Kind of a complicated family issue here and if anyone an advise, I'd appreciate it. First some background, I've been dating my gf for 4 years, but I was apprehensive about telling my family. We never talked about dating, sex or anything and I didn't start dating until I went to college. My mom discovered we were dating 1 1/2 years in, but I asked her not to tell my grandmother until I was ready. I just told her 2 weeks ago and she hasn't handled it well. She thought I was settling down too soon (we're not engaged and certainly not pregnant) I was "too smart to throw my life away" and when we went to see a movie after she said "it would be the last one we'd see together." Since then, she's stopped talking to my mom because she thinks my mom was hiding this from her and my mom is angry and passive aggressive towards me. my GF feels upset because she thinks she's a symbol of the problem. I haven't contacted my grandparents yet, but worry they wouldn't contact me back. She's justifiably upset that I didn't tell her sooner, but I always got the feeling something like this would happen. My grandmother can be jealous, especially when any of her kids/grandkids date and since we never addressed dating before, it wasn't a conversation I wanted to have until necessary. She made it sound like even dating was wrong, as though I was being taken away from her and the family. It just feels like such a no win situation, as though I have to choose between my gf and family, as though if I started dating between they died it would be a betrayal. This doesn't seem like a reasonable situation, I understand she's hurt for not being told sooner, but she probably would have reacted similarly regardless of when I told her and even if she hadn't this seems a bit much, just for waiting to tell her about having a gf.
Well, any thought?
Well, any thought?
