calling in, etc. It drives me crazy because I've never been even 1 minute late for work, nor have I left early except when I had the flu.
05/04/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
I dont. I just ask for it. Dont really care how busy we are. They can work around me not being there. My wife has a big problem asking for time off. Not sure why. I guess it is because her boss gives them all a hard time about taking time off from work. I have to explain to her every time, that family time comes before work time.
05/04/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Im not assertive enough asking for time off usually, even if I have it coming to me. I feel guilty about sick days sometimes.
05/04/2013
Contributor: HoneyBear69 HoneyBear69
yes
05/04/2013
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I don't feel guilty, I do make sure to try and not schedule vacations during times that I know will be particularly busy but everyone needs a vacation every now and then. I also usually try and give a couple of months notice before my trip so there is plenty of time to move there schedule around.

Also if your job is so stressful that you are afraid to ask off, you probably need a vacation more than anyone.
05/05/2013
Contributor: wicked48 wicked48
No I don't feel guilty asking for time off. I average 45 hours a week and I've earned the time off.
05/05/2013
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Yes, thanks to my first job where - when having to call in because I was so sick I was passing out every five minutes - my supervisor questioned my loyalty to the company. (My response was "How would it look to your loyal customers if you forced a sick woman to work and she passes out right in front of them?" He hung up on me, but I still had my job.)
05/05/2013
Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
It depends on the circumstance. When I ask for time off in advance and have specific plans, I don't feel guilty. When I'm sick or there's an emergency, I hate asking people cover my shifts.
05/06/2013
Contributor: Chelynn67 Chelynn67
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
I tend to feel extremely guilty when it comes to asking for time off of work; sick leave, vacation leave, emergencies...etc... I feel guilty.

I generally have to give myself a pep talk before I approach my boss and ask her if I can have a day ... more
I am the same way but it sure is nice when I do
05/06/2013
Contributor: rosythorn rosythorn
Quote:
Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
It depends on the circumstance. When I ask for time off in advance and have specific plans, I don't feel guilty. When I'm sick or there's an emergency, I hate asking people cover my shifts.
Same here, vacation is mental health days!
05/06/2013
Contributor: peachmarie peachmarie
I feel bad when i'm sick and take the day off, but if i ask off for time in advance then i don't feel bad, They have someone to cover my position at that point. Calling in sick leaves my position open and un-filled.
05/06/2013