Eye contact during a conversation...

Eye contact during a conversation...

Rossie Rossie
People who are socially confident like frequent eye contact with their conversational partners, those who are shy tend to look downward or away. Which one are you?
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I look directly into the other person’s eyes.
33
I never make eye contact at all, I tend to look downward or away,
6
I shift my focus all over the room.
15
Other ...
6
Total votes: 60 (49 voters)
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Rossie Rossie
I always look directly into the other person's eyes with a friendly gaze.
03/02/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I always look the person in the eye.
03/02/2012
snuggly snuggly
I look in people's eyes when talking with them.
03/02/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
It depends on how interested I am in the conversation. If I'm interested, I keep eye contact. If not, my ADD kicks in and I start looking all around the room. It's not really intentional, I just can't focus on one thing for too long, especially if it's boring.
03/02/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
It varies, but I generally maintain eye contact most of the time.
03/02/2012
jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
People who are socially confident like frequent eye contact with their conversational partners, those who are shy tend to look downward or away. Which one are you?
If someone looks away or shifts their eyes too much it makes them look rude, dishonest or totally uninterested in my opinion. Although, sometimes if I am nervous Ill do that too
03/02/2012
mlmac mlmac
I tend to make eye contact as much as possible, but sometimes I catch myself looking elsewhere.
03/02/2012
Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
It depends on how interested I am in the conversation. If I'm interested, I keep eye contact. If not, my ADD kicks in and I start looking all around the room. It's not really intentional, I just can't focus on one thing for too long, ...
I do that sometimes, when I'm engaged in an extremely long and boring conversation, I have to shift my focus all over the room to keep myself awake!
03/02/2012
humblepie humblepie
Honestly I don't find myself in many situations where eye contact is necessary - when hanging out with my friends, their eyes are on their phones, or on the TV (when we're playing video games). However, when I'm talking to a professor or someone at work, I make sure to always maintain eye contact.
03/02/2012
ap-the-aper ap-the-aper
I look people in the eyes on and off. It seems weird to just stare into someone's eyes for minutes at a time to me. I always look at someone's face, though, just to show that I'm paying attention. Except for when a person talks with their hands--not sign language, but with gestures. Then I look at their hands when they're being very expressive.
03/02/2012
js250 js250
I always make eye contact. The longevity of it varies with the conversation and other person's comfort level.
03/03/2012
Hibangel Hibangel
Eye contact is part of my problem. If I have to look right at someone, I easily lose track of what they're saying and my mind wanders. If I'm to understand what they're saying in order to answer, I HAVE to look away. This was a big problem in school. I wish society wasn't so adamant about eye contact.
03/03/2012
richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
People who are socially confident like frequent eye contact with their conversational partners, those who are shy tend to look downward or away. Which one are you?
I shift my focus all over the room.
03/03/2012
Errant Venture Errant Venture
I tend to look people in the eye, and sometimes their mouth, mainly because I feel it's rude to stare, but think it's also rude to look away from them. So I look at their mouth. Which is kind of weird, too.
03/03/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I shift my focus right behind them; I don't like staring.
03/03/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
I need to get better at eye contact I think...
03/03/2012
Beck Beck
I don't like to look in peoples eyes, but I will look at their face or something. I find it hard not to shift my eyes everywhere.
03/03/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
It depends on how interested I am in the conversation. If I'm interested, I keep eye contact. If not, my ADD kicks in and I start looking all around the room. It's not really intentional, I just can't focus on one thing for too long, ...
This, totally! It also depends on how much I like the person.
03/03/2012
plaidvulva plaidvulva
I typically try to make eye contact. But, sometimes, depending the circumstances, it's not needed. Especially during video games, taking your eyes off the game is a no no.
03/03/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
People who are socially confident like frequent eye contact with their conversational partners, those who are shy tend to look downward or away. Which one are you?
I want eye contact unless I am worried what the reaction to what I am saying will be.
03/03/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
In the eyes, with occasional glances away. If I focus completely on their eyes, then I inadvertently begin to glare, and forget to blink.
03/03/2012
Lady Hazel Lady Hazel
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
People who are socially confident like frequent eye contact with their conversational partners, those who are shy tend to look downward or away. Which one are you?
I always make eye contact. It surprises me how many people will actually feel uncomfortable with it. 8(
03/03/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I am not 100% either way. Sometimes eye contact that is too direct or intense is uncomfortable for the person you are talking to. That may be why many of us use our hands. It allows moderate eye contact without being too threatening - unless of course you are trying to intimidate, your hands can help with that as well.
03/03/2012
Teacookie Teacookie
i look directly in their eyes a bit then shift all over the room. In asian cultures it's considered rude, it can be seen as a challeng. ^_^ I'm not asian.
03/03/2012
Curiouscat Curiouscat
I look in peoples eyes but I don't stay there to long. Feels awkward to just stare at someone...
03/03/2012
JessCee JessCee
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady Hazel
I always make eye contact. It surprises me how many people will actually feel uncomfortable with it. 8(
I am definitely one of those people!! I get uncomfortable only if it's someone I don't know though...

When a stranger stares down into my retinas, it feels like they're challenging me to do the same... and it creeps me out! I definitely prefer eye contact from small to moderate amounts of time.
03/03/2012
Illusional Illusional
I want small amounts of eye contact, I'm very shy and easily nervous.
03/03/2012
corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
I try to make eye contact, but it doesn't always happen right, especially if the other person is moving a lot. My eyes tend to get drawn to hands; I'm fascinated by hands.
03/03/2012
Jul!a Jul!a
I try to always make eye contact, and make a game out of how many times the person I'm talking to ends up looking away, lol.
03/27/2012
Total posts: 30
Unique posters: 28