Facebook snafu

It was like a kick in the gut but I didn't cry and I didn't rage. It just made up my mind for me. I have a family, and it's as loving as we can make it. It is slowly becoming enough....it's hard to stop trying to be the good girl and looking for approval that never comes. less

Congrats on all the reviews

Now, I also want to like stuff on FB as well, but I know some people who are under 18 and I prefer not to subject them to that... lol. Anyways, I think my mom knows that I do this but we don't talk about it. Sex has always been a "taboo" topic for her to talk about with me.

That is another reason I really love this place; because there are so many wonderful people here. Sex is the thing that brings us all together, but I feel like I am part a family here!

I think the majority of people who are so against all of this don't even realize why. They were told that their whole lives, or they are scared of it. It's a shame, they are really missing out! less

Congrats on all the reviews

Now, I also want to like stuff on FB as well, but I know some people who are under 18 and I prefer not to subject them to that... lol. Anyways, I think my mom knows that I do this but we don't talk about it. Sex has always been a "taboo" topic for her to talk about with me.

That is another reason I really love this place; because there are so many wonderful people here. Sex is the thing that brings us all together, but I feel like I am part a family here!

I think the majority of people who are so against all of this don't even realize why. They were told that their whole lives, or they are scared of it. It's a shame, they are really missing out! less

"I think the majority of people who are so against all of this don't even realize why. They were told that their whole lives, or they are scared of it."

Precisely. People have a strong reaction to the things they do not understand. The things they do not understand are the things they fear. And we all tend to have a knee-jerk reaction to the things we fear. But we should not burden others with our insecurities by attempting to browbeat them into conforming to the boundaries of our own personal comfort zone.

I try to continually remind myself that all people (including myself) are naive and completely ignorant about something or the other. But everyone has the capacity to learn, to grow, and to conquer their fears.

So, bearing in mind that even your most annoying family members are works in progress, continue to unapologetically draw boundaries with them on what is and is not appropriate in communicating. Let your aunt know that her "communication" with you about this unfortunate event (for which you have already accepted responsibility and maturely apologized) has been disrespectful and that you expect to be treated with common courtesy and respect -- no matter how much she may disagree about your personal adult choices. Continue to voice this expectation and each time it is violated, simply walk away (figuratively or literally). People will learn to either treat you respectfully or to stay out of your life completely. Either way, your boundaries will certainly be respected -- whether your choices are respected or not. But I know that you are a strong lady who does not require anyone else's approval of your choices.

Oh, and congratulations on your 100 reviews! That is awesome. Upwards and onwards, I say. less

So ok I admit I am such a social site misfit that I liked several items from EF on my public facebook page...one being a full frontal cover shot of Buck Angel's Video I happen to like a whole lot! That one thankfully only went to the person I was actually meaning it to go to. The others blasted out across cyberspace to my farflung oh so Suthrun Baptist family. Without a nice "hey what the hell?" my Mom's Sister decides to inform me the I am not a sweet girl and that she is gonna pray that God "get's a hold of me and straightens me out!"

Forget for an instant that I am totally out of the closet about my religion (Wiccan); my lovestyle (polyamorous); the fact that I am, at this moment, living in my life partner's house with all three children, one of which is acknowledged to be his; it's the fact that I happen to like some of the most beautiful paddles available from EF that makes me a bad person. Everything else they can forgive but sex toys???? I'm going to hell for that.

I have finally had enough of my family and their shame inducing machine and I cut ties on facebook after informing her, on her wall, that it was a mistake and had she politely come to me I would have appologized. I am not a bad person...I am facebook illiterate but I fail to see why God would condemn me for liking a nice paddling every now and again! I mean c'mon these babies are BEAUTIFUL! Ah well I refuse to appologize for liking sex or sex toys and maybe this sounds pathetic and whiny but damnit I am tired of being told I should strive to be a "sweet lil girl" I'm 40 years old for fuck's sake! I am tired of being told I should hide and feel ashamed if people find out my 'secrets'. I don't have secrets, I wouldn't know HOW to keep something secret...that ability was beaten out of me before I even knew it WAS better to shut the fuck up.

So once again I am the black sheep of my oh so lilly white family...I have also achieved 100 reviews on EF. I think I'll focus on the latter achievement tonight.

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I took it to mean it's rather hard core for most Bible thumping idiots Kristi, but ya I'd like to go on record as saying Buck Angel is a warm, wonderful, amazing person who happens to make incredibly hawt porn. I love his commitment to keeping himself and his fellow actors healthy. I also admire him for simply being himself unappologetically. That's actually where I drew my inspiration from...I first thought it was that video that prompted the attack but I was corrected and pointed to the paddles and a conversation about condom choice!

Ya it was not too surprising actually and my sister contacted me all pissed that I had unfriended the whole family section because my Aunt was being an 'officious busybody'. I soothed her ruffled feathers and she was kinda pleased to learn that I was here at EF. She was the black sheep for many years for working in a brick and mortar sex toy store! Now we can talk shop. LOL less