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misterazor
do you get antsy if you don't get some time to decompress without your significant other around? does he/she not understand this need and take issue with it? do you understand this behavior yourself? can you explain why you need this time?
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do you get antsy if you don't get some time to decompress without your significant other around? does he/she not understand this need and take issue with it? do you understand this behavior yourself? can you explain why you need this time?
this time can be nothing more than a half an hour of watching tv...but the other person cannot be in the room. i'm not suggesting that you need to be out of the house without the person, just perhaps in a different room.
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I'm pretty independant, but do cherish the time we spend together. We have a pretty close, fun bond so we spend quite a good deal of time together, but of course we need our alone time for focusing on a hobby or something just for us. For instance, he loves playing the X-box and cannot understand that it does not bother me. He's always like "sorry I play the X-box for so long" and I'm trying to tell him I
really do not mind! But when we get home from work (usually I'm already home when he gets here) we stop whatever we needed to do or was already doing (I was in the middle of vaccuuming today) and spend some time together right off. Sometimes it's 45 minutes, sometimes an hour or two. Usually we spend that time talking about what's gone on that day & then he hauls off for the X-box and I use my little bit of time to catch up on work (usually my writing). If I have extra time and am not working, I'll work on my book I'm writing or even come here. Okay, usually I always pull up EF first! Lol. And then I'll finish my real work and then work on a hobby, which is usually crafting something.
But yes, alone time for your very own hobbies, likes & whatever is pretty necessary and I think most people need their little bit of alone time. I juggle quite a few different things like EF, students, my own reviews, my blog, my writing & real work, and my YouTube channel as well as another part-time job, and those are all pretty tough to do with someone in the same room being noisy or something, so we have a nice routine worked out. And after we've finished whatever we're doing (him & the Xbox or him playing football with the 13 yr old & me doing some kind of work) we'll spend the rest of the night together.
And also usually we reserve one random day for getting home early and taking off on a mini road trip. We had our first mini road trip in almost 3 weeks yesterday! We usually do it once a week though, to get away from everything and spend some fun alone time, so it works out.
