Do you or would you spank your children?

Do you or would you spank your children?

Ash1141 Ash1141
Just curious as I know this can be a heated debate.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I do or yes, I would
35
Yes but only if it is a situation that is dangerous to the child (ex. Running in the street, touching electrical objects)
14
I have no idea what I will do when I have children or when my children are old enough to spank
12
Probably not, I will or do use other forms of discipline
22
No, it's not right
16
Other
5
Total votes: 104 (87 voters)
Poll is closed
11/12/2011
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Mistress Jezebel Mistress Jezebel
I'm not really sure what i'll do once I have kids. I'm torn between spanking myself because I use it as discipline with my slaves but it has a sexual aspect. It would be weird doing that to my kids...
11/12/2011
K101 K101
I don't spank them they're too old and the youngest is too young for that. I have spanked, but only a few times. I think there's almost ALWAYS better ways to discipline. I have never spanked with a belt or other object. Usually it was just a swat on the leg with my hand or a slight tap on the hand along with no no! That will burn you. Lol. Leaving a mark is not something I would do and I never discipline when I'm angry or upset. I always, always, always walk away and shut myself in my room until I'm calm and then talk about the situation with the kids who are old enough.
11/12/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
My kids get lightly swatted with my hand when they're not behaving, but I don't believe in getting switches or belts to them.
11/12/2011
LilMissSub LilMissSub
I wouldn't, especially at younger ages(My son is 15 months right now, he only thinks of scolding as attention, so instead I correct by showing and praise. Helped with cat tail pulling). I would not judge a parent for swatting their child's hand but if it's full on beating or leaving marks I am not okay with. I saw a women drag her miss behaving kid out to the car once and started spanking him and yelling while his siblings were crying 'please stop'. I reported it to the police. That stuff is just messed up.

I was raised on time outs, groundings, and scolding. It worked out for us, and I'll likely be doing the same but with a little more praise for good actions with my son.
11/12/2011
Ciao. Ciao.
I was raised without any spanking at all. There are numerous other ways to deal with a child's misbehavior and I personally am opposed to spanking children. It's your choice, certainly, but I would not do that with my own kid.
11/12/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Yeah, I was spanked and I do spank my daughter when she deserves it. I think it's a parents choice.
11/12/2011
Cherrylane Cherrylane
If I ever felt the need to spank a child I would consider it a personal failure on my part. I think educated adults should know better. It has horrible connotations for me. You wouldn't resort to that sort of action to "teach" an adult or animal. Or maybe you would. If you're that sort of person. Idk.

All I know is I wouldn't hit my dog. I wouldn't hit my boyfriend. And I certainly wouldn't hit a child. I don't really care how naughty or stubborn they have been. I'm not going to hit them just because I'm not clever enough to figure out a better way to communicate my dissatisfaction. It's just not an acceptable course of action to me.
11/12/2011
Sir Sir
I believe that I may if it was necessary and I felt that it was. But truly, I am much softer on children than I am on adults, so I may just reprimand them and withhold privileges.
11/12/2011
js250 js250
I spanked my daughter three times, but those times really got to her. She was playing on road, touched the gun cabinet (locked, but still), and ran out to the road. After that, just the thought made her stop.
11/12/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
If the kid is about to touch a stove burner or something, it's pretty much the only thing you can do.
11/12/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I spanked my kids when they were 'of that age'. My daughter learned early on how to stay on Dad's 'good side' - and that was the point in the first place. My son took a little longer.

I can honestly say that although most of the time it was warranted, I can recall regretting the decision. My advice to young parents is that early consistent discipline is better than letting things get our of hand. The older they get the more they understand how to manipulate your weaknesses.

When it's clear that the parents are in control of the household, children can get on with exploring their world within established boundaries - it's both saner and safer.

The goal is to have the discipline evolve into respect. By the time mine were in their pre-teen years physical discipline was no longer necessary.

They are 19 & 20 and still living at home as they attend college. We now have very respectful relationships, as adults they are free to do what they want - but they are always aware of what's appropriate. We really enjoy having them around - it's like the best of both worlds. We don't have an 'empty nest' and they don't have anyone telling them what to do.
11/12/2011
Tart Tart
This is a hard question. I most likely would not, I would employ other forms of punishment and reward. Seems like with spanking the reward is "not getting hurt" and I don't exactly like that.
11/12/2011
- Kira - - Kira -
My son is only three so at this point he really only gets time outs. I have smacked his hand once very gently when he was touching something dangerous like a light socket. I forget what exactly. I can only see a full on spanking ever happening if he does something very dangerous and even then it's pretty unlikely. Time outs (mostly) seem to work. I see no need to hit if I can disciple without doing so.

I don't have any issue with spanking so long as it is done with a light hand and for more severe infractions. I think spanking for any and every misbehavior is excessive and strong spanking is abuse and not disciple. Just my two cents.
11/12/2011
indiglo indiglo
I was raised being spanked by both my parents. From my experience, it was not an effective form of discipline, because it did not teach me anything. If I ever have kids, I don't plan on spanking them - but I do plan on practicing consistent discipline. I just don't believe in spanking at all.
11/12/2011
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Both my husband and I were spanked as kids and we spanked also. However, when the kids were young we read Dr. James Dobson's "Dare to Discipline" and it really taught us a lot about when to spank/not spank. For instance, we would not spank for most things but there were some things our kids knew were "spankable" offense - for instance - lying. Get caught in a lie and you'd get a spanking.

We probably spanked more than we should - but my 27 year old son says that he remembers his spankings and that he didn't get nearly as many as he deserved (wow). He probably got spanked more than our daughter.

I hated spanking our children - I really did. I did it because I felt it was necessary for certain things to teach certain boundaries.

However - we now have an awesome relationship with both our kids and I have to say that we thoroughly enjoyed their pre-adolescent and teenage years a lot.

I do believe spanking should not be done in anger or done in public and that the child should know ahead of time which offenses are "spankable" and which are not. This of course means you don't spank a little one (I don't mind slapping their hand and saying no).
11/12/2011
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Have two children, the thought would never even cross my mind. Luckily, they are a true blessing and well behaved.
11/12/2011
null null
I probably would, but I would reserve it for extreme situations. I was spanked as a child and think that they overused it as a punishment.
11/12/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I honestly don't know what I'd do when I have kids.
11/12/2011
wrmbreze wrmbreze
Quote:
Originally posted by Ash1141
Just curious as I know this can be a heated debate.
I have spanked my kids. That being said let me tell you why. My kids right now are 10 and 13, so they are at about the ages that it hurts more to lose out on things than it would to spank. When they were younger the threat of spankings was enough to change their behavior. There are some things however, that warrant spankings. I use them so that they will remember that what they did is something they should definitely not do in the future. If I am upset I walk away and either have my hubby deal with it or punish them later.


My kids have most of the time been very well behaved and not done much to warrant spankings. When they were younger we felt it was better to explain why not to do something instead of just punishing them for it. We only spanked with hands when we did spank and it was a very short period of time.
11/12/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
if i had kids, i would spank them. my parents spanked me, & i did what i was told. i'm not going to beat them or use a belt or anything, but if they were to act up, i would pop them pretty hard on the behind (after 1 or 2 verbal warnings).
11/12/2011
WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
It really depends on the child.

Spanking worked for disciplining my brother. Spanking shamed him greatly and the emotional aspect of it was enough to deter him from bad behavior.....not that he misbehaved all that often. He was a dream child.....

But then I came along and turned my parents' world upside-down. All terror and fingernails, I was a demon child. Spanking didn't work on me. Sure, it hurt, but it was very brief. Being sent to and confined in my room is what bent me into submission.
11/12/2011
TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
It depends on the situation and the child, some kids can be handled with just a warning, or taking away of a toy, other kids, that doesn't matter and they have to be swatted.
11/13/2011
Errant Venture Errant Venture
I've not any kids yet, though I don't think I could lay a heavy hand to my future kids.
11/14/2011
married with children married with children
They get spanked when they need it. They get warned first, then if they choose to not behave, then they get spanked. I see no problem spanking your children. Just as long as you are not doing it in anger. Alot of parents do not believe in it, but my kids behave themselves. If you spend all of their childhood fighting with them, or praising them, how will they be able to deal with real life when they are adults? You teach them that praise comes with following the rules, and punishment comes with breaking them.
11/14/2011
zwee75 zwee75
I never have and don't plan on it but I've learned as a parent to never say "never".
11/14/2011
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I don't want to if I can at all avoid it. However, I'm not completely against it in my own household.
11/14/2011
Darklyvan Darklyvan
Quote:
Originally posted by Ash1141
Just curious as I know this can be a heated debate.
I have spanked my son, though not for every little thing just the bigger misbehaving like hitting. Now we have a son who we constantly get compliments on how well behaved and polite he is. I have family who choose not to spank. Their three girls constantly fight with them, talk back, swear, have been caught drinking at 16 and 14, and the 16 year old keeps threatening to run off. I think I will stick with discipline.
11/15/2011
Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by Darklyvan
I have spanked my son, though not for every little thing just the bigger misbehaving like hitting. Now we have a son who we constantly get compliments on how well behaved and polite he is. I have family who choose not to spank. Their three girls ...
I don't want this to turn into a row or anything, but I was under the impression that correcting abusive behavior in a child by spanking them was sending exactly the opposite message: "Don't hit other people, now bend over and let me spank you".
11/15/2011
Ansley Ansley
I wasn't spanked, I was beaten as a child. The last time I was "disciplined", I was cornered on the stairs and pushed down and beaten about the legs, arms and shoulders. I was sixteen years old. Afterwards, I was then treated to a guilt trip about how my disciplining parent cried and cried and cried because they had no other choice.


If I ever had kids, I wouldn't spank them.
11/15/2011
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