It would have to ruin your doctor/patient relationship as that is considered unethical for a doctor to sleep with his/her patients. The logic is that a doctor is in a position of authority and power so the sex could be coerced or used to pay a bill. Also he/she could be compromised if he/she had to treat you for a serious illness or accident. The doctor could lose his professional distance and make a life threatening mistake or be paralyzed with fear. Where I live a doctor could be in jeopardy of losing his license if he sleeps with patients.

I don't have any persistent sexual fantasies like yours but I did dream about having sex with Spock once. Scared the bejezus out of me because I was an 'old married woman' of 5 years when it happened. I panicked and went and talked to my High Priestess and she just giggled and explained to me that women have 'wet dreams' too. I went to the doctor and he ran a hormone panel and that's when they realized that I had just gone into late puberty at the age of 25, which is why I hadn't been able to get pregnant.

Just a thought though, if your doctor is a sweet happily married man why would you want to hurt his wife? Has she done something that would make you want to cause her such emotional pain? You aren't talking about a man who has given you any indication that he is unhappy or looking to cheat on his wife, you are talking about seducing him. Do you really think it's a fantasy worth pursuing even if your husband would be ok with it?

If you want an open marriage then I suggest you start by looking for someone who is available to be in a relationship with you. A happily married sweet man more than likely isn't that person. It can't hurt to ask but like anything else sexual you could ruin a good doctor/patient relationship by talking about this. I'm more than willing to talk about either open marriages or polyamory, just drop me an email if you are interested. less