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It's ok no I don't think its very crazy
Thank you. I have children near your age (and children younger) and I think it's really disrespectful that your father doesn't honor your privacy. I NEVER go in my childrens' rooms, without being invited. (Except the Little Ones to put away laundry, change sheets etc.) I never go in the older kids' when they are not home, I don't go through their stuff. I am sorry you have to go through this.
Could your family come up with a written Contract for everyone to sign, specifying Boundaries, Rules of Conduct, Rent (if applicable) Room Entry, Clean Up, Other responsibilities etc? Our family has done this and also put a job chart on the wall or refrigerator. If you are over 2 in my house, you will work
to live here. And, My Man and I will work
to maintain your privacy and humility and to help support you. As you would do for us.
) Families go two ways, parents need respect and help around the house, and children need respect and know they are safe and loved and will be taken care of. Also, Rules of what everyone is expected to do is part of the Concept of our family.
A Contract puts it all down on paper, so there's no "you never said that." etc. It has helped our family, with a lot of strong willed children and also strong willed parents get along.
For instance, everyone over the age of 16 is expected to have an income of some sort, as well as attending school. If not attending school and done with High School, one is expected either a good solid part time job, or preferably a full time job. School plus a PT job is preferred by us. Children are also expected to have jobs like helping with dishes, cooking, cleaning. Adults have their jobs, also, and also in addition to respect and giving privacy, our kids have to keep earning our Trust by their behavior. In return My Man and I respect and support as well as we can. After college is finished, or if they quit, then they can either pay some rent (if their income permits it, after school loans, car etc) or get their own place. We will keep them on our insurance as long as we can, as well as giving moral support and a place to stay, if they need it.
A written Contract really helps these things stay on Course for us. You might want to bring this up with your parents.