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Contributor: married with children married with children
has anyone else noticed that there is a lot of flagging going on? I have. It seems like when ever someone posts their beliefs in a discussion, and those beliefs are different then some other members, they get flagged.
I am hopping that it is just me, and not true. After all, this is a adult community, filled with adults from around the world. All with different beliefs on life.
07/10/2011
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Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
The only things I flag are when people step out of line and become offensive or derogatory towards others. If someone cannot communicate their opinion without being respectful of others' opinions it will, usually get flagged. (not necessarily by me, but SOMEONE will do it)

You're right. We are a community of adults; and by this time in our lives we should know how to interact with others without being rude, disrespectful, or hurtful.

And spammers. I always flag spammers if someone else hasn't already done it.

AND FYI to everyone: Only one flag is necessary on a comment. Once you see it's flagged, you don't have to do it again. Admin gets notified and they will address it how they see fit, and privately.
07/10/2011
Contributor: v23 v23
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
The only things I flag are when people step out of line and become offensive or derogatory towards others. If someone cannot communicate their opinion without being respectful of others' opinions it will, usually get flagged. (not necessarily by ... more
Wonderful answer.
07/10/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
I only flag spam, though I think I'd flag someone who was just bashing someone else specifically. I get annoyed with when someone flags someone who is just expressing their opinion, even if it's against the lifestyles of others on the forum. I understand being offended when someone says that a certain activity is completely wrong/terrible, but I get a little irritated when I see such posts being flagged or being responded to with equally-abrasive language.

And yes, I feel like I'm seeing more and more posts being flagged. It's sad...
07/10/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
How do you know if your post is flagged?
07/10/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by Ghost
How do you know if your post is flagged?
Not sure if a flagged user gets any sort of message sent, but the flagged post in question will actually have a little flag icon at the bottom.
07/10/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
As someone who's been flagged a couple times, I will say that you will be notified that you were flagged. If admin thinks that it needs addressed, they will also notify you personally and privately.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by married with children
has anyone else noticed that there is a lot of flagging going on? I have. It seems like when ever someone posts their beliefs in a discussion, and those beliefs are different then some other members, they get flagged.
I am hopping that it is ... more
I don't think I've noticed a single flag in the last week. Would you say they're popping up in a specific area of the forum?

"AND FYI to everyone: Only one flag is necessary on a comment. Once you see it's flagged, you don't have to do it again. Admin gets notified and they will address it how they see fit, and privately."

One flag may notify the admin, but wouldn't the value in multiple flags be in determining if only one person is offended or if a large number of community members are offended?
07/10/2011
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I don't think I've noticed a single flag in the last week. Would you say they're popping up in a specific area of the forum?

"AND FYI to everyone: Only one flag is necessary on a comment. Once you see it's flagged, you ... more
The number of people in the community that flag a comment should have no bearing. If a post is flagged, Admin should determine if it violates the Expectations of Conduct and act accordingly. It shouldn't matter if it's one person or one hundred, a violation is a violation. At least that would be my expectations.
07/10/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Kindred
The number of people in the community that flag a comment should have no bearing. If a post is flagged, Admin should determine if it violates the Expectations of Conduct and act accordingly. It shouldn't matter if it's one person or one ... more
I was just coming to say this and add:

From my understanding, the admin (in most cases Kristi) needs to follow-up and do work on every flag that she's notified of; aside from her regularly scheduled work. So, if 10 people flag a post, she has to look into each person's complaint and follow up with it.

The reason one flag will do is because, as Kindred said, the admin reads the post and determines if the person is out of line or not. And sometimes, despite how "offended" everyone seems to be, the person may not have meant any harm.

To put it in perspective, flagging isn't like signing a petition. It's not like the post with the most flags gets taken care of.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I was just coming to say this and add:

From my understanding, the admin (in most cases Kristi) needs to follow-up and do work on every flag that she's notified of; aside from her regularly scheduled work. So, if 10 people flag a post, she ... more
I was thinking more along the lines of priority. For example, if five posts are flagged, four have one flag each, and one has ten flags, to me it makes sense to address the multi-flagged post first, regardless of which one was flagged first chronologically. However, I have no desire to give Kristi unnecessary extra work and I'm glad someone brought to my attention that one flag will suffice.

For what it's worth, I don't think I've ever flagged a post. If I don't like something I close the window and continue clicking elsewhere. Just wish I could turn off the little lightbulb notifications for threads I have no interest in following up with.
07/10/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I was thinking more along the lines of priority. For example, if five posts are flagged, four have one flag each, and one has ten flags, to me it makes sense to address the multi-flagged post first, regardless of which one was flagged first ... more
I think they're worked in order in which they're received, but I could be wrong.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I've noticed several very hateful comments were flagged this week. I believe those flags were well deserved.

Being hateful in explaining your views is not an acceptable practice on any forum or site, let alone in here. The flagged posts I saw reflected extreme fear and intolerance in the content and were very offensive to the groups being discussed, it was also a violation of the tolerance expected at EF.

There have been, in the past, posts that were flagged as retaliation. IMO, that's just silly behavior!
07/10/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Ansley
I've noticed several very hateful comments were flagged this week. I believe those flags were well deserved.

Being hateful in explaining your views is not an acceptable practice on any forum or site, let alone in here. The flagged posts I ... more
I have missed these, and am thankful to have missed them. I love it when we can converse freely and respectfully.

We all have different lives and different ways of viewing the world. The beauty here should be (and has been in the past) that we can discuss them without negativity.

Retaliation flagging is just silly and immature. There's no way to be sure of who is flagging and if they're being retaliatory; however, if you think that you are seeing retaliation, please email Kristi at kristi@edenfantasys.co m so that she can look into it more closely.
07/10/2011
Contributor: ToyBoy ToyBoy
I have only noticed a few people ever get flagged for being out of line, spam seems to be more common. I really haven't noticed much flagging of any sort on Eden though.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i only flag stuff when someone goes out of their way to offend someone, especially if it's abusive. if i don't agree with someone though, i just deal with it. i really haven't noticed flagging, except in a couple cases
07/11/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
I wasn't even aware it was possible to flag a post on this site until I read this thread. Though now that I do know it's happening, I've just had a quick look and not found any, though I may be looking in the wrong places. I don't suppose someone would be kind enough to point me in the right direction, so I could see what a flagged post looks like?

Anyhoo, as I'm sure you've realised, I've not flagged anyone, and nor do I feel the need to, but if I were to engage in such a thing, it'd only be against spammers.
07/11/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
"There's a lot of attitudes going around here. Don't let me get one" - The Fantastic Mr. Fox

Posts only really need to be flagged once. That sends emails to Kristi. Flagging a message that's already been flagged just adds one more email to the To-Do list.

I saw a couple of flags pop up this week, but I won't comment on them. Let's just scroll up and find Kindred's post with the link to the Expectations of Conduct and read them again...maybe bookmark them to read when someone posts something offensive.
07/11/2011
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Okay, maybe I shouldn't, but I do occasionally flag once it's been flagged.

I feel like if one person flags me, they might just be being a jerk. Whatever. Screw them, I'm totally right. But if I'm getting flags from like ten people? Maybe I really DO need to check myself.
07/11/2011
Contributor: MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
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Originally posted by married with children
has anyone else noticed that there is a lot of flagging going on? I have. It seems like when ever someone posts their beliefs in a discussion, and those beliefs are different then some other members, they get flagged.
I am hopping that it is ... more
I did get flagged twice since I'm here, proably because I'm a very opiniated individual and I don't like being told my opinion is shit or unthoughtful. If somebody is rude with me I'll be rude with them and it won't be very pretty. Maybe I should refrain from having opinions here...

Also, language barrier make me much rougher than I should probably be. I can't beat around the bush like some people prefer it to be. I don't handle everything with kid gloves (bwah, what a translation, in french we say "faire dans la dentelle" which approximately means "shitting in lace" as well as "doing lacework" since "faire" could have been used in both ways) and maybe people don't like it, but I prefer being direct and clear than going sideways and being not so clear.

Also, one thing I hate: I recently got flagged on a post where the offended person said that she went aggressive on me first and apologized, and yet, I still got flagged for being "aggressive" (more like "I don't care, just chill, relax and don't get your panties in a bunch" than "I will kill you" kind of aggressive). Oh the irony. If the offended person says it was fine, and everything was solved, why flag on top of it? We're adults, no need to get moderators on our asses when the problem is solved and we got over ourselves... *sigh*

Also, Like Petite Valentine, "For what it's worth, I don't think I've ever flagged a post. If I don't like something I close the window and continue clicking elsewhere.[...]"
04/09/2012
Contributor: Forum Moderator Forum Moderator
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Originally posted by MistressDandelion
I did get flagged twice since I'm here, proably because I'm a very opiniated individual and I don't like being told my opinion is shit or unthoughtful. If somebody is rude with me I'll be rude with them and it won't be very ... more
Sometimes people don't finish reading comments before they flag a post to see if it was resolved.

You are free to express your opinions, but you are expected to do them in a nice and respectful manner. There are, naturally, going to be differences of opinion and it's how we handle them that makes the difference.
04/09/2012